How do you react/feel when you're "Left On Read"?

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How do you react/feel when you're "Left On Read"?

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I'm B at first the i turn into A..
How do you react/feel when you're "Left On Read"?

I get upset/petty and think "screw them"

I get anxious/worried that i did or said something wrong

I get sad/depressed because i feel unwanted

I don't really care and get back to doing other things

A, B and C

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VaibhavSankpal
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I have ten other things to do.. If she cares for you, she'll respond. If she doesn't, then you better don't care about her. :-) She probably doesn't know your worth. Simple!

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SodaCheeks | 56 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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I'd be disappointed and try again. If it happens again I'd get a bit angry, because I find it rude - if you don't want me to talk to you, just grow some balls and say so.

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sensualquinoa
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I do have anxiety which makes it hard to blow it off but I've really been working on staying calm and reminding myself of all the reasons they could have left me on read

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Anonymous

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Some who i have always been in love with, and supposedly him too, we were kinda having a small fight over chat because we are long distance, and he never talks to me and doesn't care about me, at the first he was replying and then suddenly he seen my message and never replied, i waited for him to answer when he cools off but he didn't, two days later he closed his facebook which broke my heart, so i went to talk to him and check on him on instagram, he again did the same thing, he told me that HIS MUM asked him not to talk to anyone to his old friend back in his country, it really hurt me, and i said how can you swtich it off like that without telling me, i got so worried about him , he just saw my messages and never replied, a month, 2 , 3 never replied, and i knew that he doesn't care about me,, only for him 8 months later asked our mutual friend about me, and by that time i already met someone new,, and when he knew he said " oh i am so sad now, i regret what i did".. i still care about him, but it was so rude and heartles the way he ended things with me,, dont you agree? he is not worth keep thinking about him, right?

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- Anonymous Asker
  
  1 y
  OMG OF COUSE I AGRREE! That dude is a coward, and he is definitely not worth your time! If u put that much care u should receive it back too!
juicyjessie | 204 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Master

1 y

There is a reason for this, that is down to the way the app or website works. Usually it is not deliberate!

I use KIK to communicate with my boyfriend, brother and mum. I use a Samsung Tab4. If I leave KIK running, and a conversation is open, ANY message that comes through from that person will automatically be marked as read, EVEN IF I HAVE NOT SEEN IT. In effect, I am leaving them on read, even though it was not intentional.

All sites that have SENT, DELIVERED, READ functions do the same thing.

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- juicyjessie
  
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  Thank you for MHO.
Anonymous

1 y

It honestly depends on what was written and who it is I'm talking to.

If it's something I need an answer to straight away yeah I do get annoyed or if it's a guy I like and the message was something I expect a reply to then yeah I do.

I get over it quick though and half the time forget I messaged them when they eventually reply.

I understand that sometimes people (because I do it myself sometimes) open messages when they don't have time to reply or once they have read it need time to reply properly and think about what they want to say back. Sometimes people just aren't in the mood to talk either so I think about those things when after I get over my initial annoyance at the situation :-)

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- Opinion Owner
  
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  If it's something that i was just making a statement or replying to something they has written then it doesn't really bother me I just assume they were finished with the conversation I rarely say and almost everyone I talk to rarely ends the conversation with a good bye or talk later.
Sawyerblu
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1 y

How do you know she loves it? I’m just trying to look out for you. As a girl, I can tell you that when I have my read receipts on and constantly read your messages without replying, I’m trying to send you an underlying message to stop texting me. She could just be nice and want to be friends but fears that you want more.

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- Anonymous Asker
  
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  Yeah, I mean that’s what I’m ultimately afraid of, I don't know in this scenerio since he did text me first and then 30 minutes later responded, I just have a little bit of an issue with insecurity. I mean if he starts doing it a bunch I’ll be super angry at him, mostly cause I feel like he may be too afraid to say hey, I only like u as a friend
  
  But this guy is my ex (I broke up with him)
LongWhiteBeard
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1 y

I got breadcrumbed, then someone did some marleying on me, then it was Sunday night fever, but i got love-bombed, another person was submarined me, then i was shaveducked, but got sidebarred from behind, then left on read. I was so angry. But then I got gaslighted, benched, ghosted, ghosthunted, then I ghost em but got zombified, then my ghost came back so i did some caspering. Followed by some lining, freeclimbing, print some hoes, then someone was sexting the waters. All in a day

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ToniMüller
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I do care and I get upset. But I don't think anyone does it to hurt or make you feel bad. Sometimes it's fun sometimes it's just beeing busy sometimes they forget. Well in life it's about not complaining and learn to life with things like this. There is no moral codex for text messages like there is for restaurants or job applications.

