Am I wrong for leaving my boyfriend of 2 years after finding out he’s following a stripper on Instagram?

[yudontKnome]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years we have a 1 month old baby together. We have always had the same issue, he has always followed Instagram models and strippers as well, he was even following his exes at some point. Another thing that bothered me was he would get nudes from twitter and save them to his “hidden” folder in his gallery. I didn’t understand we had a good sex life and I would do anything he asked me to do. I finally had enough and told him he either unfollowed them and deleted the photos or I left and he did delete the photos. Although after months of begging he finally unfollowed the females he had on his Instagram keep in mind this all happened multiple times where I found him following females and saving pictures to his hidden folder after he had already deleted them in front of my face this happened at beginning of our relationship, middle of our relationship and while I was pregnant. It was so bad that he made his account private and removed me from it so I would t be able to see the girls he would follow I would just see the number of people he followed go up day by day. Anyways after he had finally deleted every single girl and the pictures, I was at peace no more arguing or not trusting him I had decided to stay and forgive him for my love for him and for our baby on the way without him letting me follow him on Instagram. Everything was good until today he was showing me a message when I noticed a story on his feed was from a stripper I told him to remove her and didn’t he just turned off his phone. His excuse was “every guy is like that”, “you’ll never meet a guy who doesn’t have girls on his phone”. I’m heartbroken and currently am In the middle of packing trying to figure out how I will take the 3 hour drive to my parents with my newborn in the back with no supervision. Please let me know if I’m wrong.

[Graci_e]

@jhsm2 @HaveNoName @Light909090 the guys that have replied to this so far can shut the hell up. If you’re in a relationship, you don’t follow half naked girls on social media. You don’t look at them, you don’t like their photos and you don’t follow them. You respect the girl you’re with and supposedly love.

It isn’t ‘ridiculous’, it isn’t ‘small minded’, it isn’t ‘insecure’ and it isn’t ‘just a fucking photo’. It’s called having self respect and standards for how you expect to be treated. There is absolutely no reason to be looking at another girl when you have a GIRLFRIEND for goodness sakes.

I’m 16. I’ve dated guys that as soon as I’ve asked for those things to be removed, they’ve removed them. These are teenage boys. If they can understand that concept, so can you.

And to the asker, you’ve done the right thing. You don’t deserve to be disrespected and hurt like that. Your child doesn’t deserve to grow up seeing that sort of treatment. You’ve set an example for your child and you’ve set healthy standards for yourself. That’s a good thing. You gave him a chance (multiple) and he chose to walk all over you. That’s his loss now, you did the right thing. Good luck x

[purpledrops]

Preach girlie. Never settle for men who think it's okay to look at other women in a relationship.

[Graci_e]

@purpledrops Exactly. They’re not worth your time.

[Sorrento-Sun]

You are doing the right thing. Take time away to reflect on things. It's having a terrible emotional effect on you. You can do without that when you have a baby to care for.

When two people are in a relationship , they need to consider each others feelings and make sacrifices and compromises for reach other. Telling him how you feel once, should been enough for him to want to delete photos etc. You shouldn't need to beg him.

It is disrespectful and crossing relationship boundaries. I'm sure he'd feel the way you do if you had lots of dick pics. It's not a healthy for a relationship.

[HaveNoName]

I am only reading your main title and not the long detail.
If he was just following her (or him 🤣), then it is ridiculous. However, if he was seeing her as in having a side fling, then he was cheating. Just "following" does not make him a cheater.

[Light909090]

So what he gets Pictures
It’s a Fucking Photo not a Big deal you just wanted an excuse to leave him well you got your wish he Granted your wish of having a baby then you leave him after you’ve Got what you wanted

[yudontKnome]

I see it as respecting our relationship. Also I’m sure he wouldn’t want our daughter to get with a guy who doesn’t put her first. If I wanted to leave him I would’ve just left simple why would I be with someone I don’t love. My wish most definitely wasn’t to have a baby. 💀 especially if I was to break up with my bd, my baby is the main reason I stayed all those times. Having a kid isn't something I would use someone for. I genuinely love him and chose to settle and start my life with him we still had so many plans for our future but he chose that over us.

[Light909090]

you don’t love him if you did you wouldn’t of abandoned him and took The kid it’s his kid too he could File a police report for kidnapping and I hope he does

[Light909090]

Love is accepting someone for who they are And you didn’t accept him as he is
You Didn’t like something about his personality so You Abandoned him

[Light909090]

That’s what crappy people do He’s a dude And likes girls He’s gonna look at girls whether that’s watching porn or checking out the ass of a Girl in the store 🏬 he shops at
Big deal he Had photos of naked girls it’s a natural human desire and you hate desires you don’t like people who get hard over other girls he can’t turn off his Sexuality Because you exist

[Light909090]

Getting a boner is going happen regardless whether or not you want him too he will see a Girl at store 🏬 and will get hard he will look at girls like you do with dudes you check dudes out All the time just like we dudes do

[Light909090]

Every good memory you 2 had was for nothing

[Light909090]

1 thing you didn’t like and you decided everything you 2 ever been through wasn’t enough you 2 we’re together for 2 years and you throw it away over something you don’t like

[Light909090]

2 years is 24 months 2 years is 730 days

[Light909090]

And you throw it away over something stupid

[Light909090]

What a waste don’t bother getting another boyfriend you’ll just break his heart like you just did
With all your entitlement your a brat no dude wants a girl that leaves her boyfriend over something small

[Light909090]

If he was fucking another girl then I’d understand Or If he was beating you up or raping you I’d understand but Having a photo and leaving someone over a freaking photo that’s ridiculous nonsensical irrational stupid to leave someone over something small as a photo

[Light909090]

