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I’m 41 and I’m still in excellent shape. Reason being I exercise daily and I usually stick to a very healthy diet.

Anyway I became more self conscious about not showing my body off in pics or in public by my mid 30s. I don’t really feel comfortable going shirtless even at a beach/pool.

I do have one shirtless pic showing my abs off but it’s never something I will show a woman right away. I usually will show it once if she shows me a few suggestive pics (I don’t like nudes tbh but it’s nice to see what kind of body she has). Definitely not something I keep on social media though

Anyway I am well aware of the “creep” element guys my age have to watch out for. We got a lot less leeway vs guys in their early 20s on all of this.

But at the same time I’m wondering if I’m sometimes shortchanging myself by keeping an attractive asset I still have hidden. Is there a way to let a woman know about this without looking immature/creepy?

And yes I am well aware how women care about personality, drive, humor, money etc. Don’t need a lecture of on that. But this is one thing that can make me go from a 7 to an 8 on a pure physical attraction scale. But if done wrong it can look very bad.

I very rarely get matches. After 3 weeks on hinge I got 0 matches. After 3 weeks on Hily I got 12 matches but only one replied but is always too "busy" to talk to me and she lives in a foreign country. On Bumble I got about 5 matches in a month and only 2 messaged me, both only wanted friendship. On Badoo I got 10 matches, only 4replied, 2 were from a foreign country and one was only there to sell nudes and the other only replied once then ghosted. On average I get maybe 1-3 matches a week on any dating app but 0 replies. This pattern persists regardless if it's a casual app like Tinder or a more serious app like POF or OKCupid. I always introduce myself by saying something relevant to their profile. (ie: Woah you're in Korea in that pic? Awesome I lived there for a year myself! What year did you visit?) Alas my messages are always left on read or unread. On the rare occasions that I do receive a reply it's the first and the last or the girl turns out to be a content seller. On even rarer occasions she reveals to me that she's only looking for friends and that I seemed nice. Then she follows up by telling me how great I am and how I'll easily find someone great. Spoiler alert... I never do. I can count on one hand how many actual dates I've gotten and only one ever became a relationship. This pattern is the same when I meet people in person as well.

My profile typically looks as follows:

About me:

I'm a history buff, an artist, and a gamer and I love cooking and creating YouTube videos.

I'm very open-minded, introverted, nerdy, intellectual, honest, kind, and polite and I am a great conversationalist. I love long and meaningful discussions!

Attributes:

Sign: Taurus

Religion: Agnostic

Age: 31

Ethnicity: Black

Height: 6'2"

Children: None

Smoke: No

Drink: Socially

Looking for: Dating/Serious relationship