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keenybmr
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1 y

Well I get pretty mad at first, ask them what's going on especially if its a long time. I mean I get that people can be busy but not that busy to not reply for days.

Then I just stop replying. Even if they reply, I won't care because it shows how important you are to them.

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LRisen
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1 y

If theyre someone you care about theyre busy and theyre not doing it to piss u off if theyre someone you dont care about why do you care except for some meaningless sense of pride. Sometimes there's nothing left to say in a convo, other times you decide to reply later. 20 years ago people didn't even text and had friendships

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silverqueen
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1 y

I can relate. Sometimes I don’t wanna talk (not necessarily having to do with that person), or they’re just busy. Just because they read your message and didn’t reply doesn’t mean they don’t like you.

But if you’re wondering whether they have a crush on you and leave you on read, then yes there must be something going on (ie they might not like you) because it’s a universal “rule” that leaving someone on read is kind of telling them that you’re not interested in talking to them.

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- Anonymous Asker
  
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  yeah thats true, i mean i broke up with him and we are still friends and he contacted first, i guess lol im just paranoid shrug*
MsMusic
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1 y

oh yes. my boyfriend in particular. Almost always leaves me on read and it seriously pisses me off, because I've talked to him about it several times. but then he leaves me on read when I try talking to him about it.

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- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Sounds like a douche dont deserve your time
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  He says it's because he works a lot. I get that, but why read and then never respond?
- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Thats utter crap lol i work a lot as management and still manage to reply to messages
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- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  Mhmm I know. Someone's pushing buttons.
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  I worked 80 hours one week and still messaged him several times.
- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Exactly you know he's lying deep down
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  I've called him out on lying before. Giving him one more chance but I can't keep doing this with him
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  He's blown me off to go to hookah bars... then tried lying to me.. yeah right, I know exactly what he's doing and I made it clear he best not lie to me again.
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  Don't tell me you're sick and then have your friends calling your name in the background. Doesn't take a genius to figure that one out lol
- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Yh id just call it a day if I was you in my opinion
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  maybe. one more chance is all he gets.
- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Shouldn't need anymore. Put it this was if you truly wanna speak to someone youl make time
- MsMusic
  
  +1 y
  yeah true.
- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Your choice just my opinion
GalaxyEy3s
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1 y

Don't look at the conversation until you get a notification about a message.
If you (or the conversation at the moment) is not worth responding quickly to them-- why waste YOUR time getting stressed about no reply.

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SirBunBun
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1 y

I try to see the best in people and assume they’re busy, but it does make me a bit sad.
I usually check back in a few hours and sometimes they still replied and other times not.
And I try to just make up a scenario that explains it in their favor., it’s a weird defense mechanism I have

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sugarette
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1 y

It feels bad. More than that, I doubt myself. I start thinking of what could've pushed that person not to talk. When I realize that I'm the only one asking questions and genuinely interested in talking, I step back once in a while. I stay quiet and I notice whether that person has something to talk about or not. If they don't, well, the conversation ends right there.

This is of course assuming they purposely leave me on read. It's a different matter if they're busy - which I respect.

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Poohbear2002
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1 y

I don't like that. I get people don't always have the time but I'd rather someone just tell me that. Because I do that all the time, i'd tell people of im busy or i dnt wanna talk so i dnt get why people don't do the same. It's rlly not that hard. Some people forget and i cnt blame that but it kinda gets me irritated

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sarahhcmarie | 112 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Yoda

1 y

yes
my stupid friend with a meme page kept leaving me on read because i jokingly said "im 100% more happy w/out you"
he knew i was kidding and he was kidding when he left me on open but i was sad because i was bored and had nobody else to dm at the time

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sexyasianboi26 | 324 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Guru