No dude should ever have to Walk on Eggshells dude should be able to Be himself And not have to feel like he has to hide No dude should ever have to feel like He can’t be himself He denied him because He wasn’t What you wanted him to be We live in reality not a freaking fantasy world where we get to choose What people will Act like and what they will believe

[Light909090]

You denied him
What a waste of 2 years poor guy just wanted some photos on his phone got his kid taken away from him and everything because the girl decided to Break his heart abandon him and kidnap his kid

[Light909090]

Your evil

[Light909090]

Do as your told Or I will Break your heart that’s some fucked up shit right there

[Light909090]

Poor kid gets to Grow up without a Father because you decided To Abandon your boyfriend over something small and you’ll tell him that his father Was a bad dude and kid will grow up Believing a lie when the truth is you broke his heart Over something stupid a waste of 2 years do as your fucking told or I will break your heart
Poor kid doesn’t get to have a dad because you abandon the father

[Light909090]

And you call yourself a good person

[yudontKnome]

First of all who said I wasn’t going to let him see our child. There is something called co parenting. Also it wasn’t only “1” photo it was multiple and over a period of time, I didn’t leave on the first. I know damn well if I was to to have men in my phone or even look at a guy a certain way he wouldn’t appreciate it. Another thing if a man isn’t ready to stop looking for and at other females he should not commit to a relationship only little boys hitting puberty can’t control their hormones. It wasn’t only 2 years wasted of his life but also mine. I was always loyal, always stood next to him and was by his side through everything. He’s not the only broken hearted one I am also broken hearted but there’s only so much a person can take.

[Light909090]

You didn’t come on here to ask if you were wrong
You came here with entitlement And Acting like you could be wrong in an attempt to get people to read it the way you wanted them to read it

[Light909090]

And you do look at other men and Hormones act beyond our free will there is no controlling our hormones we don’t possess that power as humans

[Light909090]

You can’t say There’s not a single man that Turns you on your heterosexual and saying He can’t look at girls is like saying Your blind and cannot see

[Light909090]

Multiple photos or 1 photo who cares but leaving them over that and following someone he Is attracted too your evil and he can finally sleep without you nagging at him
You must of complained about so much more and sure glad the dude can finally Rest without worrying about you saying you did this I don’t like and did that I don’t like give me your phone I want to see what you have on there
Nobody Is gonna act treat me like I am a robot 🤖 to be Programmed to do or suffer A Wire cut

[Light909090]

But I get it it’s in your nature to over react and be emotional over the smallest of things after all You are a girl and girls can’t control there emotions impulses dudes on the other hand are more logical they have a sense of direction

[Light909090]

Not your fault you were born With a dormant Logical side you have no logic no sense if you got lost in the woods at night You would freak out I as the man however would instinctually know how to find my way out of being lost in the woods

[yudontKnome]

You sound so pressed over what. Over a woman acknowledging her worth? No matter what you say I have understood that I am not wrong and shit like that should not be done in a RELATIONSHIP. Especially with a child it’s called respect and boundaries. A relationship is 50/50 I put my part to do what he asked me and removed all men from my social media yet he couldn’t do it for me yeah ok.🤡 It’s funny how sexist you are but that just proves my point even more you’re ridiculous to try and think you know me over that small part of my life. Trust me I’ve been through so much shit on my lonely and got by just fine. Shit I’m sure by the way your simple mind works you wouldn’t be able to handle it or comprehend. Only men who think with their dick do shit like that. So get your head out your ass and realize just like I did that, that shit isn’t right.

[purpledrops]

Well love is also about respecting your partner. Now where's the respect in having eyes for other women when you're in a relationship with your own partner. It's not normal, nor is it okay.

[rosemilk]

you had this problem over and over again with him. and he barely tried to put in effort to fix it. you are doing the right thing. you felt disrespected (and that's completely valid) and he didn't care how he was disrespecting you. obviously it bothered you, a lot. it would bother any girl. i don't think this is normal behavior for a guy in a long term relationship with a good sex life with his partner (no matter if he tries to say "every guy does this". no). he seems like he would cheat or has cheated also. this guy is scum. take care of yourself and your newborn.

[RosieMelts]

You’re questioning this after two years?

lol jk jk- you could’ve been happily dating a a hypothetical criminal for 2 years. If they’re doing wrong, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together.

He should’ve thought- should I follow this stripper, while I’m with my girlfriend of 2 YEARS?

but did he? No.

so neither should you.

Find a man with Priorities/Goals/Loyalties/ and COMPATIBILITY- sexually and romantically.

Or.. disregard everything I said get back with him… and good luck ig 👌😬

[purpledrops]

You are NOT wrong. It's so sad that you are here contemplating whether or not you're at fault for leaving him when HE should be the one all apologetic because he's looking at other girls while being with you. No. Not all men are like that and don't even think about settling with someone like him. It's disrespectful to look at other women when you're in a relationship, fullstop. Does anyone's parents do that? The majority would say NO because that is not normal or okay. Don't even think for a second that you're overreacting because you aren't. You even gave him a second chance. Leave him.

[Anonymous]

What kind of idiot has a kid with a dude you aren't married too.

You are stupid for having a kid with a guy you weren't married to.

Why did you have a kid so young?

I'm sorry but if you were ,30 I would had supported you but you are only just a stupid child having a child.

You're generation is just plain stupid!

Now that poor baby is going to grow up in a broken home. Do you even make enough money to raised this poor baby?

A , 30 year old woman is way more fit then you to raised this baby.

You are just stupid!

[jshm2]

Yes.

You're too small minded and insecure to have a boyfriend. He's your fucking boyfriend, not your husband, dumbass.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing.

[Guy13]

No 💪.

[Guy13]

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