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I've been toying with splitting with my partner of 14 years as she is driving me crazy (and not in a good way).

She has always driven me crazy. She is moody, negative, nihilistic and she seems to only get pleasure from lying in bed all day shopping online for stuff she never uses and which only gets us deeper and deeper into debt.

I'm now trying to pick up extra work as well as doing two part time jobs to try to get us out of debt but I can't talk about any of it as she just starts to freak out and worry and criticise me for not making more money, or if I experience any difficulties or setbacks or minor glitches. She doesn't seem to see or appreciate the extra money that I am bringing in to fix the problem she created, or the fact that she herself doesn't bring anything else in financially to help.

Regardless of any extra money I bring in anyway we can't afford to do anything, even if I could find the free time. I find that I somehow need to find the drive and the focus to keep going even when she is whining about how bad our lives are and how it's all a waste of time, etc. etc. etc.

Of course there are good times now and again but not enough to justify all of the pain. But no matter what there is a part of me determined to stick at it and for the life of me I can't think why.

If you were in this situation which of the reasons in the poll would make you stay in this relationship. I think all of them apply to me in some way and some more than others. I'm trying to get my head around why I am still with her and I wonder what it is that makes me stay. Right now I really don't know but I'm not sure I can go on like this either.