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I can count the times on one hand I have “unannounced” friend zoned a girl. That is it was plain as day she wanted me but I didn’t feel the same way. But I was nice to her because I liked her and didn’t want to crush her feelings with outright rejecting her.

But in hindsight I know that not speaking up is the worse thing you can do to someone. In the last 10 years I have explicitly yet tactfully told a few women that I wasn’t interested but I respected them so I was being honest. I also make sure to say this early to avoid them getting their hopes up. I do this because this is how I WISH I was treated in my youth. Most women are horrible at how they friendzone guys.

But anyway there were a few girls in college I probably could of dated if I was so picky about things. I remember I liked a girl in my finance class and she definitely liked me. But she one day road to class with a long board. I got this stupid stereotype stuck in my head that she was a “skater chic” and after that I didn’t give her any more romantic attention. Just said a quick hi and even I turned down a opportunity when she asked me to hang out one time. I regret that. She might of been very awesome in other ways. She was cute.

You are a beautiful girl and you know this, not because you're conceited, but because you are reminded by others often, perhaps even approached by a lot of guys. If this happens to you a lot than answer the following.

Do you get sick of guys asking you out in public because so many scumbags, perverts , creeps, or aggressive men have made it to where you already built to say no, hurting every guys chances of getting your number. In other words, are chances low for a guy to succeed on some level because too many bad experiences made the idea of approaching girls, not ideal anymore and results in not even wanting to be asked out, in general? Or is it still okay to try? Would you rather be asked I'm person in public, or in your social media inbox? Neither?

If you do not mind being approached, obviously in an appropriate way what is the best way to do it?

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I created this approach to test on the field:

"the low risk low reward"

Which is basically the following steps 1. Approaching someone out of their league 2. confessing attraction 3. Immediately admitting he knows his chances are slim to none 4. Explaining his goal: which is not exactly to acquire your phone number or Ig but to learn and cushion the rejection, the attempt was experimental, to gain experience, tips for future attempts with other women.
The guy who approaches believes if he could survive, gain experience, and be able say friends he legitimately asked the hottest girl out, the attempt would be a success just from the Knowledge and experience alone
5. Wait for response (saying all that shit before she can say no.) this approach was formally called " the Shoot yourself in the foot "

before answering, would this nullify the confidence level that women are drawn to? or would you respect his attempt in trying to approach women in kind fashion and wish him luck, is it weird to bein friend, non romantic

How do I ask a girl out who is really attractive and be able to continue?