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It seems that we live in a fairly superficial society. Everyone wants to out do each other when it comes to romance. Who has the better boyfriend or girlfriend, who gets the most dates, blah blah blah.

I have this one friend whose boyfriend has a pretty good job. He buys her a lot of gifts and what not, though like for ME, that's never really how I've ever been. I don't particularly care for expensive gifts because I feel like I have to pay back the favor or something. AND I just don't like money being spent on me in general. But she likes it, it works for them, so good for them I guess?

But for ME, my boyfriend and I work at the same place, and so he does like a bunch of little sweet things for me a lot. I don't even think he really realizes he's doing them or how sweet he is. But like, heck, just today our supervisors were giving us candy (I still don't know why), my boyfriend grabbed my favorite kind of chocolate apparently, and then held onto it. Then later when I was working near him, suddenly something just pelted me on the chest, I look down, and there is chocolate, I look up to see who the flip just threw candy AT me, my boyfriend is just standing there grinning, he's the only one around. But think about that, he didn't even have to think about it when he decided he was going to do something nice.
For my friend, I can see why she likes the big things, it shows her dude really put a lot of thought into what would make her happy.
However I just like that my boyfriend is able to just automatically think "Oh, she would like this." When given a situation like that. I feel like it really shows how much he cares to think of me just like that.

POLL TIME: This is for both boys and girls, what do you prefer?

For those of you who are not familiar :

"The word polyamory is based on the Greek and Latin for “many loves” (literally, poly many + amor love). A polyamorous person is someone who has or is open to having more than one romantic relationship at a time, with the knowledge and consent of all their partners. A polyamorous relationship is a romantic relationship where the people in the relationship agree that it’s okay for everyone to be open to or have other romantic partners. Polyamory is the idea or practice of being polyamorous or having polyamorous relationships.

So polyamory is like swinging?

Not exactly. Swinging has a different focus. Swingers focus on recreational sex, though friendships and deeper bonds may develop. With polyamory, deep relationships are the focus, though the sex is often fun.

Gotcha. So, like, you have a girlfriend on the side.

No. That is something different as well. The technical term for that is “cheating.”

Six of one, half a dozen of the other.

No. The thing that defines a polyamorous relationship is that everyone involved knows about, and agrees to, everyone else’s involvement.

If you are married, and you have a girlfriend that your wife doesn’t know about, or that your wife suspects but isn’t sure about, or that your wife knows about but isn’t happy with, you’re not poly, you’re cheating. Similarly, if you’re banging the milkman while your husband is out of town, you’re not poly, you’re cheating.

Polyamory is defined by informed consent of all the participants. Without it, it ain’t poly. If you can’t invite your lover over to Thanksgiving dinner with the rest of your family because you don’t want anyone to know what you’re doing, it probably ain’t poly.

Poly, schmolly. It’s just a polite way of saying your partner lets you cheat.

No. Cheating is breaking the rules. If you aren’t breaking the rules of your relationship, you are not cheating, by definition..."

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https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamory.html#polyamory-faq