Search Results: getting rejected

I am 27 and I have never had a real girlfriend. I am thinking that I am also considered an incel at this point, considering I haven't touched a girl since 2015. I lost my virginity at age 20 to a 16 year old girl, although it was only a hookup situation and I have only had sex only once. As mentioned, I never had an actual girlfriend.

I only want a woman who has never had her first love or any previous boyfriends. I managed to find 2 girls like that, but they both rejected me on the first date. One was 18 and the other was 17. The date with the 17 year old was last weekend.

I would best describe myself as short (5'6"), dumpy, and getting older.

I am heartbroken because the only chances I feel I had failed, meanwhile, a lot of my peers are getting married and/or having kids.

When I say “dangerous” I don’t mean a guy making some asshole remark like “fuck you cunt” or something else when a woman (politely) turns him down. Him showing some frustrated anger is NOT getting “dangerous”. It might not be appropriate and even creepy. But there is a fine line between him being sour grapes vs. being a legitimate threat.

I’m talking about a guy seriously getting physically violent, legitimately threatening violence or aggressively stalking afterwards. I’m talking in person stalking too (not stalking on social media). Like showing up at the woman’s house or at her work.

I do believe men like this exist. I make zero excuses for them and it’s twisted/wrong. But I also believe they are very rare (less than 1 out of a 1000 men). Instead women get paranoid because of ANECDOTAL evidence. They read a story online or hear of friend of a friend having a legitimately scary incident. Then they get this bogey man complex about men in general.

I say this because I think this paranoia has made women progressively worse in the last few years at tactfully rejecting men. They rather play games, ghost and of course friend zone and rationalize it to themselves out of a misplaced paranoia. When in reality all they have to say is “hey thanks for approaching me but I have to be honest I’m not interested”’. While no guy likes hearing that the reality is 99% of men out there will accept that and move on.

But why is it so hard for women to be (politely) honest? I think the so called rise of the “incel” community is partially attributed to men being frustrated about not getting direct communication from women. The game playing does more psychological damage then they realize.

Most men can take rejection especially in our mid 20s or older. We are used to sticking our necks out and taking the risk. It unfortunately comes with the territory but it is how it is.