Girls, Question ONLY for PRETTY GIRLS (... handling female jealousy)?

[Anonymous]

- Please kindly make sure you are VERY PRETTY WOMAN OR A MODEL - when answering this question. Thanks.

- So, all my friends are the average/sub average league of my black girlfriend in the photo (just being brutally honest).
I'm the olive skinned girl.

- ... Whenever we go out clubbing - 99.9% of men are attracted to me.

- This applies to my female friends' crushes, guys they are dating, boyfriends etc.

- I don't solicit this attention, I can't help it!

- ... I do tend to oblige and + all the guys demand my phone number, I chat to them for months by text, go for dinner.

- I'm kind of sick of so many women's jealousy... the black girl in the photo 👆🏼has organised free club nights out for us via promoters for 3 years for me , and she feels that I "disrespect" her - as I give my number to the guys she likes/dates - and they always ghost her. I find this controlling and strange!.

- It's honestly not malicious or intended on my part - I can't help the disparity of looks - is it just a sad fact, as men are visual creatures.

- So I'm wondering how you pretty girls deal with this problem?

- ... And before anyone suggests it, I've tried to find friends that are more model-y types like me to party with... and I just can't find any.
- ... I've not ever met any woman that's gets as much attention as I do.

- Again I'm not being bitchy with all this - it's just the honest truth.

- Also... I’m kind of ‘stuck’ - as the black girl in the pic above, is the only reliable person that parties 4+ nights a week with me, and organises free drinks and free entry.

- I'm not going to blank the men that approach me to appease her... going out is about having fun, connecting with people etc - and it's just a normal part of the social scene.

Thanks for your advice

Updates

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- Please read the question carefully before responding.

- I AM THE PRETTY GIRL IN THE PHOTOS, ASKING THE QUESTION.

- ... I am NOT the black girl in the photos.

[Secret6620]

You don't need a "pretty" girl to assist with this question dear... That's foolish... But what I can say...

Is shit like what your friend is doing to you is not okay... I personally don't have female friends and I stopped trying to make them. We are naturally programmed to be competitive with each other for absolutely no reason.

Every female friend I have had thus far either uses me for my money or social status or tries to steal my man. They treat me like their personal trainers or life coach but never as a friend. For example, as soon as I start getting close with another girl she starts feeling incredibly insecure. Mind you... They seemed confident and okay in the beginning but then eventually all those insecurities start coming up and they start doing weird, petty stuff. Basically they become a toxic frenemy like what you're describing above.

The reason why I shared my experiences is because I believe you have a frenemy. I personally would not continue a friendship like that no matter what she's doing for me. Those type of girls with tear you down and belittle you until they feel like they are better than you at something.

Honestly, after reading your story I feel secure with the fact that all my friends are guys... 🙏

Great question and enjoyed someone finally speaking out on their experiences with female jealousy and hate. 👏

There's nothing attractive about a jealous/hateful female. You deal with them by getting rid of them. They will never change until they are confident and secure with themselves.

[Secret6620]

Thanks for most helpful girl! I hoped everything got resolved.

[Hannah_le]

Well your quite self centered. If your handling female jealousy then keep your distance or overall if u really need those entrances deal with it. Learn how to say no to guys if it’s a issue but I mean you can either confront and talk about it with her or just ignore it. But u didn’t have a reason to put up the photos to compare urself with ur “friend “ .

[Asker]

Why should I say no to the men? I put the photographs up to clarify, as if left to the imagination it would be subjective

[Hannah_le]

Well u don’t have to say no but it’s like would u go out with a guy that your friend likes? I wouldn’t personally. She is doing u a good / nice favor least u could do is not talk to the guy she likes. But I’m just saying if u can’t do that then ignore it or simply distant urself there’s no other way to handle it. U could talk to her about it and see where it can go but yea that’s all I can advice.

[Asker]

To be honest, I look like a model and she clearly doesn’t. So I don’t understand why she thinks that we have an equal chance when it comes to men. I don’t understand why I need to have any kind of discussion with her, in the way in which she explained.