In high school I had a female friend, who I also had feelings for. Her and I started talking every day, she’d invite me to her place and I’d go there every day after school. I’d started doing small stuff like put my arm around her while watching tv, or complement her looks. Eventually I grew the confidence to kiss her. She smiled and everything seemed like it was gonna go great, over the next couple months she said she didn’t have feelings for me, despite the fact we’d kiss whenever we first saw each other and when I left at the end of each day. As that was going on she’d ask me for rides to hang out with friends, so I drove her to another base and picked her up hours later when she was done. Except when I picked her up she was high nearly every time so I had enough and told her to find her own way there the next time she asked for a ride. She then started sending me nude pictures telling me to come over. Of course I did and we did it for the first time. That cycle would repeat for the next couple months. She’d ask for a ride, I’d see she’s high and I’d say I’m done, and she’d seduce me the next day. Well one night she nearly OD’ed. A mutual friend was with her, name was Madison. She told me what happen so I rushed over. Lexi was knocked out cold, puke on the floor. I told her dealer if I saw him near her again he’d be dead, and carried her to my car. Madison was with her in the back seat with a puke bag. Lexi started waking up and begged me not to take her to the hospital and to wait it out. So seeing she wasn’t in as bad of shape as I thought, we waited. I took her home, then drove Madison home as well. During the drive Madison told me I’m a good friend for doing what I did. Well, the next day I’m invited to a group chat. In there is Lexi, Madison, all Lexi’s druggie friends and her dealer. Lexi took all the texts over the past year and showed everyone all the dirt she had on me. They all made fun of me and I left the chat. That’s the thanks I get huh?
Honestly, this doesn’t sound like much of a friend. Someone that would not appreciate your concern for her and then give dirt on you to her friends? That is weird. Maybe she was sharing this “dirt” so you would feel like you couldn’t go to the authorities about the drug dealing and use. Either way, she seems incredibly immature and a bad friend.
How does this make you an incel though. Throughout my time here, I know what they are like and this doesn’t indicate at all that you are.
You don’t want to be a part of that group anyhow. They are bitter and entitled. Stay away from them and that name. Be the nice guy you were in this situation that cares about his friends well-being. Focus on that guy, not the incel rubbish.
Id also choose your friends more carefully. I wouldn’t be associated with anyone that is into drugs or likes the company of those that use and deal them. That is just asking for trouble. Best of luck to you.
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Unfortunately this is an example of the ridiculous high school antics that can shape someone forever, but only if they allow it. This girl, in my opinion was “young and dumb”. It sounds like you were a very good friend to her, and she fully took advantage of that to get what she wanted. Being a teen, it does make me wonder what sort of influence made that behavior ok in her mind. Maybe it was her upbringing, or even the friends around her — some people can become sheep easily. Regardless it was wrong of her and I hope she’s grown up a bit since then. I also hope that you’ve done the work to heal from that situation, and it doesn’t directly contribute to why you often come on here calling yourself an incel.
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What dirt?
Sorry but it sounds like you don't have a back bone. You went back to her just cause she sent you nudes.. now you're surprised she betrayed you? You chose this girl. A drug addict with loose morals. Why are you surprised?
Did you really think she was the one? 🤦♀️
She sounds like she has problems she needs professional help with. You didn’t do anything wrong. She lead you on for rides. Not all woman are like this.
This is just immature high school stuff.
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