Girls, Part 3. Am I the problem?

[Anonymous]

I moved to the states after graduating, I met a group of friends (4 guys and 2 girls) We’d meet every weekend to play video games and just chill. One of the girls was really fat, and that’s not my taste in women as all the guys in the group knew. About a year after we’d been hanging out the fat girl who I’ll name Emma, got in a argument with one of the guys. She had a history of being severely depressed, as did I. So I went outside to sit on the porch to comfort her, make sure she didn’t do anything stupid. Cuz I’ve been there before. I sat next to her on the stairs and she cried and vented. And I put my arm around her when she started crying and did my best to be nice and comfort her. Months go by after that night and all the sudden, she spreads a rumor saying I made her feel uncomfortable and tried to sleep with her. At this point I’d already had two bad incidents in the past and my trust for people, especially women was hanging by a thread. And this was the final straw, I keep in contact with one of the guys that didn’t believe her bs but left the rest of them. Didn’t feel like getting caught up in drama and lies. As a cherry ontop 4 women I’ve met since I moved here have ghosted me in the middle of a conversation. I haven’t flirted or anything, just getting to know each other and one day or morning, boom. Never hear from them again. They all do the same thing, and I don't know why this keeps happening, why nobody likes a good guy that treats them right, or why nobody starts or carries on a conversation with me. But now I see women in a very bad image and I know I shouldn’t. Which is why I call myself an Incel even tho most of you don’t agree with the name. I’m not after a relationship right now, I’m focused on me. Yet I can’t even become friends with a girl cuz for whatever reason they’re so toxic for no reason whatsoever, makes me wonder am I missing something, or somehow doing something wrong by simply asking them about themselves or telling them about me.

[ragadox9]

listen dude I feel u sometimes people ignore me too🙂nah a lot of times actually I also wonder like am boring? am I the problem? Mmm and I just feel kinda bad like I feel dumb, but you know I'm done with that too , I think focusing on ourselves is the best choice , even having a few people is a blessing, I agree with u girls are confusing, but I can assure you that not all women like that you know, maybe the fat girl knew that she isn't your type so she got upset and the other 2 women prop they were just bored and wanted ro text someone but not all women like that, you will find someone who is better that all of this things just comes unexpected dude it better to foucs on a lot of stuff.

[Asker]

Thanks, I been doing just that. Focusing on myself. But whenever I meet a new girl she ghosts me and it brings back those negative feelings and takes me out of my usual mindset for a bit. The usual mindset being focusing on myself

[ragadox9]

I think the best thing to do whenever u meet someone just like don't have any expectations that she might be different , like just act totally normal, like u know u don't have to think will she stay? or when she will ghost me? just dont think of it, I think this might let u have a balanced thoughts and make not be distracted from focusing on yourself too 🤍

[Asker]

Thanks, I’ll try and do that.

[Seriouslyitsnotjayy]

You’re a great person

and you live in a place full of excuse me to say pyschos who don’t know an amazing person even if he or she punched them in the face

ignore everyone and continue being great 👍🏽 😇

[Asker]

Thank you! Means a lot