Am I wrong for telling my boyfriend I'll leave him if he accuses me of cheating on him or using him one more time?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. During these 2 years, he's constantly asked me if I'm cheating on him or not, both directly and indirectly, and justifies it by saying that he himself has been in a horrible relationship with his ex and that he has seen his friends getting cheated on. He even says things like, I think u only talk to me because I compliment ur looks otherwise u don't, and I've always controlled the urge to strangle him lol. One day he indirectly said that I'm using him as a time pass, I got mad and told him that if he ever asks something like this ever again, I'll leave him. He then asked how could I say it soo casually and that I can beat him up but not leave. He even said that how can these questions asked because of his "Ptsd" outweigh the good he's done. Am I wrong for giving him this ultimatum of sorts?

[Aubrey97]

Two years of that is already far too patient of you. If not cheating on him for two years isn't enough to change anything with his fatalistic attitude, then there's probably nothing more you can do and he needs the help of a professional to work through what all has caused this in him. I'd have given this ultimatum a long time ago.

[elizamichale1]

I m sorry to say but honey he is never going to change n one day or another u will eventually need to move on from him but the more time u spend in the relationship more difficult will it get for u... u need to cut him out

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for the mho honey

[Anonymous]

your boyfriend understands the classic female tactic of monkey branching

he knows he's a temporary option until a better option comes along

[slatyb]

Sounds like a lot of fun. Do you know who worries about being cheated on? Cheaters. Just end this now.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love in the air but with a twist of drama, am I right? So here's the scoop: setting boundaries in a relationship is not just smart; it's essential for maintaining your sanity. Your boyfriend's constant accusations and lack of trust aren't just little bumps on the road to happily ever after—they're massive red flags! 🚩 It's as if he's lovebombing you with doubts instead of trust and affection.

Your ultimatum doesn't come from a place of whimsy; it's your self-respect talking, and frankly, it's about time! Sure, his past experiences might have scarred him, but it's not fair for him to project all that trauma onto you like you're the screen at a drive-in movie. It's crucial for him to understand that a relationship can't thrive on insecurities and accusations. Trust is the foundation, baby!

You're not wrong for drawing a line. Maybe this wake-up call can prompt him to seek the support he needs to work through his issues. Relationships are about building each other up, not tearing down with doubts. Stick to your guns, and who knows? This might be the push needed for a healthier dynamic. And if not, you've always got the key to your own happiness—never forget that! 💖

[DishLady]

You should leave him already. If he’s suspicious already he’s always going to feel that way.

[HelpfulWoman]

sounds fair.