She also may get a self esteem boost.
However people may take her less seriously.
What do you think? More beneficial or disadvantageous? Or neither?
More cons than pros.
First of all, from a PR standpoint, she just lost more than 50% of the population's favor by dressing in a revealing way. Numerous studies show that average and unattractive women actually harbor feelings of anger, resentment, and hostility towards women the perceive are actively competing for male sexual "attention" (not partners, just "attention"). Among attractive women, who actually stand a chance at competing for male attention, the retaliation against the scantily dressed woman may be more "passive" and "subtle." Among average and unattractive women, since they have nothing to lose in terms of male attention, the retaliation against the scantily dressed woman may be more "overt" and "direct."
So, that's #1 (in terms of percentages).
As far as men go, people in advertising or marketing would say, "number of views" is not the same thing as "number of paying customers."
Anyone "selling" advertising space is terrified to price based on "actual conversions." Instead, they price based on "clicks, or views." In female lingo, "Sure honey, you may be getting attention, but WHAT KIND of attention are you getting? Is that necessarily GOOD attention?" (puts cliche' female scripts away).
When I took a negotiation course in law school, we actually tested this male-female dynamic. They made males and females negotiate. Then, they broke out males and females into separate groups.
In the male-only room, the instructor asked, "What were your experiences? How did you feel when she was more assertive? How did you feel when she took a softer approach?"
Men had mixed opinions about most of the questions, except for one. Across the board, men consistently (almost unanimously):
1. Lost respect;
2. Lost trust;
3. Automatically felt the need to get defensive;
4. Sometimes even felt adversarial and hostile;
... when the female "used her sexuality" as part of the negotiation. Whether it was putting on a soft feminine voice, or making sexually suggestive eye contact or facial expressions, or toughing or laughing playfully, or dressing a certain way, or positioning her boobs or legs, etc.
Nearly all men took that as her "thinking" of "him" as:
1. an idiot;
2. able to be sexually manipulated;
3. sexually exploitable / desperate;
4. not respecting the business / professional process.
And just like that, the female had destroyed an opportunity to build trust and rapport.
It definitely draws my attention and I do enjoy looking, but that is about as far as I'm willing to go. I say this because women who dress provocatively, typically mean trouble in my opinion. Do I think said girls/women are bad? No, but I also believe that if you dress for effect that you should expect the effect you get, and no I don't mean that they deserve to be mistreated in any way. Just that if you dress to get attention, hey guess what you will get that attention. Will that attention always be from the people you want to get attention from? Probably not, it's a mixed bag, you should probably not expect one particular result. It's like radar, when it's on it's on and anything that falls within the range of the radar will be detected, the radar doesn't care what it is, it just sees that the object is both within it's range and that it's there.
If you dress to illicit a response, you will get that response, it will be up to you to filter out what you do or don't like. Just sayin' ;-)
The way European going women will be all made to wear veils and burqas
Think women should wear what they want.. if I see a woman wearing something revealing my first thought is *i wish I could wear that* I think they have confidence and I think they mostly wear it for themselves rather than get a mans attention..
I would take her seriously if she puts the effort into looking good then she most likely put effort into other things as well..
I draw the line at Kim kardashian though.. she's trashy though her clothes never fit and looks ridiculous..
but anyone else yes.. if they have the body and the confidence then go for it.
I'd say that it's like 60% pros, but 40% cons. Lots of people might disrespect you and take you less seriously, I've seen it happens first hand! But also, guys look more and you get self esteem boost... It's kinda like this, you get much more attention, good attention and bad attention, but attention nevertheless! So if you like attention it'll be great! If you're really shy it might be terrible for you.
From my experience, wearing less revealing clothes draws all sorts of wrong and bad attention so, I don't do it as often as I did in high school, and even then, I was pretty conservative.
I've noticed that when I wear my most normal clothes, I get approached more often, and that is what gives me the self-esteem boost. Also, more compliments from other girls when I'm more natural.
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That simply depends on what said girl is looking for.
Sex? She will get exactly what she is looking for. She will immediately catch the attention of horny men, and her choice of clothing (or lack thereof) will effectively communicate that she is "down".
Relationship? No. Like mentioned above, she will be giving men the impression that she is looking for casual sex, and in doing so, there will be a major communication error. The guy will be after casual sex, and believe she is also after casual sex. While the girl is after a relationship, and will believe that he is also after a relationship.
I think the cons outweigh the pros. Definitely.
+ she gets men drooling after her (=attention)
+ easy to find hookups
- not be taken seriously
- be objectified because that is how you present yourself
- you only get the worst of guys. Not boyfriend material because let's face it... you're not advertising yourself as girlfriend material either
- be disrespected by society (no, it's not empowerment to present yourself as only mean without brains)
- how about catching a cold?
- should you get raped, there is higher chance of people blaming you because you are "asking for it".
- you won't appear like a classy lady that guys would want to bring home to mom.
I think it all depends on the context. There are different ways to dress for different situations. If the woman is in the workplace, dressing sexy and revealingly will cause people to take her less seriously. That won't be good for her job prospects long term (although some unscrupulous managers or bosses might try to take advantage of her). But if she's out on her own time, and if dressing sexy and showing her cleavage or her belly or wearing short shorts makes her feel sexy and attractive then I think she should dress the way she wants. I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman wanting to show off her assets in the appropriate setting.
I voted 50/50... a beautiful girls can show off to her guy, though I would suggest girls don't do it on the first couple of dates.
Otherwise guys focus too much on your look and body instead of your personality :o
Of course, we guys like it when beautiful girls show off, that's logical :D
Modesty is more attractive when looking for marriage material. Guys look for slutty dressed women when looking for a one night stand. Slutty dressing also needlessly tempts guys and can tempt inappropriate touching (though thats no excuse for guys to touch)
Cons. You dress how you want to be perceived and make an impression, regardless of what it is.
