I’ve been cheated on and lied to and I know the truth but he thinks I don’t know should I tell him and leave?

[lesleyholm]

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

When he is at work, pack your stuff and go. Don't worry about furniture, you can over time stock up again.

You can leave a note telling him about what you know. DON'T tell him where you are moving too. And move far away, no less than 100miles. More of you can.

Do not respond to any messages, he will try and sweet talk you. Change your number bc if he is obsessed he's probably already tracking your phone. He will sweet talk you into coming back and make a lot of nice promises. If he's the abusive type, then he will beat discipline into you the very moment you step back through the door!

If you have any proof of the abuse you can go to the police and open a report, and start filing for a protective order.

Whatever you do, be quick about it and be private. Don't tell anyone that would possibly tell him where you are.

[lesleyholm]

Thank you so much for this advice it’s exactly the kind of clarity I needed. You’re right: safety has to come first, and disappearing quietly is sometimes the only real option when someone’s behavior crosses into obsession or abuse. It’s terrifying how quickly things can escalate once control starts slipping from their hands. I hadn’t even considered how easily someone could track a phone or manipulate through guilt and promises. Your point about not telling anyone who might leak information even unintentionally really hit me. Silence and distance are protection.
The part about leaving without worrying about the furniture is freeing, too. It’s hard to let go of what you’ve built, but peace and safety are worth more than any physical thing. And you're right I can rebuild. Slowly, carefully, but on my own terms this time.
If I gather any proof, I’ll absolutely report it and get legal protection. Thank you for not sugarcoating anything. It’s scary, but this gave me strength. I won’t look back.

[Makeushiver]

The moral high ground always feels less slimy. Maybe writing a letter so you can edit it & not send anything you might regret.

[Finchie40]

Absolutely, unless you want to stay with a cheater

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle some relationship wisdom! So, love with eyes wide open is important, and it's no fun knowing you're being deceived. If you've confirmed his lovebombing tour, it's time for honesty and a dramatic exit! Think of it as your stepping stone to peace and better things. Trust your gut, share your truth, and make way for fresh beginnings. The heart deserves clarity and respect, always! 💔➡️❤️

[ohsheeT]

I can't tell you what to do

If you tell him you know the truth. And leave. What your doing is telling him you don't trust him. You don't believe in him and your not going to allow him to disrespect you you are a a person that gave him the opportunity to be loved and treated right? And that's what you did you did your part you held up your part? You have boundaries and he overstepped his\nAnd by doing so he treated you like crap like dirt


Now, if you don't say anything, then you have the opportunity. To catch him and everything that he does from this day on. Because you think you're stupid. You think you're naive? And he thinks he can get away with anything now. And he thinks it's OK to do whatever he wants to do just because he wants to not even thinking about you or how much I might hurt you.

And the bad part about that is, after he cheats, he comes home. Gives you a hug or a kiss talks to you really nice says I love you and it's all just a big fat light because if you loved you he wouldn't be doing what he's doing so now from this day forward, everything that he does say to you is a big, fat lie, because you now a liar and a cheater. He does not care about anybody but himself. And you can play that game and act like he loves you. But he doesn't because he's doing what he's doing. It's all a big fat lie


So you have to pick the best scenario for you

[lesleyholm]

Thank for vest much and I appreciate your support on this topic I already broke up with him.

[ohsheeT]

Im sorry that you have to go through this. But better today. Then a year from now. There is a reason... and it's because he was not meant for you.

[lesleyholm]

Thank you , I appreciate the facts that took your time to reflect on my story

[ohsheeT]

Your welcome it sucks that you even had to go through all of that

[lesleyholm]

How can we talk and get better acquaintances

[ohsheeT]

Dm me

[stayorgo]

Well you are entitled to get your sweet revenge . How you carry out your pay back i can't say you have to go what you feel

[RedInnocent69]

Are you going to be happy you stay and he doesn’t tell you?

[slatyb]

No, you should just leave.

[lesleyholm]

He beats me and abuses me. And I’m still paying for his car

[slatyb]

Get the F out and stop making the car payment. This is serious and you could end up maimed or dead. If possible, move away for a while.

[exitseven]

Yes, have it out in a very public place and embarrass him.

[Avicenna]

Yeah

[jahaims]

Just leave and cut contact

[WhitneySnow]

Definitely

[Makeushiver]

@WhitneySnow That truly sucks but as Lowell George sand, "I've been from Tuscon to Tucumcari, Tehachapi to Tonopah. Driven every kind of rig that's ever been made, driven the back roads so I wouldn't get weighed. Just give weed, whites, & wine.

[MasterKS]

Dont you think so?