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My mother used to meddle too much and gossip bad things about my boyfriend. She literally made others believe he was using me for sex. He talked about him as if he was the worst guy ever. Her best friend at the time (an older woman who was also my friend) died years ago. She died believing he was using me for sex, for my virginity.

The reason he got upset and visited me less was because one day my mother herself said ''don't come, my husband's friend and relatives are coming over for a whole week, you can come some other time''. He close to my house already and he felt excluded, hurt and offended. So he got upset and then my mother got upset at his reaction (him not coming over anymore) and started gossiping endlessly about him. Then she insulted him on my b-day, issued him a false apology over the phone and continued being a fake person for years. His friendship with her was a falsity for years.

Only after her health started getting worst and this pandemic not going away, she started softening her stance and has accepted him by now. I told her the real version, which she questioned why I never spoke up for him. She wouldn't have listened. She only started listening to me now. It took him a long time (years) for him to finally forgive her.

So I’m in my mid twenties and fail to attract a man that I’d want to date. In HS, guys never asked me out and I didn’t get into a short term relationship/fling until I was in my early twenties. In HS, I was chunkier and didn’t look better until I was around 19. But even thinner, men didn’t ask me out. I go from being absolutely invisible to only getting noticed by men that I would not want to date. People tell me I’m cute and I thought the weight loss would help a lot. I feel so angry and bitter, if I really was pretty, I would get attention and have a pool of men to choose from. Beautiful people don’t have to try, are people lying about my looks? I don’t have a social life, I have had it up to here with people and only look through the apps. And don’t say that it’s because I’m using the apps, the apps work for a lot of people.