Are you confident?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

As I am walking down the street, and the people look at me smiling, some shyly stealing looks, I feel very confident, I look at them and smile and flip my hair haha

Meanwhile I think, I am charismatic, because the reason people watch me, is more because of my confidence while walking not because of my appearance necessarily.

I feel desirable, not just because of the attention I get when outside, but because of who I am. I feel confident when I am with people or when I am alone.

It helps that I have a thing with two very hot guys, both of whom are very desirable for me and to know that I am desired, liked and wanted by both of them, feels great.

Yeaterday I was asked out by 4 men, all I did was went out haha

I have good days sometimes, today’s a nice day so far, I don’t always have confident days, but right now I feel a little bit like I felt at 22, at that time I felt like I was in my prime.

So feels good to feel just as confident as I did back then.

[Lliam]

"I look at them and smile and flip my hair haha." That's a perfect image. I can see it in my mind.
I see you with perfect posture and a confident stride.

https://media.gettyimages.com/id/107193978/video/portrait-of-young-woman-wearing-lingerie-and-coat-new-york-city-usa.mp4?s=mp4-480x480-gi&k=20&c=ifGdAb6-LwB-2wHUkI2cNZtHsUV185OASA0DrvOZGj8=

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hehe, thanks for imagining in such a nice way

[JC_jester]

When walking down the street privately, I often observe people I pass by. Many walk hunched, looking down at their feet. Others stare at their phones, while some simply look straight ahead. People like me, seeking eye contact with others, are few. A momentary eye contact says a lot about a person. Some immediately look away, clearly embarrassed. Some maintain eye contact for a moment and then go back to their lives. Sometimes women prolong that contact and turn away in a delightfully inviting way.

I feel confident. I have nothing to fear, no complexes.

[7Phoenix7]

I am pretty confident, yep. And it just comes from me loving who I am. I relate to you, feeling great whether alone or with others. I take a lot of walks, and I feel beautiful and sexy whether I'm in sweats, or in something hugging my figure. Either way, i do get approached, or gazed at, smiled at.

Confidence enhances that sway in our hips when we walk, and our smile when we catch someone looking 🩷.

[Passerby2]

I drew a pic of you follow me and ill show it

[FreyaRed]

My self-confidence isn't built up on base of guys who want to fuck me, it's built up on my ability to deal with any obstacle and competition on my way.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I feel confident too, only my confidence doesn't come from being with 2 women! I'm happily with one, but even if I was alone? I would still be confident!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not with two men…

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sorry I read it wrong... "It helps that I have a thing with two very hot guys" you threw me when you said that!

[sawno]

No femme I think you are wrong in your analysis about your own situation. You are a beautiful girl so people are going to look based on that. If you were a bit ugly you could be as confident as you want but people won't look the way they look at you now. Its "What a beautiful girl* looks not "What a confident girl".

As for me I don't have that experience so I don't feel either direction.

[sawno]

But as far as the desirable part you are right again, because beauriful ENFJ's are amazing.

[Mr_twoface]

When I am overseas, I often am confident and enjoy the attention both when I am alone but also when I am together with the mrs. In Sweden though, I am only confident when I go out with the mrs.

[KrakenAttackin]

Do you realize having this power won't last? This time of your life will pass like a warm Summer day, so use this power wisely and lockdown the best man you can.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Wisdom has never been my strongest feature… Thanks for the good intentions tho

[KrakenAttackin]

@lafemmefatale_1. Believe it or not I do wish you the best.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I know 😊 I have never assumed the opposite.

[KrakenAttackin]

👍👍👍👍👍. Good luck and good hunting.

[KrakenAttackin]

@lafemmefatale_1. One more thought. As both of you have options, one of you is going to have to "give" first. One of you is going to have to be openly vulnerable enough to tell the other you want a relationship (and I strongly suggest you define the boundaries of that relationship... i. e
Opposite gender friends, social media, etc).

If you want this man, genuinely want him, not just as a trophy; take the chance and confront diplomatically and ask for exclusivity. The worst he can say is "no" and you will have lost nothing.

You obviously have a lot of charm and confidence to get you up to that brink. Push your comfort zone and reap the rewards. I am willing to bet your odds of success are in the 90+% range.

[DishLady]

Yeah. I know what you mean.


“Back then” and you’re 27 talking about being 22? 😂 Girl, hold that thought and just wait till you’re in your 40s/50s.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I wouldn't say I strut or I have swagger... yet sometimes... sometimes... people may be pleasantly taken aback how, in rare moments, I look like I'm more axe than an axle 🪓💪🏻 on a car lol 😅 a heavy duty, axle. Lol.
Shout out to the next Eddie Murphy awesome Netflix movie lol 🎥🎥🍿🎥

[Nikki1989]

Probably a little too much at times. It makes me do things I really shouldn't be doing.

[SotiCoto]

No, but I know that if anyone can sense your fear, they will take advantage of it and you will lose control of your life... so I have a very strict policy of never showing fear to anyone and never backing down... which makes me come across as reckless, stubborn and arrogant... which I guess is easily mistaken for confidence.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter how many pretty girls like me and flirt with me, I will always be shy and quiet. I just let them come to me if they like me.

I don't like acting out, and embracing the attention I get from women. I don't like to think of myself as special. I don't want other people to think I'm special.

I mostly want to be left alone.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I act confident because i know im desireable and women still treat me like shit. I dress nice and keep myself clean. Its because you are a woman that you get that attention. Even if you werent confident and you still looked half decent guys would ask you out. Guys can dress nice or shitty and smell good or bad be rich or poor and still we get treated like the scum of the earth.

[DJB72]

I'm confident. Walk upright, shoulders back. Eye contact with anyone I think might believe I'm an easy target because of the prosthetic leg - for safety in South Africa you need to project confidence walking around.

[Anonymous]

lol yeah, easy to feel confident when you got dick lined up to fuck in every direction. The attention is because all of them want pussy, they don’t necessarily want you. You are just giving it to them. If you made a decision to refrain from sex immediately until well xyz.. then you will see the attention disappear.
Not saying that to not be confident. Just understand what’s actually going on.

[Jersey2]

What you describe seems more about feeling good about yourself than confidence. Confidence is when you don’t get any that you describe but you don’t let that break you down or make you feel lesser. Exuberance is not confidence but it can feel great.

[katiesmuff]

Somehow after all that praise you gave yourself I seem to have missed the question, which was?

[CriticalCatDad]

No I am not confident because women like confidence and I don't like women even though I find women attractive

[LiamJHayden]

Likely far more than is warranted. Or maybe I just go for it and don't care if others laugh or reject.

[handsomelad70]

Usually, because even with a noticeable limp from my 2021 stroke, I still have boyish good looks at 70.

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Sometimes too much and I am also guilty of arrogance at times too

[Jennz6]

I am a beautiful woman but I’m not as confident as you.

[elaphe]

I am confident overall, but I am bad when it comes to asking women out.