How do you react/feel when you're "Left On Read"?

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I'm B at first the i turn into A.. How do you react/feel when you're " Left On Read "?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't like it when people leave me on read because of how its kind of like abruptly walking away from a conversation. In person that can definitely come across as weird or rude. I understand people can be too busy to text back immediately. But if they've left me on read for days and I get vibes that they don't want to talk to me; I'd rather them save time and just tell me straight up how they feel. No matter how rude they come across as. I'll still respect their honesty.

VaibhavSankpal · Accepted Answer

I have ten other things to do.. If she cares for you, she'll respond. If she doesn't, then you better don't care about her. :-) She probably doesn't know your worth. Simple!

SodaCheeks · Accepted Answer

I'd be disappointed and try again. If it happens again I'd get a bit angry, because I find it rude - if you don't want me to talk to you, just grow some balls and say so.

sensualquinoa · Accepted Answer

I do have anxiety which makes it hard to blow it off but I've really been working on staying calm and reminding myself of all the reasons they could have left me on read

Anonymous · Answer

Some who i have always been in love with, and supposedly him too, we were kinda having a small fight over chat because we are long distance, and he never talks to me and doesn't care about me, at the first he was replying and then suddenly he seen my message and never replied, i waited for him to answer when he cools off but he didn't, two days later he closed his facebook which broke my heart, so i went to talk to him and check on him on instagram, he again did the same thing, he told me that HIS MUM asked him not to talk to anyone to his old friend back in his country, it really hurt me, and i said how can you swtich it off like that without telling me, i got so worried about him , he just saw my messages and never replied, a month, 2 , 3 never replied, and i knew that he doesn't care about me,, only for him 8 months later asked our mutual friend about me, and by that time i already met someone new,, and when he knew he said " oh i am so sad now, i regret what i did".. i still care about him, but it was so rude and heartles the way he ended things with me,, dont you agree? he is not worth keep thinking about him, right?

Anonymous · Answer

It honestly depends on what was written and who it is I'm talking to.

If it's something I need an answer to straight away yeah I do get annoyed or if it's a guy I like and the message was something I expect a reply to then yeah I do.

I get over it quick though and half the time forget I messaged them when they eventually reply.

I understand that sometimes people (because I do it myself sometimes) open messages when they don't have time to reply or once they have read it need time to reply properly and think about what they want to say back. Sometimes people just aren't in the mood to talk either so I think about those things when after I get over my initial annoyance at the situation :-)

Anonymous · Answer

There is a reason for this, that is down to the way the app or website works. Usually it is not deliberate!

I use KIK to communicate with my boyfriend, brother and mum. I use a Samsung Tab4. If I leave KIK running, and a conversation is open, ANY message that comes through from that person will automatically be marked as read, EVEN IF I HAVE NOT SEEN IT. In effect, I am leaving them on read, even though it was not intentional.

All sites that have SENT, DELIVERED, READ functions do the same thing.

silverqueen · Answer

I can relate. Sometimes I don’t wanna talk (not necessarily having to do with that person), or they’re just busy. Just because they read your message and didn’t reply doesn’t mean they don’t like you.

But if you’re wondering whether they have a crush on you and leave you on read, then yes there must be something going on (ie they might not like you) because it’s a universal “rule” that leaving someone on read is kind of telling them that you’re not interested in talking to them.

SirBunBun · Answer

I try to see the best in people and assume they’re busy, but it does make me a bit sad.
I usually check back in a few hours and sometimes they still replied and other times not.
And I try to just make up a scenario that explains it in their favor., it’s a weird defense mechanism I have

sugarette · Answer

It feels bad. More than that, I doubt myself. I start thinking of what could've pushed that person not to talk. When I realize that I'm the only one asking questions and genuinely interested in talking, I step back once in a while. I stay quiet and I notice whether that person has something to talk about or not. If they don't, well, the conversation ends right there.

This is of course assuming they purposely leave me on read. It's a different matter if they're busy - which I respect.

