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I have been friends with this girl for over 3 years now. She has been my rock for many difficult situations I went through in my life. I was a victim of domestic violence and abuse, she helped me stay calm, strong, confident, secure, loved. She is very understanding, open-minded, a great conversationalist, I enjoy spending time with her. She is a great listener, wise beyond her years, even though she is a teenager, like me. I've always heard from others how she talks nothing but the best about me. She knows my soul.

But there are some little things that have always made me question weather she's a true friend or not: 98% of the time I am the one to initiate conversations and textings, 97% of the time I am the one to suggests going out together. The things became worse after she found her first boyfriend (10 months ago). He is friends with an enemy of mine and he hates me. He has been draging her away from me. She spends all the time with him and she barely finds one evening a week to go out with me. I've seen him trying to distract her on the street so that she won't see me and talk to me.

GET THIS:
2 days ago I celebrated my 19th birthday. I am known for throwing the best parties in town. It's been like that since 9th birthday. Wich I just realized is 10 years now. 😀 There is always a lot of people. For some reason (still don't know why), only 3 people showed up now. It was very very bad. She was one of them, there were 2 more girls. The plan was to go to an afterparty out, to a café and the other two arranged plans with their boyfriends. I felt disrespected. But than my BFF said she will go out with her boyfriend, as well. I was in disbelief. She betrayed me. She dumped me on my birthday, and chose HIM! As if he doesn't get enough days to see her. So she abandons me when my party was a total bust, instead of staying till the end and comforting me. No matter how nice she was about it, it didn't help. Is she my friend at all? What should I do? (Explain why)

Benefits for men:
Pleasure of seeing hotness

Benefits for women:
Perhaps a self-esteem boost
Hopefully being more likely to have men serve/do things for her

Disadvantages for women:
Possibly increased catcalling/sexual-harassment
Resentment from other women
Possibly receiving less respect
Attracting men who will want to fuck & dump her. Meanwhile most men don't want to be in committed relationships with women who dress too scantily clad.

Disadvantages for men:
Distraction
Guilt, if religious
Having to try not to stare, & experiencing social reparations if they do stare
Sadness that they'll probably never be able to have sex with such hotness

by the way please answer my other 2 related questions:

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/social-relationships/q2153284-overall-do-you-enjoy-it-when-you-see-people-of-your-sexually ("Overall, do you enjoy it when you see people of your sexually preferred gender wearing revealing clothing?")

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/fashion-style/q2154328-generally-speaking-do-you-think-that-wearing-revealing-clothing-has ("Generally speaking, do you think that wearing revealing clothing has more pros or cons for the women wearing the clothing?")