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I want to start out with the details first. I'm at a ripe old age of 21 and my wife is 23. We've been married for 3 1/2 years. We have a 2 year old son. I'm in the military and we're currently living in Italy. She stays at home with our son because it's virtually impossible for her to get a job here. We dated in high school and got married after I completed basic training. Our relationship, in my eyes, was going great. That is until she told me she was unhappy, has been for quite some time and needs to reconnect with her old-self. She says that I've done nothing wrong and that I've been an excellent husband and father. She tells me that she wants to go back home to America to try and find out what she wants. It's very difficult to go home right on the spot when you're overseas so she won't be leaving for about another month. After telling me all this, I soon find out that she's been talking with an old friend from her past. A male friend. She says that he makes her feel like herself again and that he is definitely a reason for wanting to go home but he isn't the main reason. Am I supposed to believe that he isn't the main reason and she's telling the truth? I don't know. What I do know is that one day we're telling each other that we love each other and making love and then the next day I find out that she's having sexual conversations with this man. I think that I should just completely be done with her and let her do her but on the other hand, we have a son together and I don't want to throw away my family if there's a chance that she'll come back. I probably sound really weak and like a fool but I never had a father in my life and I don't want that for my son. She says she's in love with this other man, a boy really, and that she wants to know what makes her happy. This boy used to be a heroin addict, went through rehab, and now has schizophrenia and episodes where he thinks people are trying to kill him. Am I a fool for wanting to wait?