What men fear more, getting rejected or how they get rejected?

[Improvement]

Writing from my past experience and from my observation of my friends I have came to a conclusion that the way you get rejected matters more than the rejection itself.

When I got rejected in a rude manner the fact that I got rejected wouldn't even come to mind. But what did come to mind was the shame in the moment and the badmouthing later.

I was a shamed because in the eyes of the people around me it looked like I did or said something terrible when in fact it is something normal.

The badmouthing... this one makes me more angry than anything else. Why do they have the need to badmouth me to other people (m or f) what do they get from this? This amplifies when living in a small town.

From this I have learned to judge the girls more before approaching, and respect the girls that know how to reject a man way more.

After this how can you tell me that the rejection hurts more than all of this. Please explain.

[Mexicvn]

Rejection does suck. But let's look at it in a positive outlook. In the world of rejection, us men tend to look down on ourselves and think, "what is wrong with me?" Or "I'll never ask another girl out because I KNOW I'll be rejected." I'm sure you've said those things to yourself. BUT, it's how you handle that rejection. You see, I use to be rejected and to this day, i still get rejected. But i don't let it bother me because I go through this philosophy. Sometimes in life, you HAVE to get through the No's, so you can get the Yes's. You should take rejection as fuel to your mind. You'll think about what you have said or did that lead up to the rejection. Then, you'll start to correct those mistakes and realize the next time you approach a person, you'll know exactly what to say or do. And if you still get rejected, put big a smile and say, "hey, it's your loss, not mine" . That line seemed to work for me a couple of times.

[Improvement]

First of you are right both on what do we say to our self and learning from the NOs.

Now even when you have your mindset, your philosophy getting through the NOs when you get rejected disrespectfully and be humiliated in front of everyone is very hard.

Your philosophy teaches how to reduce rejections by learning from the NOs, witch applies to every failure in life. My rule to judge more before approaching and your philosophy of learning from the NOs are a good combination.

[Anoniemus]

This is it. A man gets it. Instead of becoming bitter and angry, instead of blaming women for rejecting him and refusing to be nice, he moves on.

Teach the men on this site.

[Dchrls78104]

I think it's being rejected, especially after they have invested their heart, their time, and their money in the hope of a relationship or reconciliation; it hurts and not all men in my country can deal with that. Many murder-suicide tragedies here are directly traceable to the woman's rejecting the man for a relationship or refusing a request to resume a broken relationship; in these cases the rejection itself stung (it wasn't about the manner) and the men snapped.

[IdentetarianimSucks]

How I get rejected

I watched waaaaaay too much Johnny Bravo, and I have internalized that, no matter who you talk to, or how nice you are, breathing in the wrong direction will result in a violent rejection.

It's stupid, but I can't get past it

[KrakenAttackin]

Yeah, the "how" is far worse than the "why". If you don't want to go out with me, that's fine (really, it is!), but to rake me over the coals to your friends, social media, and anyone who will listen.. this is what makes men **really** angry.

[Albeshr]

To me is how I get rejected, like if someone says they dont love I will take it fine it will sucks but I tried, but if for example someone saying "wont ever love you the same" it will leave a mark for sure

[StrawberryGlory]

Men and women fear on how they get rejected because we don't know about the result and how the other person is going to react whether in a calm way or shout at you. So before you approach that person you need to decide about your surroundings and the type of person you are going to face. If the person is calm type he or she won't explode at you. but if the person is short tempered he or she can explode at you.

[Chthou95]

The way a man gets rejected is a lot more crucial than recieving rejection. Women are more afraid of rejection and hardly ever approach while men have to initiate & get rejected more. It eventually becomes a numbers game for a men so the rejection part isn't as bad as how it's done

[Avicenna]

I think getting rejected in the first place is feared more.

[Improvement]

Please explain as to why you think that.

[cheapshotbob]

if its on there birthday then yeah rejection is a fearful thing lol

[NIKUNJ9954]

The person who facing the rejection must be bold if he or her doesn't one should have to get better oneself. Improving oneself is the solution that i think. The badmouthing is like a virus it ruins the atmosphere of society in any area of the world.

[Gedaria]

So she has said no,, nicely or rude. It's not the end of the world. It's happened to us all , move on...

[Liam_Hayden]

I fear neither, but if she's rude about it I am thankful that I dodged a bullet with that b*tch.

[MisterSixShooter]

I don't care about what manner I get rejected in. Rejection hurts all the same. Take it from a guy who has been rejected so much that ge hasn't had sex in over a year.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely agree. Being rejected in a polite nice way sucks of course, but it woudn't be something I'd be afraid of.

[DvntboiNz]

Guys get over it... we all get rejected at sometime... you can't win them all!!

[Anonymous]

Getting rejected of course... Who cares if she rejected you in a sweet or bad way as long you got rejected

[Massageman]

The insecurity of knowing and the "how".

[crswantsluv]

Both lol been alone for many years

[Plitty-Tank]

Men fear being rejected more.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Good take

[riya54]

Getting rejected