How to short being jealous of short petite girls since they always get all the guys?

[Anonymous]

I’m not that tall only 5’6” but in my area and college which is mostly latino and Asian everyone’s very short. I’m light-skin black not particularly big weight wise I’m 120lbs and fairly slim but my natural body shape is triangular with naturally broad shoulders and slimmer hips so I don’t have the curvy body at lot of girls have to make up for my height or face.

I hate being built the way I am I feel huge and awkward. All the guys around me are my same height or shorter and even the tall ones only go for these super tiny girls who look like dolls in comparison to me.

I’m pretty but definitely not as pretty as these other girls and not as small. I just feel huge and unfeminine no matter what I do. I was confident for a long time but it’s just deteriorated as I’ve come to realize no guys around me want me at all except for the rejects (addicts, abusers, players, cheaters) the ones who will go for anyone.

I’m just so jealous of these little cute girls all I’ve ever wanted was to be cute not lanky and awkward at my best I’ll be sexy or beautiful but I just wanted to pretty and cute, liked. I stick out in the worst way possible, how can I overcome by jealousy and hurt?

[TommyWiseau69]

Trust me when I say this, there are more guys that like women that aren't so tiny compared the ones that do. A girl that's 5'6 would be preferred by so many guys, it's in your head. I just saw a 5'5 girl post the same thing. 5'5/5'6 is not "tiny" but who cares. I'm a 5'4 guy myself. I know I'm a short guy but I thank God that I'm not any shorter even if I was a girl at the same height I would not want to be shorter. A lot of guys don't like Hutchins down to kiss a girl or having these weird physical inconveniences at times with little pixie fairy women. At your height you're literally the perfect height gap for like 90% of men, maybe that extra 10% might be super short guys that'll think you're too tall.

And if they aren't short then they're just stupid and taking some crazy drugs. I believe there are sources that do state 5'6 is one of the most perfect height for women, you're fine. Those tiny girls would kill to be your height don't think too much of it. Best of all as long as the guy isn't super tall, most guys will be able to be intimate with you relatively easily. Dw stay beautiful.

[Anonymous]

It could be a lot of things. Maybe they really don’t like black women. I know I’ve had a lot of Hispanic friends who didn’t like black women, even if they did it was shunned upon by their parents, grandparents. I can’t really say w out seeing what you look like. But not just that your personality as well.

[Asker]

I mean I don’t really even know enough guys for them to know my personality. I’m never in lectures or have mutual friends with cute guys. The ones who approach me though have told me my height makes them feel awkward. In the other hand my body shape and face simply doesn’t compare to the other girls they talk to or end up choosing over me.

[Opinion Owner]

Than of that answer came from the horse’s mouth as they say than that’s probably the reason why. I don’t think 5’6” is that tall. Certainly not taller than me. But a lot of men prefer women’s shorter than them. If you had to compare your body to someone famous who would you say you most resemble?

[Asker]

Maybe like a young Brittany spears without all the flashy costumes. We both have a little mild curve not fat but a slim build with wider shoulders than hips. It sounds fine but when you compare it to the girls I’m surrounded by I look near boy-ish they all have perfect hourglasses wide hip, tiny waist, huge boobs, big butt, the whole 10 miles it’s insane

[Asker]

not flat*

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to say that may just be the reason why. What about face wise? Cute? Honestly? Have you had many boyfriends in the past?

[Asker]

I think by face is pretty cute, guys have said I’m cute but not as cute as a lot of the girls around me. I’m 19 and have never had a boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

I wish I could see what you look like. So I take it still a virgin? Not that there’s anything wrong w that.

[Asker]

No faced on here since this is incredible and honestly pathetic. And he’s a virgin consistently I've never even been kissed👍

[Asker]

yes* considering*

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think it’s pathetic. Would you say your standards are high as far as finding a man? Most women seem to have u realistic standards. Even then if they are achievable by a man they seem to be all the same stands other women want so you’re all competing for that too 10% of men.

[Asker]

My type isn’t even the top 10%. I almost exclusively like nerds, introverts, and shy guys. The only ones I’ve rejected have been known cheaters, abusers, players, or men with concerning untreated mental health. If it’s about height I’ve pursed guys my height and shorter. Always rejected or left for another girl

[Opinion Owner]

Have you tried meeting men outside of school? Maybe you need to approach them more especially if your type of man is nerdy. Many of those types don’t seem to have that confidence to approach women. A lot of women look down on them.

[Asker]

I’m not really sure where to meet those kinda guys but if I did I would.

[Opinion Owner]

No links to pics of you so we can see for ourselves?

[Asker]

nope not attaching my face to this post

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well I wish you the best. It’s really hard to say. But in all honestly of you were really cute, pretty, you would have at least had a few crushes on you during your middle school years, even up to now. I don’t want to be mean, but I can’t help you in figuring this out by lying to you. It could be your personality. Maybe you don’t seem friendly. Unapproachable. It could be a lot of things.

[TommyWiseau69]

It's just cause you live in an Asian and latino area. I mean I hate to say it but a lot of guys do like women shorter than them. Most of these guys probably aren't even taller than like 5'7 max cause they're shorter. Go to an area with a bunch of White or Black guys you'll be fine or just find one. They usually aren't short. I see plenty of them with girls that are 5'6. It is relative. Short guys might think you're tall. I'm only 5'4 and when a 5'6 girl stands next to me she is noticeably taller. Some of them might get uncomfortable. But generally even some short guys might not care if your same height/taller

[Berethor]

Height angst trope, why light-skin black girl is surrounded by latinos and Asians? :)

[UniquelyBasic]

Guys aren't passing on you because of height alone.

[Asker]

It’s not the heigh I mentioned it’s combination of my looks, body shape, and height. On top of that as I said I’m the same height of not taller than a lot which some guys have even told me makes them feel awkward.

[TommyWiseau69]

Just find taller guys lol

[Anonymous]

Learn to live with it.