Should I tell my boyfriend I cheated on him?

[Anonymous]

I never see my boyfriend and I never get cuddled or anything but im extremely affectionate and I was with my best guy friend last night who my boyfriend hates but when his friends fell asleep my friend started cuddling me and I allowed it and it got pretty far... I feel like absolute shit as I should. Do I tell my boyfriend I cheated on him or should I just carry my own strong guilt. I hate lying to him but he already has trust issues of people and I dont want him to think that ill cheat on him again or if he ever has another girlfriend I dont want him to think she'll cheat either. What do I do? also if I told him I cheated then he'd know automatically who it was and he'd probably go hurt my guy friend.

... I think I should keep it to myself but I just feel so bad hiding it.

Tell him I cheated

Hide that I cheated

[Anonymous]

Well I'll just give you option number 3. Which is break up with him without telling him you cheated. That way his trust issues etc dont have to get worse.

I know its not what you want to hear but I know if you come clean it won't work out between you. If he doesn't break up with you immediately he still will never trust you again so you'll end up breaking up eventually.

And if you continue to date him and hide it there's still a very good chance it will come out eventually. Which would be the worst thing. Not only did you cheat but you lied about it. He'd hate your guts. I mean chances are your guy friend will reveal it one way or another. It would be pretty damn hard for you two to continue hanging out without some weird vibe that your boyfriend would pick up on. That or he might flat out say something. And you abrubtly ending the friendship would be weird too.

... so yeah hiding it is the worst thing you could do.

[kaylaS91]

yeah. Definitely tell your boyfriend.
Make sure to lead into the confession with justifying your disgusting behaviour by saying that you never felt like you were cuddled enough but didn't find yourself capable of opening your mouth to tell him how you felt, and what you'd like more of. So you instead chose to open your legs and get validation from another guy.

[Asker]

... except I have told him how I felt and he never cared... I hate how you just judge but you don't know the whole story, I know im absolute trash for cheating and it isn't his fault, and I should just break up with him cause I'm not happy in my relationship. I've told him I need to see him outside of school for once in the whole year I've been with him, he won't, its hard never seeing someone and them never trying to even speak to you. I did communicate but I should've just broke it off because I obviously didn't matter enough..

[Girl_Ex_Machina]

Exactly how far is "pretty far"? Did you just cuddle, did you kiss, what do you consider cheating? You should probably tell him, but make sure you aren't blowing this out of proportion.

[Asker]

Just heavily cuddled.

[CreamySeed]

Did you hump

[Raymond_Reddington]

You should break up with him. a boyfriend who doesn't give his girlfriend any attention at all, should not be a boyfriend at all. dump him. maybe you could get together with your best guy friend. i think he can give you more attention than your current boyfriend ever will.

[Dred1614]

Tell him. If I found out that she cheated 10 years ago and didn't tell me, I'd flip the hell out. I'd end things immediately. Give him a chance to dump your pathetic ass. Tell him.

[Asker]

I already broke up with him, the day after I cheated, I don't deserve to be loved.

[Dred1614]

That's a bit harsh.

[zorro8888]

Yes you should tell him, whether he wants to break up or not is up to him but he deserves to know the type of person he's in a relationship with.

[AndyOh]

I think you should find another boyfriend who will cuddle you and appreciate your affection. Then you won't want to cheat.

[Transigence]

Oh, fuck that shit. Don't even make this about him.

[Subflics]

If you don't say something, it will change who you are as a person. From the moment you decide not to tell him, you become a dishonest person. Be honest & tell him & be brave.

[acooke-13]

I think you should tell him, but also leave him if you don't love him, which cheating doesn't show you do. But if you wouldn't leave him, let him choose

[Pummel]

This is why I gave up on dating or having relations years ago. I am sane and I don't miss it. I do miss the friendship

[Toad-1]

You cheated on him with a guy he hates? Wow! Somehow that sounds even worse to me. Just break up. You need to do some serious souk searching before you're ready to be in a relationship

[Mesonfielde]

If you want to preserve the status quo, you should definitely maintain the status quo.

[Blueeyes81]

At this point the option should be his as to whether he wants to remain in the relationship. If your needs aren't being met why would you even want to stay in the relationship?

[steveguitar]

just break up with him, you don't see him, you can't love him

[Anonymous]

Tell him you cheated and break up with him so he finds someone better than that.

[Asker]

._. true, would be better for him since I'm total scum.

[Kylesar]

If you want to keep him, you can let the guilt eat you alive

If you tell him, you lose the guilt, but you will most definitely lose him

[Anonymous]

Tell him so that he can break up with you and start treating you like shit.

[TwentySomething]

Tell him so he can end it. At least respect him that much.

[TheOldMan59]

If you want to stay with your boyfriend tell him nothing. If you don't, dump him and tell him nothing.

[Anonymous]

I think u should brake up with him so that he won't know u cheated but he can find some one who loves him truly x

[Thatguy321]

Tell him and let him decide

[Anonymous]

As long as he doesn't know it , he won't be hurt by it.
Get tested if you forgot the condom.

[Krista7]

Just break up with him

[theCatcherintheRye]

Tell him what you did in detail.

[Asker]

:/ wouldn't that just make it worse

[WhatTheHellAmy]

well duh, tell him!