Poohbear2002 · Answer

I don't like that. I get people don't always have the time but I'd rather someone just tell me that. Because I do that all the time, i'd tell people of im busy or i dnt wanna talk so i dnt get why people don't do the same. It's rlly not that hard. Some people forget and i cnt blame that but it kinda gets me irritated

sarahhcmarie · Answer

yes
my stupid friend with a meme page kept leaving me on read because i jokingly said "im 100% more happy w/out you"
he knew i was kidding and he was kidding when he left me on open but i was sad because i was bored and had nobody else to dm at the time

Sawyerblu · Answer

How do you know she loves it? I’m just trying to look out for you. As a girl, I can tell you that when I have my read receipts on and constantly read your messages without replying, I’m trying to send you an underlying message to stop texting me. She could just be nice and want to be friends but fears that you want more.

LongWhiteBeard · Answer

I got breadcrumbed, then someone did some marleying on me, then it was Sunday night fever, but i got love-bombed, another person was submarined me, then i was shaveducked, but got sidebarred from behind, then left on read. I was so angry. But then I got gaslighted, benched, ghosted, ghosthunted, then I ghost em but got zombified, then my ghost came back so i did some caspering. Followed by some lining, freeclimbing, print some hoes, then someone was sexting the waters. All in a day

ToniMüller · Answer

I do care and I get upset. But I don't think anyone does it to hurt or make you feel bad. Sometimes it's fun sometimes it's just beeing busy sometimes they forget. Well in life it's about not complaining and learn to life with things like this. There is no moral codex for text messages like there is for restaurants or job applications.

keenybmr · Answer

Well I get pretty mad at first, ask them what's going on especially if its a long time. I mean I get that people can be busy but not that busy to not reply for days.

Then I just stop replying. Even if they reply, I won't care because it shows how important you are to them.

Anonymous · Answer

I try not to take it personally. It’s hard not to but then I realize that I do that to so many people too without even realizing it. Cus once you’ve opened the message, the notification will go away and it’s easy to forget about the conversation or that you forgot or respond

LRisen · Answer

If theyre someone you care about theyre busy and theyre not doing it to piss u off if theyre someone you dont care about why do you care except for some meaningless sense of pride. Sometimes there's nothing left to say in a convo, other times you decide to reply later. 20 years ago people didn't even text and had friendships

ISaimon · Answer

I just wait until they do reply. If they don't reply they are not worth my time. If they didn't reply in weeks but they have read it, they don't care enough and are a waste of time.

isweatergawd · Answer

Think of this like a see saw lol. I can't spell for shit but think of it that way. If you stop texting the person they will start texting first. If u giving the person attention they won't give they same back to u. I don't get mad I don't get even I get bored and start doing whatever the hell I like doing

SherbertKay · Answer

It is kind of annoying. I know they're probably busy or they like me and are trying to think of a good response but still. I think it would just be easy to respond or tell me you'll be back or tell me you can't talk. Leaving me on read is just dumb.

Randomawkwardness · Answer

Depending on what it is I really care. If I'm talking to someone and suddenly they leave me on read then I'll assume they're busy but if I'm talking to someone I really like and have been talking to and it happens, i get upset.

ForeverSingle28 · Answer

Ironic Because I Really Really Hate When People Leave Me On Read But I Have A Habit Of Leaving People On Read And/Or Delivered 😴 I Left My Own Crush On Delivered... I Don't Mean To I Just Can't Help It I Have A Problem

MsMusic · Answer

oh yes. my boyfriend in particular. Almost always leaves me on read and it seriously pisses me off, because I've talked to him about it several times. but then he leaves me on read when I try talking to him about it.

GalaxyEy3s · Answer

Don't look at the conversation until you get a notification about a message.
If you (or the conversation at the moment) is not worth responding quickly to them-- why waste YOUR time getting stressed about no reply.

jcampbell115 · Answer

It's one of those things I wish they didn't add to facebook messenger or other chat apps. All "read" or "seen at XYam/pm" does is get people riled up.

Snomandave · Answer

Depends how long. Less than a day.. eh theyre probably busy. More than a few days and its not worth my time worrying about if they dont take the time to respond if there was something to respond to.

maranguan · Answer

Depends on what I said last. If we're fighting, being left on read means I won lol. If I'm saying something sweet, being left on read means you about to get blocked.

sexyasianboi26 · Answer

I dont really care lol? This would be my reaction

Tasclearwater · Answer

Yeah same, it's rude to an extent and you dont feel very good about yourself!

