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MY mother, aunt, several female friends and my 1st year of college (worthless women's studies classes) influenced my upbringing. That's all I ever knew.

The very first thing my mother ever told me about guys (I was 4 at the time) was that I could tame him. She used to make me repeat the phrases ''I got the power to tame a boy''. Then immigrants (esp the native Spanish speakers that knew little or no English after 10+ years) were hated in the household.

So what changed me? Not going into details but I had an accident 3 years ago and if it wasn't for a Mexican guy, I'm not sure if I would be here typing today. He had a strong accent (spoke in broken English with some Spanish) but I did managed to understand a couple Spanish words too. I have him as a friend on fb till this day.

So let's say we're dating and you knew I was like that in the past (not anymore though), would you date me?

I'm not saying this in a way where i'm saying that i do or don't its why i'm asking the question, basically when i love someone or care about them i can't just let go, my first ever relationship i was with year and a half, it took me 4 years to get over him, while he had a new girlfriend within a week and literally didn't give two shits about me, and this has happened quite a lot, any relationships i've had where I've loved them or had deep emotion, it takes me months if not years to not hold onto the person even though i know they don't care about me back,
is this normal? Also it consumes my mind to the point i can't concentrate on anything or take my mind of it, all i can think about is that person and how they betrayed me or what happened.

Thing is i rarely like people and when i do it seems to hit me hard, also these guys told me they wanted me to be their future wife they loved me and hadn't felt this way before, etc so its not like it wasn't intense, most ended because they changed towards me or were abusive and just seemed like they didn't care anymore and they all replaced me within seconds, so unlike them its hard for me to just let go.