I mean if you're gonna wear revealing clothing, people are gonna perceive you a certain way. I always laugh when I see women who do that, not all, but wear revealing clothing and then complain when guys ogle them and stare at them. It's like what are you surprised? You don't wear that stuff unless you want that kind of attention. It's the same when people act overly sexual, both guys and girls, and they get shocked when people treat them as just a sex object.
Depends on who you ask. If you ask a religious person, they want you to wear something like these two outfits
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Voted 50-50 cause it depends on how revealing and what kind of revealing.
Whore-like revealing is gonna bring more cons. She'll have guys looking which is what she wants, but she won't get taken seriously.
Lady-like revealing will get her attention and get taken seriously.
'Lady-like revealing' 'whore like revealing' wtf
@Touchmehxx Wtf are you talking about?
Lady like revealing? What's lady like. And what's whore like
@Touchmehxx
Whore-like:
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Lady-like:
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I think it was pretty clear what I meant.
But lady like is such an old term. We're not in the fiftys. Girls don't have to act like thag
@Touchmehxx But yet girls only want a gentleman.
Hypocrites.
When did I say that. Also two wrongs don't make a right. That's king backwards. It's wrong for girls to hold unrealistic standards to guys. But instead of battling this you say no we need to hold standards to women too. Idiotic thinking
@Touchmehxx So we should hold zero standards for everyone? Then we'd have shitty people running around the streets.
There's a definition for lady, and for gentleman, if what you like on the opposite gender falls under that definition, then it's ok to say you want a lady or a gentleman. There's nothing wrong in wanting a lady or a gentleman as long as you're reasonable.
But lady often means submissive, polite, quite, soft. And that's just bullshit
@Touchmehxx So being polite is bullshit? What the fuck? XD
And what if I like soft women? Do you have a problem with that?
90% of the women WANT dominant men, so why are you saying submissive is bullshit when women themselves WANT to be submissive? xD
I didn't mean polite is bullshit. And yes most women want to be submissive, most sexually tho. They want equal partnership generally
@Touchmehxx They want the man to treat them equally, but they still want the man to take the reins in the relationship.
Sexually. And those who expect the man to do everything are bitches
@Touchmehxx Not just sexually. Ffs, you're already handing the reins to the guy when you expect him to approach you, take you out on a date, pay... and the vast majority of women do that.
Yea and I'm saying that's WRONG. Men shouldn't be expected to initiate dates, pay etc
@Touchmehxx I only think it's wrong because women will be missing on GREAT guys if they don't approach, but there's nothing wrong in wanting a guy to be the dominant one.
Yes but not to the extent where she's super submissive and it's like we've gone back 1000 years
@Touchmehxx Depends exactly on what you mean by super submissive. I don't like super submissive girls myself, though, but I still prefer to be the dominant in the relationship.
What do you mean by dominant in the relationship
women always rant on about "i dress for myself"
and im sure they do. but what interest do "they themselves" have? feeling the wind on their skin? oh im sure some people love that, but honey you're in-doors..
if there is one truth in the world it is that men are very much visually oriented. we love watching. and we love imagining sexual things.
if you are going to dress scarcely, this is what is going to happen
im sure some girls are unaware of this, like, 12 year olds perhaps. but to anyone beyond puberty this should not come as a surprise
and so i conclude; girls dressing scarcely do so because they want to be found sexually attractive
Solely cons, i don't understand how getting catcalled and be seen onl as a piece of meat who can't wait to get a pounding something fun? People (men and women in general) are usually drawn to modesty, always stay classy and decent :)
PS this is only my opinion, the definition of decency and modesty can differ from a person to person so to each their own ☺️
I didn't vote. It depends entirely on the situation. If we're out, I love to be with the great looking gal that all the guys are looking at but if I take her to church, I'd like her to be much more on the classy side of sexy. In intimate situations, I love sexy trashy, a lot.
i can only speak for myself. I don't really wear revealing clothing. When I do where revealing clothing i do get stares and it makes me a little uncomfortable, so i prefer to dress modestly... i feel comfortable with it. I also don't blame men for looking either
If a woman could make me lust after her by wearing revealing clothes i would be quite a weak man wouldn't i be? I choose not to view womens bodies as sexual in a non sexual setting, so women can dress how they want. They can even be naked if they want to. It may have cons as well as pros for some women as well as men. Id say its about 50/50.
I find that I tend to get more free stuff and people are nicer to me when I dress more provocatively.
Here we go. Anytime it seems like a woman dresses herself up like that is asking for the wrong kind of attention. What I don't understand is when people post these things (pics of themselves) they get mad and offended at you for a someone liking them, huh? I don't understand.
I get just a much of a self-esteem boost if not more from wearing a mid thigh skirt, leggings, tank top, and sweater as I do from wearing a super short dress and strappy heels.
Options are always beneficial. Since you won't be locked to dressing one way or the other based on doing it once, this is solely a pro. You have the option of reaping said benefits when it suits you.
Men get a self-esteem Boston from wearing tank tops, but you don't see all of us wearing it around as if it's a regular t-shirt.
Dressing appropriately applies to males and females, not sure why women think they get a pass.
I think there are more cons because people will assume you're easy and a slut. And then you just lose respect.
I don't think it is that simple. Presentation is almost always situational so without a scenario the question itself is somewhat meaningless. You don't sit in lingerie in the office meeting on global strategy and you don't wear formal at the club. In a general day-off walking on the street type situation it just doesn't matter at all; the hotdog vendor might give you a deal at best.
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