Would you date me? If not why?

[jabariw18]

I very rarely get matches. After 3 weeks on hinge I got 0 matches. After 3 weeks on Hily I got 12 matches but only one replied but is always too "busy" to talk to me and she lives in a foreign country. On Bumble I got about 5 matches in a month and only 2 messaged me, both only wanted friendship. On Badoo I got 10 matches, only 4replied, 2 were from a foreign country and one was only there to sell nudes and the other only replied once then ghosted. On average I get maybe 1-3 matches a week on any dating app but 0 replies. This pattern persists regardless if it's a casual app like Tinder or a more serious app like POF or OKCupid. I always introduce myself by saying something relevant to their profile. (ie: Woah you're in Korea in that pic? Awesome I lived there for a year myself! What year did you visit?) Alas my messages are always left on read or unread. On the rare occasions that I do receive a reply it's the first and the last or the girl turns out to be a content seller. On even rarer occasions she reveals to me that she's only looking for friends and that I seemed nice. Then she follows up by telling me how great I am and how I'll easily find someone great. Spoiler alert... I never do. I can count on one hand how many actual dates I've gotten and only one ever became a relationship. This pattern is the same when I meet people in person as well.

My profile typically looks as follows:

About me:

I'm a history buff, an artist, and a gamer and I love cooking and creating YouTube videos.

I'm very open-minded, introverted, nerdy, intellectual, honest, kind, and polite and I am a great conversationalist. I love long and meaningful discussions!

Attributes:

Sign: Taurus

Religion: Agnostic

Age: 31

Ethnicity: Black

Height: 6'2"

Children: None

Smoke: No

Drink: Socially

Looking for: Dating/Serious relationship

Yes I'd swipe right, you're cute!

Yes I'd swipe right, you seem nice!

Both A and B

I'd swipe left, I don't find you attractive... sorry!

I'd swipe left, your interests/hobbies and personality aren't really my type

Both D and E

Other (please comment below)

[AsaKyo]

Alright, let me tell you my dude. I think you're a very nice looking dude and your interests really align a lot with my own, and that's kind of where I feel like things are going South.

I think it's that on dating apps, you mostly run into whores or people who just wanna fuck around, wanting nothing serious, which is why I don't use them cause' I'm not about that life and from the looks of it, neither are you.

I think what you should do is if you do wanna meet someone online, meet them somewhere where everyone has a common interests in things you like. That way you'll find more people you have things in common with and will have more to talk about and can possibly get to know better. Or if you wanna find people irl, I'm sure there's groups you can join that also have things you're interested in. I think that's the best thing to do.

[jabariw18]

Well firstly thank you for the kind words and yeah you're right. I do think dating apps tend to attract lower quality women. However I do find ones who seem nice. Their profile indicates compatible personalities and interests. Problem is, they always promptly swipe me left.

[Twalli]

You're a dude, I'm a dude, I'm straight, and I hae a girlfriend. Having said all that I think we'd get along. You're a history buff, I have a degree in history. I don't have much expierecne in art beyond the written word. I am not good at cooking, but I don't dislike it. I am never hungry so I don't really keep in practice. I am not a hardcore gamer but I do play games somewhat regularly (an hour or so each day).

[RolandCuthbert]

?

Dude. . . where are you trying to get a date?

Who are you trying to get a date with?

Because if you are using Badoo. . . your inbox would be so full, you wouldn't be able respond to anyone.

[jabariw18]

I mentioned all apps that I use (including Badoo) in my OP.

[RolandCuthbert]

Sir, I have used badoo. And I am fat and ugly.

I think you are being a little too picky.

[jabariw18]

Umm no. I swipe like 50% of people right easily.

[RolandCuthbert]

I don't know what to say sir.

I am not even considered a five here at GaG.

I never had a problem finding a date, especially after realizing how easy men have it.

To All the Men Who Think They Have Been Friendzoned, Passed Over, etc. Here is a Little Advice... ↗

[Guy13]

I don’t do those dating apps. Waste of money and time. Real people work best for me. www.meetup.com.

[Guy13]

Indoor soccer is good and all the Dingles events. Other interests snd hobbies etc

[jabariw18]

Yeah I've been looking into meetup. Just hard to find events in my area that I'm interested and/or aren't mostly men. Or full of middle aged women.

[Guy13]

It has been the friends of the friends. Lots of single “soccer Mom” types though. And I’m tired of the bar too…. I’ve gotten Business from political cloud etc.
it’s a lateral Time movement except people are real. And “single friends of friends”. At least people contact. I do book clubs and drop by women only meets at a brewery and sit outdoors with them”(3 months of accidental being there” etc.

[Light909090]

What are you gay or something?
I’m not a chick so no
Plus You don’t give off a very good Vibe either If I saw you I wouldn’t wanna mess with you

[jabariw18]

Um first of all, wtf? Why would you assume I'm gay after that post lmao. Secondly, what vibe do I give off? I'm smiling in both of my photos. No middle fingers or anything. I'm confused.

[Sandeeppingping]

Yes babe let's give each other aids😍😍♥️

[ProVox]

Exact same goes for me. Something's up.