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I am in my mid twenties and never been in a real relationship. The one guy I did date, I felt like I had to settle because no one better came around. He was a decent person but I wasn’t physically attracted to him. I was always under the impression that my lack of attraction from guys was because of my weight.

A few years later, I’m still thick but definitely smaller than what I was before. I don’t have friends so I have to use the apps to meet people and as you’d assume it’s a disaster. I mean I’m told I’m cute, some say pretty etc but I just can’t find a man. The ones I was physically attracted to only want sex and the ones that pursue me have decent personalities but they’re too short for my preference or just not attractive to me.

I see women often that are average or maybe heavier than me, with guys I find good looking, and really wonder how they were able to find them. I feel if I settled with any of the guys I mentioned I attract, I will always feel bothered at the fact that I can’t get the kind of man I really want. So that’s why I stay single, it seems permanent considering I’m only getting older and told myself this would improve as the years go by.

Considering she is in her mid twenties. Most women seem to get approached by men so it’s not fair that she never gets approached by guys she wants. She’s told she’s cute but maybe she isn’t after all lol

I’m going to be 27 this year and it kills me in so many ways. I’ve never had a long term relationship and knowing that I’m going to be this age with no partner or LTR under my belt hurts me. I’m just getting that much closer to thirty and before I know it will be a spinster. Turning 25 hurt, now I’m going to be 27 and considered in my late twenties. I have no dating prospects, I’ve used the dating apps but as you can see from previous posts no success. I’m working on losing weight, even skinnier I still had none. I don’t have any friends (online only I guess?) but that hasn’t stopped women, usually women don’t have to try to get a date. Maybe if I found the one then I would not feel this dread of getting older. Is this normal or am I just sad?

A woman gets approached by guys but only the kind of men she doesn’t find attractive. If they’re good looking, they’re usually flighty. And if they’re decent looking and nice, they’re usually short. She’s single because a guy that checks her boxes just hasn’t come along yet, she’s in her mid twenties by the way

Considering most women are approached by their SO. If a woman is never approached or only approached by guys she’s not interested in, how come a good guy hasn’t come along? She takes care of her appearance etc... could she just not be attractive? Honestly a woman should not go
above and beyond to find a man, the man is wired to pursue. Why is she single? It’s not her fault, especially if she has tried.

So back in HS, I would tell people my frustrations with being able to get attention from guys. I was chubbier and have lost weight since, yet I am always single and already in my mid twenties. It clearly isn’t looking any brighter for me. But back in HS when people would hear of my situation, I would get feedback from people saying “just get with anyone”. I attracted attention from a few guys but they just never checked off my boxes or I did not care for their personality/appearance. But because I got attention just not from who I wanted, people would suggest that I get with them anyway. That to me is just saying that I should settle for whatever comes my way, it’s like they’re implying I can’t get any better. Would you also be turned off by this “advice”?

I'm making anonymous available on this one. This gives the opportunity for some people to admit to it. There is the idea out there that this is sometimes done. But how often?

If you think you have experienced someone do this, how can you tell the tears were not genuine?

Later that night, she invited him back to her place, came onto him, and wanted to have sex, which they did. He said, "How could I resist a girl who cried?" Yep. It does garner sympathy, doesn't it?
In this particular case, it was not a problem. They barely knew each other and it wasn't to get sympathy or win an argument, not at all. But he was curious what happened. They were at a karaoke bar. He theorizes maybe it was a particular song that triggered some sad memory.
I'm asking this because I just had a conversation with my husband about it. His friend is single, has dated throughout his twenties, and somewhat now into his forties. He said he was out on a date with a girl once, and she started crying out of nowhere. He asked her a few times why, but she wouldn't answer, didn't want to talk about it.

I’m in my mid twenties and have never been in a real relationship. I will say all of my “dating” experiences have come from the apps, I’ve never went out with people I’ve met in social scenarios or school/work. I don’t ever get approached in person which is why I use apps. I don’t think I’m a 10, people (aside from fam/friends) have commented about how I’m attractive etc. I’m very quiet and don’t think that’s such a detriment to be cursed with permanent single hood. I do know for certain I will end up alone (not self fulfilling prophecy) but I just don’t get how I’m so unlucky. My dating life is as follows: the ones I want don’t want me back and only unattractive or decent looking shorter men want me. I do not want to be with someone repulsive nor someone who’s only an inch taller than me. Anytime I talk with someone good looking they either ghost, only want sex or are total jerks who play games. Is my experience as uncommon as I think it is? I’ve tried messaging people on the apps first but it doesn’t work out well.