I’ve been approaching women for a long time, and I can tell you that perhaps one of the biggest reasons why girls I lost and why girls lost me was because of simple misinterpretation. While it is my job to make up for mistakes on my end and how I present myself, I feel that not enough women understand certain behaviors from men do not imply what they think it is.
1. If he does not make a move when you want him to, it does NOT always mean he is rejecting you!
Too many times I’ve had it where a girl shows interest, but I wasn’t paying attention simply because I was busy, tired, etc. Then, the girl feels rejected, and when I realize it, I make a move next time I see her, but she rejects me because she’s hurt. Then, she comes back, but I would reject her (back in those days), and back and forth we’d go. Now, I just tell the girl I wasn’t rejecting her and it usually works towards a happy ending 😉
Here’s the rub: if a guy doesn’t make a move, there could be a lot of reasons: 1) he’s confused because you rejected him last time, 2) he’s still hurt, 3) he didn’t realize it, and 4) others. In my experience, it’s usually # 2 and 3 that take the cake.
2. Just because he’s speaking to another girl, it does not mean he’s into her and not you!
Too many times as well there would be a girl into me, but when she sees me talking to another girl, she starts to become cold, bitter, and some have even gone as far as saying I got a boyfriend to spite me because they were so hurt even though that girl I was speaking to I had no interest in or the girl herself had no interest in me either.
Here’s the rub: it is HOW the guy and girl are communicating that will tell you what kind of relationship they have. Do they talk about nonsense? Do they always walk closely together? Do they speak in emotional or flirtatious tones with each other? Do they sit closely to each other?
3. Don’t always be indirect – we’re not Charles Xavier!
A girl I recently fell very hard for was unfortunately very immature and she would always do very indirect behaviors to show her interest. Rather than just talk to me, or explain what is going on after a few months of BS - she kept trying to behave even more indirectly to get my attention when I told her I was done with her.
Here’s the rub: continuously behaving indirectly will make a guy suspicious and will probably put you into the attention or teasing type of girl (even if that was never your intent). The more distrust that is created, the more resentment it will cause thus losing the guy. If the game with a guy goes on for too long (without going out on a date or sex), turn more towards being more indirectly direct or just be direct!
4. Don’t play too many games, especially in the beginning!
In my experience, this usually applies to sorority or college girls, but post college girls have played far less games thankfully. Truth is, most guys will drop you the moment of any game playing as it is often seen as a turn off – especially experienced men because if a girl is playing games in the near beginning, it’s usually a sign that she will continue to play all the way until the bedroom. Do you want to run a marathon for a guy you just met ladies?
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