Friend seems obsessed with male attention?

[Anonymous]

I have this friend who seems to have constant need for male attention.

When she is out. I always notice she has to pick up or at least get a guy's number. I am not jealous or anything but never seen anything like it with any other friends I hang out with.

When she picks up. Who gives a shit who she is with. Example me. I end up getting stuck with her. Cause I am either to drunk to drive or trains are not running cause it is too late.

I ended up picking up one time with her. We had to share a room. Separate beds. Hated it. So uncomfortable. I told her I never wanna be in that situation again but another night we are out, she ends up picking up someone else. This time, I did not and they spend the whole night looking for a room, while I'm stuck with them! Luckily it was 3:00 in the morning and nothing was open so we just ended up walking around all night, doing that till trains were open.

My other friend and I notice when we go out and mention we think someone is cute. She will go straight up to them. Tell them. Start chatting to them, then end up getting their number!

Just recently. We all met this new guy. He apparently just wants friendship. He and I end up snuggling. But at first I could see, she was putting the moves on him. I end up getting anxiety and having an emotional outburst cause I did not want to be in the same room as her having sex again. They calm me down and that happened after she fell aslep.

When I mention anything about him now. No response from her.

One place we were at she did not get any attention at all and almost had a meltdown. Confronted one guy who told her he was gay, when he was not. Then said all of them were in that place. A few were, but not all. I was like wow. She then ended up stuffing her face with food after feeling sorry for herself cause no one was interested.

When I go out. I like to enjoy the compnt I am with. If I pick up. Bonus. If not. Don't care! Just would find what she does exhausting. Thoughts?

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+1 y

She can pick up who she wants when we go out but just should have sex in a different room and not cut anyone's grass while out to.

The guy that gave me cuddles that night. I never slept with him or kissed him. Just snuggled.

Have never had any other female friend act like this, while out. Spun out by it. It has stopped me from wanting to go out with her at night now.

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+1 y

I have spoken to her about this myself but when she drinks she does not care about anyone but herself. Hence why I don't want to hang out with her while we go out at night now. Just during the day. Cause other then this she is a great friend.

[Paris13]

Without it being etched in stone, sweetie, the writing on the wall to me is Spelling Out Possibly" NYMPHOMANIAC... and Yes, along with trying to get cozy and comfy and Secure, she is looking for Attention as well to put herself on this Pedestal above all because somewhere along the line she lost her confidence and is making up for lost Time and No time at all now.
It's quite Obvious this chick who has her Pick is Not your cup of tea and being the new year, dear, is coming up, break free of her before she ends up putting a monkey wrench into someone you would want someday to Do More than 'Just snuggled' with----Maybe a potential partnership.
By you continuing to allow her to tag along like a bitch in heat, you are Enabling her to display her bad behavior and tongue wagging ways and making you look like you belong with her in the dog house. Unleash her, she has issues that you don't deserve to Full circle Continue to come back to bite you every time. It's not only 'Exhausting' to watch, but gets boring real quick in Watching her make a fool out of herself.
Don't forget: You are judged by the company you keep... Bonus words of wisdom.
Good luck. xx

[Asker]

Haha. She actually admitted that. I think I might be addicted to sex. I think she thinks she has her pick cause she does not react well when she gets turned down. I can pick up just as many guys to I reckon but don't feel the need to every time I go out. That is true. I don't wanna get that reputation either.

Seriously think she will end up making moves on this new guy we met. (The snuggle buddy). Even after I admitted I was interested. But right now I am fine with whatever outcome cause we did only just meet.

It's a shame cause besides all this shit she is a really great person.

[Paris13]

lol... Okay, the writing on the wall... She Knows she has problems and I see you are far too good for it.. but if she would get some help, Improving on being this person who could very well change, could be a better friend.. it is up to you, your choice, but I must say, you are loyal, she is lucky to have you. xx

[Asker]

Yeah will doubt I will be going out with her at night anymore. She can be my day time friend now haha. But yes thank you and she does mentions how much she appreciates our friendship. Just this little issue I have a problem with but everything else is fine.

Not going out with her at night might have to be what fixes this problem.

[Paris13]

Ohh okay... yes, safer than the nite, however, day too is good for hooking with guys for her anywhere it would seem... xx

[Asker]

Haha. True. Guess she can control it more when she does not drink.

[Paris13]

lol... Oh, yes, so true.. being pie eyed, u are bolder.:)) xx

[heartbreak-kid]

she's insecure and your comfortable with yourself just tell her your friendship is more important than a guy an she should just focus on enjoying your company and have a good time! I have a friend like this and i got angry once an lashed out and she agreed with everything i said maybe she just needs to be told.

[Asker]

I already mentioned that to her. She knows but when she drinks she does not care and just does whatever.

It does not bother me what she does when we go out as long as she does not chat up guys I am interested in or have sex in the same room as me.

She agrees switch me.

But think I may just only go out with her during the day now.

[Anonymous]

Well you know what they say, " girls who have a lot of guys after them, should keep in mind, that low prices always attract many customers"

[what_the_hell]

That’s true

[Metlahead]

Sounds like a fun girl to me, why are you cramping her style? You have no obligation to be with her the entire night so if you don't like it just stay with another friend...

[Asker]

I just remembered, (last time we were out) when we were at a Katy Perry concert. Most of the time she was talking to guys online on her phone. When her phone went flat she freaked out and sat outside with the PowerPoint and her phone and missed some of the concert. Mentioned how she did not play much. I just thought you were outside for a few songs that's why. If my phone went flat. I would not of cared and tend to film video to. I mean love concerts and don't wanna miss out on no thing. :-).

That does not sound like fun to me and another example.

Haha. No I don't. I try give her, her space when we go out. I did in The City but then she freaks out and goes looking for me cause she does not know the area.

[Asker]

And met the second last guy she was with while doing that with me. I would have been fine with that if I did not get stuck in the same room as them while they have sex. And she usually wants to share rooms when we go out cause it is cheaper lol. Know not to do that now.

[Asker]

For that exact reason. I don't want to cramp her style when we go out and us be able to do our own things when we go out if we end up doing that.

[Metlahead]

What are you concerned about exactly? That she is insecure?

[Asker]

No. When I spoke to her about this she admits it is a self esteem thing. I just do not want to be stuck in the same room as her when she has sex. She seems not to care about that when she meets someone after a few drinks and it shits me. Other then that she can do what she wants I don't give a shit. I even told her to her face I don't wanna be in that situation again and almost got into twice after that.

[Metlahead]

Ok, well next time just put your foot down and say no. You have no obligation to her.

[Asker]

Oh and cutting my grass when I say I am interested in someone she is attracted to. Been starting to notice that to. Other then this have no problem with her.

The Katy Perry night still makes me laugh when I think about it. That was just amusing to me.

[Asker]

And her with me when we go out.

[TheWiseOwl]

She seems like a moron and one that doesn't deserve you as a friend.