Do you have a problem asking for help? Why/why not?

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Deformate · Accepted Answer

Circumstantial really. I would readily ask for help lifting something heavy. I would struggle to even hint at needing help if it was emotional or psychological. Especially in todays world. Men are torn down if they express themselves emotionally. Would you date a guy who had a breakdown and cried or would that seem pathetic?

DerekC321 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the problem. I have issues that I have difficulty talking about/asking for help for.

Sonorous · Answer

No. And my answer is simple. If people are willing to help, why deny them that option? Especially if I feel I need it?

Avicenna · Answer

Not when I really need it, no

ohsheeT · Answer

Haha
I look at that picture and that is me 100%
I am always there for my friends they don't ever have to ask me if I see that they need help on there that's just because that's who I am and that's what I would like

When I'm doing something my friend's always say oh I'll be there to help you but I'm one person will ever show up

I don't care what's going on in my life I do not like asking anybody for anything and I really wish that I wasn't that way but that's just who I am I figure if I can't do it on my own then what the f*** is wrong with me lol so many many times I'm on my own and I just keep going forward no matter how tired I get it doesn't matter I'll just keep going forward

JayBfencepost · Answer

My first relationship with my ex-wife, she had mental and physical problems that were always excuses for why she couldn't do simple tasks around the home. I got so used to doing everything, and my kids got so used to not asking her for simple things They ask a mother. When that marriage ended, my new partner is totally opposite and it took me a while to get used to allowing her to do things and asking her to do things and not feel guilty. My kids were overwhelmed having her take them clothes shopping. When I need help. I ask, but I'm a worker and I do a lot of things on my own.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

I rarely ask for help because I rarely need it. I think the last time I asked for help was a few months ago. I bought a new hot water heater and asked for help getting it down the stairs. I was planning on trying it myself, but someone was around so I asked for help.

I always help everyone else, but rarely need or want help myself.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

On the job I never ask for help & all though I should I never do & I always laugh when the powers upstairs always say Many Hands Make Light Work & I turn around & say Too Many Hands Spoil The Gravy. Gravy in my case is overtime.

Off the job if someone offers a hand I never turn it down.

ZackBan · Answer

I don't ask for help often and don't see that as a problem at all.

I would rather fight my own battles and take care of my business.

I'd happily outsource the things I have no way of doing but that's such a rare occurrence as most daily issues I face I got what it takes to fix them

mobiusforniner · Answer

Yes, because generally the help i solicit isn't aligned with my end vision. So it either ends up looking like shit or im painstakingly trying to coach, mentor and inspire my helper to achieve the desired end result. Which involves more work than if i did it myself.

menina · Answer

Yes I do. That's because I was taught that asking for help meant that I was weak and dumb. Now I find hard to change the way I think about this.

msc545 · Answer

I have no problem asking for help if I really need it, but I think other men do. It's like admitting that you are wrong about something or incompetent according to them. When I need to get something done and I don't know how to do it. It's a lot more efficient to just ask about it then fumble around trying to get it done on my own.

Guanfei · Answer

Every time I asked for help, the other persons ended up making it about themselves and I had to help them instead, while still having my own problem.

Or they straight up ignored it.

So what's the point in asking when no one cares?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

The problem is, if everything is so f'ed that i need help, there's just not a lot of people around that can help.

SnowedIn · Answer

Sometimes I do struggle with that.  The times when I do? Fear of rejection. Trust. Don't want to appear weak/needy. Don't want to be a burden.

Sour-rose · Answer

Yes. I'm sour rose and very much sour... but at sometimes, i need help. Or need to tell someone to maybe get subtle advice without saying I need it.

RavVid · Answer

If I know someone who is more knowledgeable I ask for their opinion of course. If it was something physical there would be few people I would ask.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I do have a problem asking for help. Mainly because I don't want to be a bother.

Kabluie · Answer

I have this issue, but because I like to learn, too much. But there are always cool people that enter your life that can sense such and offer and it's wonderful.

josefff · Answer

I help to those who are in need as much as I can without even them asking for it unconditionally, and I ask for help whenever I need

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Sure do. Either the help is incompetent, or I get judged to my face for even needing any.

Fuentes · Answer

No but i refuse to have to ask unless it's dire

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah i feel like a burden doing that and i like relying on myself. people can disappoint you lol

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes. I'm the guy that goes and helps others, not the guy that asks for help. When I do need help it is usually one of the guys from the station.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes I do. I always figure out how to do things by myself. I don't have time to wait for others to give me a hand. I've done jobs that should be done by 2 people by myself.

beebella · Answer

I don't usually like to ask for help unless I know I REALLY need help.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not at all. That is how you learn things.

zero444440000 · Answer

don't have a problem asking for help. more like i don't see the point when they can't help or when i can just deal with the problem myself.

jwmiller95 · Answer

If I feel like I can't figure it out on my own and the internet can't be a good source then yes I'll reach out for help to a friend or family

worldscolide · Answer

It depends on the situation, But in most cases i have no issues asking for assistance.

Andres77 · Answer

I really try to do everything alone. When I need help, I’ll ask

MrPickles13 · Answer

Yes I have a massive issue. I'm not great with communicating and interacting with people plus I don't see myself as worth help most of the time.

boobliker · Answer

some times yes but always do ask, some times Being a bit helpless can get me a date

DiegoO · Answer

I do. I was never encouraged to do so in my family.

OddBeMe · Answer

My god, that’s my wife after a drunken night. Imagine Mona duck-walking to the toilet.

grega239 · Answer

I dont need it I got used to doing everything alone I forget i can

Kelly6 · Answer

yes i have problem asking for help, because i have depression and it makes me feel weaker

Abdulwahh · Answer

No i dont but if you do then its a sign of genuine shyness or pride.

MementoMori777 · Answer

I hate it, I hate needing help 😂

spartan55 · Answer

I've improved, but it's still a struggle.

exitseven · Answer

I never ask for help. I think it shows weakness.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Hmm, sometimes. Depends on what it is.

elontesler3 · Answer

trust me, i invented the Tesler Sibertruck, SpaceseX, and i own Twatter.

collie22 · Answer

I do that When somebody's around

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah sometimes I do, depends who I’m asking

Christoff92 · Answer

No. I'll ask when necessary.

muscles_glasses · Answer

only because I need so much of it

BLP11520 · Answer

If I can't fix it i don't

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes. Alterior motifs.

eagle1951 · Answer

yep.

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