Looks matter of course, but so does personality. I've usually done well with women I've gotten to know which I think is due to I'm easy to get along with. They tend to like my personality. I am not sure how much personality really matters though. I used to meet my women with my best friend years ago and he'd meet girls well with me, but they would never stay interested in him long. I think it was because he wasn't a very serious guy with them while I ooze out honesty and loyalty.
I'm not sure if you feel insulted (I didn't want that), but maybe your interactions with these girls as been the issue? I'm not sure. I'm not gay but my guess is there would be women interested in you physically.
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Ah man. I know how you feel.
Isn't it absurd? There's always something.
If your body is good, your personality could be lacking. If your personality is good your body could be lacking.
You might have a spot on your tooth, you might not smell good enough. Maybe your eyebrow is just slightly asymmetrical, or maybe you didn't tie your shoes the same way on both feet...
Whatever man. Girls think guys are just getting laid left and right cause' they are and are doing it with other guys. As we can see, that's just not the case.
I don't think you can have any control over it. It's pretty mind blowing.
Okay personally, I wouldn't match with you because you don't seem approachable and friendly. Guys who take pictures of themselves shirtless in gyms usually come across as arrogant and that's a turn off for many women. You're an attractive guy, but get rid of the shirtless pic and include more pics of you smiling or doing some fun activities and you'll get more matches. Right now, you come across as an intimidating player.
You’re absolutely fine maybe girls think you might reject them and are intimidated by your very toned physique.
You know what? Give up tinder go for athletic girls and at gyms but not during workout. Before or after or be chivalrous at the water fountain.
You might just find a great convo or a great date.
You look like a hit and run kind of guy. A player.
And you're black. Blacks are just desired less often... except for a quick fuck... and that's usually if the girl has a fetish for huge cocks, which isn't even something all black men can offer...
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You've only focused on external things that's not confidence. Confidence is being fine if things are going your way or not. And you're losing it because things aren't going the way you want. I think you've put a lot of work into working out and that's great, I applaud you for that but now try and work on your inner self as well. Fears, trauma, they affect your behavior and make you tense and anxious. This process can take time and hard work but it will help you a lot. To become a resilient and emotionally stable person who can communicate well their needs and their boundaries. That should be your goal :) Also to be happy with or without a girlfriend.
I am mentally disabled and I found a girlfriend in the end. It took me a long time but it happened. I'm still learning though about love, how to love someone and if she's the right woman for me in the long run. There's a lot of things I'm still figuring out.
From your pictures you seem like a sympathetic guy I think you can definitely do it :).
Keep working on yourself and don't give up :) And maybe don't focus as much on appearances and external things. It feels a bit like you're trying to live a life based on what you see on social media, what other people like, and not a life based on listening to yourself and what makes you happy.
Don't give up, things always seem to happen when you least expect them to. For me, looks have always been way down the list of things that attracted me to a guy, height never an issue, looks maybe a little bit, but the personality was always #1 for me. Being able to just talk, carry on a good conversation about anything, being honest about himself and being able to make eye contact are important to me. Who knows, maybe you find some common interests, just seems like maybe you're trying a bit too hard, just relax and be yourself. Seems to me that you take good care of yourself, which is really a plus, and I'd say you've got a great smile, so maybe it just takes a bit of time to find the right girl, so don't lose hope.
Shut the fuck up you liar. Everybody here knows that you’re lying. Insecure dudes don’t post 3 shirtless pics and a headshot for people to gaze upon. Stop lying. You’re clearly an attractive and confident dude and you probably get a lot of attention from women. Maybe your personality sucks cause you’re a liar.
Bro don't worry about what these women think
Do you, be yourself, be patient and be friendly. the right girl will come alongSee that last picture, I would have matched with you, but all the topless pictures, no, you'd come over as the gym junkie, maybe you are, I do not know. But I want people to show more than just muscle, more about their life, their hobbies, travels
Its your photos. you're certainly attractive (if thats you). Have a friend take photos of you well dressed and smiling- shirtless, intimidating scares, while you look attractive, dont look like someone I'd look for.
Looks don't matter as much as you might think. If you're doing something wrong, it is almost certainly behavioural. In particular there is somewhat of a paradox with female behaviour in that they like guys that seem dangerous in general, BUT they also need to feel safe around said guy. If they don't feel personally safe, they won't come near... but if the guy doesn't seem "dangerous" at all then they'll disregard him as boring. Trying to find the balancing point is tricky.
Congrats on your gains lots of hard work and discipline there girls like muscles hard to deny that. Nice teeth got all your hair you must not be exposed to the right crowd of girls yet. Tinder, pof okstupid etc are all shit and an ego destroyer. I enjoyed the meetup app when i had more time, just low key meeting large groups of people some singles events check it out if you havnt already.
Whut? You look great. Maybe you’re coming off as overly confident? You can try experimenting with different things like being sweet and mellow or humble and just see what works.
Try white girls bro you got the BBC genetics I'm sure while your chasing black girls white girls ar eye fucking you next to their white boyfriends.
All white women do that they fantasie about black dudes
On the serious side you got a good face and all but it looks like you have taken steroids girls don't like that shitIf you think it depends only on confidence and how you dress/look, that might be where you go wrong. Sure, both are nice, but the genuine nature of a person is the most important part
They might ask if you are gay because only gay people cares that much about body. Try to change your approach what about read some books? And then you tell the girl “ I am reading this book that I really like you remind me of the girl in this book described as one of the most beautiful in the world” believe in me ;)
I can only presume your confidence doesn't come naturally, and is forced. Confidence is more than just trying ones best to seem extroverted. It needs to come naturally.
quite a few are intimidated by strong guys. she has to feel like she can win and be a priority.
don't know you, don't know your social skills.
Dont take this personally but from what I see the only reason you are unsuccessful must be your personality or approach.
Those are just the wrong women. You'll find the right one soon enough. ♥️❣️
You don’t sound very confident. Maybe they just don’t find you attractive. A lot of times they don’t want someone as dark or darker than them...
It depends how is your personality and how do you act also what type of women do you go after/be around?
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Are you telling me you the pink hair girl in the Messenger bubble won't fuck you?Mayb your looking in the wrong places, or they girls u go for are to high maintenance for u? Dw ur still young someone will come, :)
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