Rangers · Answer

It's annoying. If it's just me sliding into someone's dm and the leave it on read, I don't really care. But if I'm making plans with a friend and they leave me on read for a long time, that's annoying.

charlesH19 · Answer

I will be honest and say two things
1. if you have the time to open your phone and read the message than what is another two seconds to reply "im busy" or "ttyl"
2. This happens to me everyday by a girl i am in love with

Jessicaml · Answer

It pisses me off because it’s rude. Takes a minute to text back. If I’m not worth a minute peace out

rgb008 · Answer

lmao I fucking hate it so much  like dont ignore me u fool ur phone is literally in ur hand takes 2 seconds to respond

oreodair · Answer

If it’s a guy I’m talking to I get pissed. If it’s just a friend/family member, I don’t really get bothered bc it’s easier to slap them

spartan55 · Answer

I think about jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge because Snapchat runs my life.

GnarCute · Answer

depends on the scenario, if its important then i get annoyed if its not i return to watching/reading my anime/manga about gay boys

gear_head · Answer

I've been left unread so many times by the same person for days... it use to bother me but I figured if you don't have time to respond but be on every social media then I don't have time for you

GoldenBubbleGum · Answer

Depends, sometimes if I was talking about nothing then I could careless. If it's serious then I feel disrespected.

Guxci_28_03 · Answer

Only When They're The Ones Who Start It And Then I Reply Then They Just Leave It. Issa Waste Of My Time.

ghostqueen · Answer

Same, especially during a conversation I really want to have. Sometimes there's nowhere else to go with a conversation though.

anmari2001 · Answer

That's why I like that gag doesn't have this function and nobody can tell if you have seen the message

chihuahuacow287 · Answer

same... i have a phone that can't show that but i still have it on snapchat, i would screa if i got it on both snaps and texts

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

Yes most of times. I dislike such people as I am straightforward person. When person don't want to answer they can say bye and end the conversation.

nayougood · Answer

No, I don't get mad but I do get worried of the reasons I could be getting left on read for you know?

Love_yourself · Answer

It happened to me year ago.. We used to text a lot.. All of a sudden she left my HI text on read.. I thought she might be busy... But she's been online for 2 days every now and then... Removed from my friends list...

MriPibbXtra · Answer

If it’s my girlfriend and stuff like that I don’t care Id assume she’s busy.

witherwing · Answer

Yes, I get really REALLY mad. That's like the number on thing to make me mad. 😂

Pink2000 · Answer

I leave people on read. But sometimes my boyfriend leaves me on read and I double text and tell him he left me on read. That only happens when he’s at work.

Eryxx · Answer

Mehh I don't care unless it's the person I like or I was talking about something serious.

cicchis0 · Answer

What's being left on read - somebody not immediately replying to your message?

ChloeStarfire · Answer

I don’t care because my boyfriend is a dedicated speed cuber so he’s either practicing or at a competition

i_am_me_you_see · Answer

I'd rather be left on read knowing that they seen it, then wonder wtf

SarahsSummer · Answer

I really dont care and go back to doing other things.

reixun · Answer

I go back to living my life and then if they hit me up again I choose between letting it go or bringing it up in a low-investment kind of way.

Welshman2 · Answer

Depends on who it is. If it's someone I care about then I get anxious but otherwise I couldn't give a flying fig

Shaorie · Answer

Depends. If they're busy and I know it I'll just nudged them later.

Máiiréad · Answer

Honestly, yeah... but I am guilty of doing that to people sometimes so...

Amfte · Answer

some times it's fine , I can understand the situation, if it's constantly like that , they yea it's annoying

Anonymous · Answer

If it’s not normal then they’re busy. If it’s happened a few times I lose all respect and forget them.

Queen_gamer · Answer

I get mad especially if my boyfriend does I get really mad. And let me find out he turned his read notifications off then I’m going in on his ass

Golden_Lights · Answer

I have never been the type to care about that for sone reason

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the message and who is ignoring me. For example if someone ignored me because the message I sent didn't really have a reply - I understand so I don't care. But if the message obviously has a reply like I'm asking a question then I care.

maiaan · Answer

Nah not worth my time to get upset i just treat those people to their same medicine with double the dosage 😆

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