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I hate it. I’m taking a break, perhaps a life long one.

I’ve had a few dates. Never had a relationship or even properly kissed a girl.

Every girl I dated was pretty. I noticed they all had so much attention from men. Multiple sex partners. A lot of experience, with dating/relationships. Whereas I’m like 2 years older and had nothing.

I’ve accepted I’m not compatible with any girl. Nor do I want to be compatible with these women. It’s kind of a degrading society I think we live in, with hookup culture. No win society. I’m good looking, but I still have to put so much effort, it should be equal. It’s not worth it.

Single life unite!!
I want to hear female perspectives!

Women can get easy access to most attractive men in dating apps without even doing anything. Women get a lot of matches than men. And there are rich , handsome guys out there who get all the attention. Somehow it looks like only certain amount of men can get relationship from online and they are getting it again and again.
Example -- a 21 year old guy who is a student can never compete with a 30 year old guy in terms of resources. But earlier women tend to date from there circle. Now a girl same status of a guy can get more easily.
Note --- it's just a discussion.

So over the holiday my mother and I were talking and dating came up. I'm a virgin who never dated and not concerned about it right now because I'm focusing on myself. Since this was a private conversation and I'm close to my mother, I came out and told her that I only want to date another virgin and I'm willing to wait until marriage. She didn't go crazy or anything, but she tried to convince me otherwise, asked me even if she only had sex 1 time before you'd still wouldn't date her, and I said no I wouldn't. We ended up debating back and forth and eventually I just said "I chose to save myself for someone special and I just ask for the same in return", but what she said next very much insulted me. She said "well a woman only has sex when she's in love, and sometimes her feelings were't right, and you should be more considerate and accept it." It sounded like she was telling me to just give myself away regardless of what I want. Just give myself to whoever like a charity food stamp. I know she didn't mean it and was trying to help, but I couldn't help but to feel offended. I didn't bring this up because I still respect my mother, but this is what her dating and sex life was.

She lost her virginity at 13.
Dated a guy in his mid 20's when she was 15.
Got pregnant by said guy and had my sister at 16 then my brother at 21.
We still don't know who my biological father is because she was hooking up with random guys while living at some old guy's house, and that old guy might even be my father because she was sleeping with him too.
She's been married 3 times and didn't have children with any of the men she married.

Both my older brother and sister had their first child at 17. My sister is an overweight single mother in her mid 30s and my brother in being divorced for cheating on his wife and is running off with a girl he already got pregnant, and his child support looks like a shopping list.

If I'm going to get into a relationship, I want something that's special.

First thing, I don't know if such app exist. But I have noticed that people like me and many other virgins female and males (especially when we are older certain age) are finding it hard to date non virgin people or even flirt.
Many of these virgin people are just not showing in real life or telling anyone as they know they will be shamed.
You can see many of them showing on YouTube comments as it is more safe there. I have seen even a special group on Facebook for such people.
I was thinking, it might be better for us to have such platform where we already know we are both Virgins and unexperienced, so we don't have very high standards (wether for sex or relationship) for matching and we can learn both from our own experiences that we build together.
Are you for or you think it is useless to have such a platform?