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How can I stop comparing myself to other girls?

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During the Covid times, like many, I gained a lot of weight. The grand total being 3 stone (42lbs). I was feeling very bored, miserable and of course I didn't leave the house much so I would just stay indoors eating whatever I wanted and day-drinking.

I have been decent-looking for most of my life. I'm not saying I've ever been a supermodel or anything, but I never used to have a problem when it came to attracting guys. But I now know that a big part of it is body-related. The change in men's attitudes when I was heavier shocked me. Prior to lockdown I would get men regularly coming over to talk to me when I was out, and people were generally more pleasant towards me. But after I gained that weight I wouldn't even get a second look, no one would approach me and people had a colder attitude. I was pretty much a non-entity.

That came as a harsh reality check for me. I realised just how much looks get you by in day-to-day life. It did not feel good.

Now I'm currently in the process of losing the extra pounds, I'm half way back to my old weight, I've lost a little over 20lbs.

But my self-esteem is still very low. I just feel so ugly compared to all the very slim, pretty girls I see who look great in whatever they wear. I think part of it is that now I know how differently people can treat you depending on the way you look. I really hate feeling so worthless.

Any advice from others who may have experienced similar self-esteem issues?

How can I stop comparing myself to other girls?
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