Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!

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Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!



Give, but don't allow yourself to be used.


Love, but don't allow your heart to be abused.


Trust, but don't be naive.


Listen to others, but don't lose your own voice.




In life,


Sometimes you have to kiss a few ugly ducklings before you can meet your beautiful Princess.


Although the experiences we go through are often times unpleasant, they allow us to


learn lessons and take knowledge that we can carry into our future.


The newfound knowledge that we have can better equip us to deal with situations that would


have been even more difficult had we have not had that knowledge.


We have to be grateful for the information we attain, no matter how devastating it is.


There's no way to avoid every potentially bad situation.


The only thing we can control is how we handle them.


Men,


Please do not become a


Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!


1. Human ATM


A. "Bills have lips but they aren’t to speak."


The girl of your choice seems to only want to be around when you get paid.


Instead of seeing the time spent with you as priceless, she always seems to try to put an amount on it.


A girl that truly cares for you will not be concerned about what’s inside of your wallet;


but rather what is on the inside of your heart.


Spending time with someone you “care” for shouldn’t be about financial gain.


B. Manipulation


This girl doesn’t blatantly ask you for money because she’s very good at getting what she wants.


Your girl of choice gains your sympathy by telling you a sob story.


Before you know it, you are digging in your pockets attempting to make her "current situation" better.


There's nothing wrong with helping your partner in times of need,


But somehow the girl of choice constantly finds herself in same situations over and over again,


needing your help.


This girl doesn't seem to be learning from her past mistakes,


How can she?


When you always have your cape to save her.



There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump in puddles for you.”





Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!


2. Too many guy friends


It's possible that a guy and a girl can have a platonic relationship with eachother.


That shouldn't be of any concern.


The problem lies within the fact that she exhibits a flirtatious relationship with these men.


Even if your girl of choice claims she hasn’t been intimate with these men,


How is she gaining your trust and respect by communicating in a manner that disrespects


you?


A girl that has your best interest at heart would only speak to you in a flirtatious and sexual manner.


How can you feel special?


When she gives pretty much all men that same type of attention?


Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!


3. Cold communication


It is very difficult to gain contact with your girl of choice when she is not in your presence.


You find yourself having to make extreme efforts in order to gain her acknowledgment.


When someone has the same amount of interest you have, It wouldn't be a battle to gain


contact with that person.


When a girl really likes you,


You will hear from her.


She will not be distant.


She will be reaching out to you just as much as you reach out to her.


Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!


4. Rebound guy


Your girl of choice is fresh out of a relationship.


She clearly states she isn't over her ex, but has not given herself time to heal before


getting into a relationship with you.


Although this girl's intentions may not be to cause harm to you,


she will inflict the same amount of injuries as someone who


meant to hurt you intentionally.


Why?


Because you will be put through the same type of emotional strain.


This girl cannot give you the best version of herself if herself is incomplete.


Your girl of choice is walking into a relationship wounded and hurt.


This girl's heart can't be with you if it is with someone else.


Do not think that being with her will allow her to get over him faster.


That sort of thinking, can only deepen your injuries.


It is not accurate and it doesn't work in every case.


Your girl of choice is with you because she loves the comfort and security


a relationship has to offer.


She cannot bare to be alone!


A girl that has your best interest at heart,


will not put you through such emotional turmoil.


A girl that truly cares will let you know she has to get herself together before she can be with any one else.


Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!


5. Sex


A. Lack of sex or none.


Although this girl may have stated that she wants to wait due to personal reasons/beliefs.


It's clear to see from a mile away this girl is bluffing.


Remember, we are speaking about a girl who is apparently using you.


Someone that is "using" is with you for their own personal gain or benefit.


You have to ask yourself, do you constantly find yourself giving to a girl who


in no shape or form tries to reciprocate in any way?


See what happens when you stop giving this girl everything.


If your girl of choice is no where to be found as soon as the money and goods


stop coming, then there is your answer!


A girl that loves you, will be with you for YOU.


Not for what you have to give her.


Anything you choose to give this girl who cares,


would be a added bonus to her.


Your money and gifts would not be the glue that holds your relationship together.


B. It's all about sex!


This girl is polar opposite of my last description. She actually gives it to you (almost on demand).


She's a great lover but something about her seems quite distant and cold.


This girl of choice only contacts you for sex.


Since she seems to make no real efforts of trying to get to know you on a deeper level,


chances are sex may be all she wants.


You should not despise this unless you were misled into thinking you both would evolve into more.


Men,


Please do not allow yourself to be used!


For those of you that have,


Do not allow a few negative experiences


with the opposite sex to let you define them as a whole.


We are all individuals and should not be grouped together in one basket.


There are women out there who will treat you right.


You will find her someday!


Just please do not allow yourself to become discouraged.


On the flip slide,


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>> Ladies , <<


You will find that special guy out there for you as well.



The cure for heartbreak is to move forward by closing a chapter behind you and by meeting fear of the future with positive regard for yourself and your own worth.


Men, Don't Allow Ladies To Use You!
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