I have gone through several rejections in my life. I believe that some rejection could have been in placatory ways that can be bearable emotionally for any guy.
When I had my first one, she was with her friends. The decision of rejecting me was influenced by her friends with whom she stays always. All the girls went berserk over me ended up so brusquely that I don’t like to even remember that incident again in my life. That was not enough, when I was in pain sitting at the place I have seen her friends laughing at me.
If you are a girl and you have gone through the same incident, people would approach you to give you sympathy because they want you to be in their life. Girls, do you know that for a guy, it's very difficult to come back because such incidents spoil their reputation in such a way that no other girl wants that guy to be with her? I could not make any friends from colleagues of my level. So, I moved to juniors of my college to make them my friend. I remember that being a nice looking guy and guitarist, I have seen girls taking interest in me. I have seen them staring at me, but then any girl who knows my past comes to them and whisper something in their ears and girls suddenly turn away from me. I was so afraid to approach those girls who knew about my past.
The second girl I mate was nice to me and she even asked me out and I was totally a slave of her charms. Of course, she rejected me nicely when she felt I am into her. I wasn’t happy with her decision because I felt like she likes me very much when I was with her but it's OK. Maybe she was not prepared mentally for a relationship. Maybe she wanted just casual fun with guys. But after a few months we broke up the connection of our friendship because she became too judgmental about me. She called me cheap several times when she found me different than her, like I told her that I tried chicken even though I am a vegetarian (she is pure vegetarian).
For a girl, there are so many options available. It doesn’t matter if it is on tinder, social media or in real life. So, I know that rejection has become your regular activity. But the main problem is you go directly over that or you say too many rude and judgmental statements while doing so. I don’t have a problem if a girl would reject like this: OK XYZ, I know that you like me but it's not possible between us as we are not matching with each other.
I have been talking to an Italian girl on G@G and she is my best friend, so many times she rejected my thoughts but very smoothly that I never complain about her, she never judged me and accepts me for what I am because we understand that two persons can be different to each other and it's impossible to find your ideal guy/girl. You will never find all the qualities you want in any guy on this planet.
Girls, your rude rejection makes guys insecure. Guys hardly approach girls. Respect their feelings or if you can't respect, don't throw away their emotions with your thoughts.
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