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My supervisor had a long grudge towards his HS bully, the ringleader. His bully used to punch him at times (mainly in the shoulders where no one can see any bruises), break his glasses, destroy his bike, humiliated him with his friends, shove his head on the toilet, etc.

He was terrified of that guy and then hated his guts. At some point he wished death on him. A decade later, the guy apologized but my supervisor cursed him out. Then by May 2020, his child (age 7) had an accident, had to get surgery and then a blood transfusion. The issue was his blood is a very rare type. Luckily they found a donor with his same blood type. The donor turned out to be his former bully. He helped out with some of the hospital bills too.

Both guys are now 36 year-olds and the bully was totally forgiven after that. According to my supervisor, there is no greater gift than seeing your child happy and healthy again. Now he feels bad for wishing him dead. The guys are friends by now.

Would you forgive your former bully if they save your child's life? If you know very well your child would've been dead if it weren't for them.

My boyfriend and I have been dating around 2 years now. He has been secretive about his history when we started dating so I didn’t find a lot of things out until almost a year in. It wasn’t major information but it was no reason to lie about/hide it. Anyway though, we have been planning to see each other again by the end of this week for many weeks now. Here’s what happened which made him cancel the plan:

His high school best friend’s death anniversary is today, and he wanted to go because he never went after all of these years. He gets very overwhelmed when he doesn’t see people wear masks and maintaining distance because his father could die if he had gotten the virus. Knowing this, he decided to stay for the event even though there were 30 people with no masks/not social distancing. He said he felt like he was at a moderate risk while he was there so he doesn’t feel comfortable with us seeing each other anymore at least as soon as we hoped.

My thing is that he could’ve easily left or asked them to wear masks to ease his uneasiness while he was there, but he didn’t. He tried to turn the tables by making me feel bad because I wasn’t understanding why he couldn’t simply leave when he wanted to do something for his dead friend. He could’ve visited his grave later. That’s why I think he probably had cheated or something of the sort while he was there because it’s simply not adding up in my mind. It’s just suspicious. What do you think?