1 y

I dont really care lol? This would be my reaction

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Anonymous

1 y

I try not to take it personally. It’s hard not to but then I realize that I do that to so many people too without even realizing it. Cus once you’ve opened the message, the notification will go away and it’s easy to forget about the conversation or that you forgot or respond

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GnarCute | 62 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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1 y

depends on the scenario, if its important then i get annoyed if its not i return to watching/reading my anime/manga about gay boys

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gear_head
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1 y

I've been left unread so many times by the same person for days... it use to bother me but I figured if you don't have time to respond but be on every social media then I don't have time for you

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Pink2000 | 354 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Master

1 y

I leave people on read. But sometimes my boyfriend leaves me on read and I double text and tell him he left me on read. That only happens when he’s at work.

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GoldenBubbleGum
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1 y

Depends, sometimes if I was talking about nothing then I could careless. If it's serious then I feel disrespected.

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Guxci_28_03 | 59 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Explorer

1 y

Only When They're The Ones Who Start It And Then I Reply Then They Just Leave It. Issa Waste Of My Time.

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ghostqueen | 199 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Master

1 y

Same, especially during a conversation I really want to have. Sometimes there's nowhere else to go with a conversation though.

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anmari2001 | 207 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Guru

1 y

That's why I like that gag doesn't have this function and nobody can tell if you have seen the message

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- shauniie90
  
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  Yh true lol
chihuahuacow287
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1 y

same... i have a phone that can't show that but i still have it on snapchat, i would screa if i got it on both snaps and texts

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- shauniie90
  
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  Yh mines mainly on snapchat. Proper annoying lol I've clear out a lot of contacts. Took ages
Being_a_good_Indian | 147 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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1 y

Yes most of times. I dislike such people as I am straightforward person. When person don't want to answer they can say bye and end the conversation.

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- Being_a_good_Indian
  
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  Thanks for selecting my opinion as most helpful opinion.
nayougood
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1 y

No, I don't get mad but I do get worried of the reasons I could be getting left on read for you know?

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ChloeStarfire
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1 y

I don’t care because my boyfriend is a dedicated speed cuber so he’s either practicing or at a competition

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i_am_me_you_see
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1 y

I'd rather be left on read knowing that they seen it, then wonder wtf

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SarahsSummer | 760 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Master

1 y

I really dont care and go back to doing other things.

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reixun | 187 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Guru

1 y

I go back to living my life and then if they hit me up again I choose between letting it go or bringing it up in a low-investment kind of way.

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Welshman2 | 52 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
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1 y

Depends on who it is. If it's someone I care about then I get anxious but otherwise I couldn't give a flying fig

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Shaorie
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Depends. If they're busy and I know it I'll just nudged them later.

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Máiiréad | 222 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Guru

1 y

Honestly, yeah... but I am guilty of doing that to people sometimes so...

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Amfte
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1 y

some times it's fine , I can understand the situation, if it's constantly like that , they yea it's annoying

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ISaimon
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1 y

I just wait until they do reply. If they don't reply they are not worth my time. If they didn't reply in weeks but they have read it, they don't care enough and are a waste of time.

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isweatergawd
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Think of this like a see saw lol. I can't spell for shit but think of it that way. If you stop texting the person they will start texting first. If u giving the person attention they won't give they same back to u. I don't get mad I don't get even I get bored and start doing whatever the hell I like doing

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SherbertKay
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1 y

It is kind of annoying. I know they're probably busy or they like me and are trying to think of a good response but still. I think it would just be easy to respond or tell me you'll be back or tell me you can't talk. Leaving me on read is just dumb.

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Randomawkwardness | 64 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Yoda

1 y

Depending on what it is I really care. If I'm talking to someone and suddenly they leave me on read then I'll assume they're busy but if I'm talking to someone I really like and have been talking to and it happens, i get upset.

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ForeverSingle28
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1 y

Ironic Because I Really Really Hate When People Leave Me On Read But I Have A Habit Of Leaving People On Read And/Or Delivered 😴 I Left My Own Crush On Delivered... I Don't Mean To I Just Can't Help It I Have A Problem

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jcampbell115
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1 y

It's one of those things I wish they didn't add to facebook messenger or other chat apps. All "read" or "seen at XYam/pm" does is get people riled up.

