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I'm in the first semester of college here in the U. S. Because I grew up in S. Asia, I have spent time in the past at a monastery previously, as is customary for many at some point, if they choose. I spent 2 years. Here, I became acquainted with a guy (1 of the 1st I met here), who's turned out to be what girls call a player. Actually, he runs around with a few others that also are. He found out that I spent time in a monastery, and asked don't people there have great mental discipline... to which I replied it is practiced. He said good, and begged me to help him. I agreed. He said a lot of college girls now are too thick, as he said, and wear black leggings while keeping a straight face when guys like him approach. He's tried to win against them, but he can't, and he's mad. He asked me if he could have 1 of his guys get a girl like this to approach me, and watch as I showcased my superior mental discipline to see how it's done. I said sure, as I'll help with anything. So the guy who set it up and I met. He got a girl (he said she's 19), to approach me in the common. About 5'4, maybe 160 pounds (he meant thick), had on black leggings. She asked me a few questions. I used every technique I'd been taught... but after 3 seconds my eyes went down, landed on her big butt, then upper legs too, a my jaw dropped open hard😮😮😮😮. It was because of the black leggings and too thick. I can't ignore that.😖. I was humiliated, so I looked up, but when I did, I looked right into the face of a really cute brunette-who kept her face totally straight, looking at me. I finally went, "ohhh, aww😖😖😖" and gave up. The guy who watched was shocked. I'm humiliated. I didn't think this could happen. Should I tell the guy the honest truth of what happened, that I can't beat these girls, that honestly... there's no way you can? He's the leader of those few friends, and he asked for my help because he can't win against it. I can't either. Nobody can. What should I say to him or do?

As a guy I would claim that the majority of girls/women use indirect language to communicate.

For my part this indirect language just makes me paranoid because I can't have a sure secured "YES" or "NO".

Why?

Is it to hard to be honest and say real things rather than wasting my mood, my time, my future and all my life trying to figure what you meant or didn't meant or else.

Guys like direct approaches so the plan is done in a minute.

I heard about Empathy and no making someone paranoid is not a good way to share emphaty.

I would rather say something rough but true as a sign I care and won't let down for something irrevelant.