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There are a lot of people who say that women should be obedient to their partners, but I personally think it should be mutual. By that I mean, a person should obey their partner if their partner doesn't want them to do something that could potentially harm the partner.

For example, since alcohol can lead to domestic violence (which would obviously harm the partner), a person should obey their partner if the partner doesn't want them to drink excessively. This is mutual. It has nothing to do with gender, but rather, keeping in mind the safety of one's partner.

Admittedly, in a hetero relationship, there may be certain scenarios in which the man has more of a right to forbid something than a woman would. For example, men are generally expected to act as protectors for their partners, so it'd be more justified to a man to want to forbid his partner from going to a dangerous place (since, if something happens, he'll be endangered by being expected to protect).

Of course, none of these "prohibitions" should be by force. It's just ideal that they should be obeyed, and if not, the person is free to just exit the relationship if they're not willing to create a reality in which their partner is safe.

I feel like my genes are so defective that it'd be immoral to curse an innocent human being with them.

My issues aren't really something that would be very harmful for my partner in a relationship - in fact, I've been told that my issues would actually make me a good candidate for a relationship - but my issues cause suffering to the person themselves, which would be unfair to inflict on someone.

And if my child was a boy, my genes (physical weakness, social ineptitude, anxiety, short stature, etc) would also make it difficult for him to obtain a relationship, sex, or social acceptance, which would make his life hell.

But I do hope to get married someday. If I find an ideal mate & he wants kids, I might (if I get over my anxiety & low self-esteem) be willing for him to get a surrogate for a child using his genes (and the egg donation of a woman with optimal genes), & then I'd raise the child with him. So he'd still be able to have a child with his own genes, and raise them as a family, but it won't be inflicted with my defective genes. However I understand that surrogates cost like $100,000 so a lot of guys may not be willing.