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Anonymous

1 y

Depends on the message and who is ignoring me. For example if someone ignored me because the message I sent didn't really have a reply - I understand so I don't care. But if the message obviously has a reply like I'm asking a question then I care.

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maiaan
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1 y

Nah not worth my time to get upset i just treat those people to their same medicine with double the dosage 😆

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Snomandave
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1 y

Depends how long. Less than a day.. eh theyre probably busy. More than a few days and its not worth my time worrying about if they dont take the time to respond if there was something to respond to.

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maranguan
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1 y

Depends on what I said last. If we're fighting, being left on read means I won lol. If I'm saying something sweet, being left on read means you about to get blocked.

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Luana1983
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1 y

But somebody has to stop the conversation. Otherwise nothing gets done.

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- shauniie90
  
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  I mean when i start a conversation
NYkid27
Guru

1 y

I get annoyed if I ask a question and they leave me on read but other than that I don't really care

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NovissimumVirorum | 422 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Master

1 y

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Anonymous

1 y

if its a girl I like, I stop looking at their snapchat stories. lol

Mainly to move on though

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Tasclearwater
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Yeah same, it's rude to an extent and you dont feel very good about yourself!

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- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Yh exactly that! How hard is it just have some decent chats lol
- Tasclearwater
  
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  Yeah, boy, i feel your pain haha
  It's annoying!
- shauniie90
  
  +1 y
  Just wanna crawl through phone and slap them with something 😂
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- Tasclearwater
  
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  I would support you through that haha
- shauniie90
  
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  😂😂yay thanks
Rangers | 386 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Guru

1 y

It's annoying. If it's just me sliding into someone's dm and the leave it on read, I don't really care. But if I'm making plans with a friend and they leave me on read for a long time, that's annoying.

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Jessicaml
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1 y

It pisses me off because it’s rude. Takes a minute to text back. If I’m not worth a minute peace out

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rgb008 | 1.1K opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Master

1 y

lmao I fucking hate it so much
like dont ignore me u fool
ur phone is literally in ur hand
takes 2 seconds to respond

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monicasagi
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1 y

I don't care much about it. Their life and when I will do the same its my life and my priorities.

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spartan55 | 283 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Guru

1 y

I think about jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge because Snapchat runs my life.

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Chris_Calm
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1 y

Welp if you write with 10 girls you just don't care if one or two take their time with replying or don't at all.

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Love_yourself
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1 y

It happened to me year ago.. We used to text a lot.. All of a sudden she left my HI text on read.. I thought she might be busy... But she's been online for 2 days every now and then... Removed from my friends list...

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- Anonymous Asker
  
  1 y
  OMG that sucks! :(, she's not worth your time if she's going to do that, you at least deserve a talk about it!
- Love_yourself
  
  1 y
  She's a good girl.. I don't wanna discuss about it and hurt her.. So ended it politely..
charlesH19
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1 y

I will be honest and say two things
1. if you have the time to open your phone and read the message than what is another two seconds to reply "im busy" or "ttyl"
2. This happens to me everyday by a girl i am in love with

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- Sawyerblu
  
  1 y
  Time to move on from that girl dude, it’s her way of saying she doesn’t want to talk to you.
- charlesH19
  
  1 y
  But we both love talking and hanging out its only texting when i get the cold shoulder
- Ms_brownybrown
  
  8 mo
  Some people dont like texting but prefer meeting in person
oreodair | 98 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
Yoda

1 y

If it’s a guy I’m talking to I get pissed. If it’s just a friend/family member, I don’t really get bothered bc it’s easier to slap them

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- Anonymous Asker
  
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  LOL YASSS
MriPibbXtra
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1 y

If it’s my girlfriend and stuff like that I don’t care Id assume she’s busy.

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DryJake2015 Xper 5 · Accepted Answer

I don't like it when people leave me on read because of how its kind of like abruptly walking away from a conversation. In person that can definitely come across as weird or rude. I understand people can be too busy to text back immediately. But if they've left me on read for days and I get vibes that they don't want to talk to me; I'd rather them save time and just tell me straight up how they feel. No matter how rude they come across as. I'll still respect their honesty.

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