Kind of, but i’ve improved. I refused to ask for help most of my life. Unfortunately for me the most effective path to sobriety requires asking for help multiple times and a great deal more vulnerability that i frankly never believed i would survive prior to those experiences. Now my survival depends on my sobriety and my sobriety depends on my willingness and ability to ask for help.
Aside from that, i never ask for help in my personal life. I ask for help at work almost daily. I’m getting better at my job though and frankly i’m looking forward to not having to. Instead becoming the guy everyone else goes to for help. It suits me better. Ell oh ell!
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I very rarely ask for help or advice. Most things I try to figure out myself and fairly great at it. If I need to ask then l have a problem because they alway answer in an odd language.
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It depends on the help. I find it easy to ask for help with things like groceries/bills if I’m struggling financially, or asking for a ride somewhere if I can’t drive myself. But I struggle with asking for physical help. Which has been a big thing for me during pregnancy.. accepting the fact that I can’t shower myself some days or can’t put my socks & shoes on due to my big baby belly being in my way! I’ve cried many times while having to ask my partner to help me. It makes you feel so incompetent and crippled when you start struggling to do such normal, everyday things. Regardless of how normal and valid it is.
Yep. I find it very difficult to ask for help as I always got tought asking for help is a sign of weakness. From childhood I always had to be the stronger one, the one who had to do things on his own and figure his stuff out. This is also due to some bad situations in my familly and my parents divorcing. So yeah now as a 20+ year old guy I still am conditioned to think I have to figure things out on my own as its burned in my mind that asking for help or even being vulnerable is a sign of weakness.
I guess it depends on the KIND of help I need.
Like if I need directions somewhere, I don't have a problem asking.
But if it's something embarrassing, I'd rather just handle it myself.
100% very much.
I have become Highly Self- dependent person.
It's a horrible trait due to childhood trauma, and now it's not letting me date or even look for a partner.. it has Doomed me to end up single and lonely
Not typically... the main problem for me is recognizing when I would actually benefit from getting some help. Once I recognize that I'm in over my head, I don't have much trouble asking for help.
Very much so, I try to do things on my own since I’m pretty independent and don’t like to be vulnerable. But there are times I also know it’s okay to ask for help when needed.
Not really, but I find it easier to offer help than to ask for it!
Nah. I'm a very capable person though, so I don't really need to ask for a ton of help to begin with.
No, not really. I've gone over that stump, I'm not afraid to say that I'm an alcoholic and I need help, but the help I need has to come from me. I got myself into this mess, I need to get myself out of it
Very difficult, I be like ‘no let me not bother them’
No but I have trouble receiving it when it’s given without me asking for it.
No. Coz I want people to ask for help when they need it too. Everybody hurts
Not since youtube was created. Their search bar doesn't judge.
Only if I feel people will be dramatic & insult me or take advantage of my disadvantage.
Yes. I'm very determined to figure things out in my own
Yeah, because it never gets done right and I can't afford too many fuck ups.
Yeah. In the past some made me feel phantomically indebted in them, so i became as self reliant as i can be.
Yes, I always try to solve the problem on my own.
I have difficulties asking Certain people for help..
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