How can I ask my girlfriend to get a bigger butt and what exercises are good for it?

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

My girlfriend is very active, probably the opposite of what you thought she would be if I said she had a small butt. But she isn't just active, she is too active, whether it's dancing, swimming, or working out. Her thighs are amazing, they are a perfect tan, round and smooth, but her butt doesn't feel the same. When ever I feel any part of her body, all I feel is muscle with only a little fat, it's not bulging muscle, but bigger than the average girl. She says she wants to be at least a little comparable to me since I am pretty lean myself. The problem is that she has so little fat for a girl, that she doesn't have as many feminine features as the average girl, she has big arms for a girl, strong abs, even a pretty strong back, which leaves no room for fat to make the natural curves. Whenever I touch her butt, it's really hard compared to the girlfriends I had before, and a lot flatter even though she works out way more than them. I'm not asking her to stop exercising and gain a ton of weight, I just want her to adjust her diet and workout to make her butt a little fatter. Even she has wanted to do it but she doesn't know what exercise how much of it to and what to eat do in order to get it fatter. So what can she do to make her butt fatter? I hope this doesn't come off as petty because that isn't my intention, I like her a lot more than any other girl I've had and I wouldn't leave her over something like this.

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She WANTS a fatter butt too, but she doesn't know how to do it, I don't want you guys thinking she is against it or anything.

[Almostragan]

Wow! Lol. PLEASE don't tell your girlfriend her butt is too small or give her unsolicited advice, but if she asks for your advice... Kneeling squats, Bulgarian split squats, one-legged squats, bridges, and hip thrusts target the gluteus maximus. Side lunges, hip abductors, curtsy lunges, and ice-skaters target the gluteus medius (sides/hip). Working the gluteus medius will give the butt more of a heart-shaped look. Variations of hip abductors also work the TFL which runs on the outside of the leg and can help give a curvier look to the leg which can go nicely with the heart-shaped butt if that is her preference, but the TFL isn't as important to the look. If she tends toward a slightly boyish/athletic figure, I would suggest lots of kneeling squats and side lunges. Avoid too many hip thrusts and bridges. They can give the butt a top-heavy look, and any barbell squats should be done in a low-bar position to put the strain on the posterior chain instead of the quads. Proper form is very important for squats. For diet, it's probably just a matter of eating more, to gain fat and significant amounts of muscle, you must consume more calories than you burn. Some foods are supposed to help distribute fat to the butt and/or away from the waist, but genes tend to determine where fat deposits. Some supplements can help, but she should be very careful with anything that alters hormone levels. Fish oil and flax oil are supposed to be helpful, and I don't think that they have any major side effects. I'm not any kind of expert, so you may want to verify all of this. I'm mainly speaking from experience. Of course, feel free to ask me if you have any questions I could possibly answer.

[Anonymous]

You seem to imply that the reason she doesn't have more curves is because the other girls were "fatter" while she's always working out and is lean. No, I think that's genetic. While she could become softer, she wouldn't gain feminine curves because it's not her genetic disposition. Her upper body is bigger and I bet her hips aren't wide.
On the other hand, girls with curves can work out and be lean, and they will always have curves, wide hips, etc. You know what I mean?

[Dulcedulcexoxo]

She over sis the squat booty. So she has no fat and muscle all she can do is gain some weight and hope it goes to her butt. Buy don't ask her that though it's just wrong.

[BellePepper]

Wow! Your username is super applicable to this situation!

You say *nothing* unless she specifically says "I want a bigger butt. Do you have any ideas?"

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

It's actually a joke, if you knew me, I'm actually a shy nice guy, but thanks for the insult. And you, like most of the girls I assume that read this, must not have read the entire description and jumped to conclusions. I will say it again, SHE ALSO WANTS A FATTER BUTT. Don't judge me if you don't even know me nor didn't even bother to read the entire paragraph. By your comment, YOU sound like ex-girlfriend.

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

material.*

[BellePepper]

Honey, I don't date boys like you so stop trying to make it sound like an insult that you wouldn't date me. That's a blessing.

And I did read your post. Twice. Then I have you a very specific set of circumstances for when your opinion would be welcomed. Maybe you should try reading since you're so into other people doing it ;)

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

I'm not sure what you mean by you don't date boys like me based off a user name, but if you were this judgmental off a user name, I wouldn't date you either. I don't care if you don't believe that I'm a shy guy, but I guess if you attempt to make a funny username, prepare for girls to completely disregard your question and make assumptions about you.

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

What else would the internet be for, right?

[BellePepper]

Wow. You are really bad at reading XD

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

So you didn't say "I don't date boys like you" based off a username? I must be seeing things.

[BellePepper]

Honey no. I commented on your username and then when you decided to share even more about your already stellar personality and amazing reading comprehension I took a hard pass.

[ex-Boyfriendmaterial]

So usernames are only literal now? If I make an account saying "Billionaire Orphan" you would actually believe it's true? I mean you did judge me on my other name, so why wouldn't you believe that one? It's still a username. And my reading comprehension is just fine. If you look back at my comments, I directly respond to each of your insults at me. The "your name is super applicable to this", I replied by stating that a username does not reflect your actual personality, the "don't say anything unless she says so", I must have mentioned at least three times that she had wanted a fatter butt, but I guess you must have forgot it or something, and the "I don't date guys like you" I don't need to care about that since you're just a more-than-likely feminist judging me by my username that I created as a joke and you took it literally. Looks like someone can't comprehend what a respond to a statement is.

[BellePepper]

Wow. You are really offended over something that didn't even happen XD

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol I was just going to comment this!

[Hornitoo]

I enjoyed reading this quarrel. I’m sure your name was intended as a joke and maybe the lady was a little judgmental; however your reaction is epically out of proportion. This sort of reaction makes it appear someone’s got under your skin.
Your girlfriend will eventually suffocate you with her improved fat butt if you overreact. Proceed with caution

[AustinMan]

Ask her but very, very carefully. Do the research on exercises. I hear squats mentioned all the time to help build a bubble butt.

I think you might want to start by saying how proud you are of her and her work ethic. That you feel really sorry for the guys with chubby girlfriends. Then ask her if she'd mind making a few changes in the interest of making her body more feminine. That if she won't, you'll understand but that as a guy you have this expectation and desire for a woman to have a body that's soft but firm to the touch. That has curves and softer lines. Then stop and see how she reacts. Prepare yourself for the full range of reactions: anger, resentment, gratitude, anxiety, sadness. All of it.

I'm guessing that she'll be a bit unhappy at first that you don't love her just the way she is. Then you point out that she's said some of those same things herself so you have a hard time feeling bad for reinforcing them. See if she's ready to hear what you've found that may prove useful.

[AustinMan]

Thanks for the MHG! How'd it go?

[GingerGuy]

It does seem petty to be honest but if you're going to do it anyway (which I really wouldn't do if I were you), she can do squats and leg curls to tone the butt. I don't know if it will make it bigger but if anything will it's that.

[sweettckae]

ALOOTT of squats, but it definitely will make her ass big.

[stepyo99]

If she's all ready working out, then the solution is she needs to eat more. You need to channel your inner Pierce Brosnan if you want her to stop feeling like a hard stick.

[idropz]

You don't tell her to get a bigger butt...

Heavy squats are the most effective. Never seems a girl who squats with a bad butt.

[badadvice101]

Someone already posted a similar question like this. Majority poll said don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Tell her she needs to squat. You shouldn't have to put up with a flat ass. That's just unacceptable.