Does my future look bleak (romantically and sexually)?

[Inthecraphole]

I am 27 and I have never had a real girlfriend. I am thinking that I am also considered an incel at this point, considering I haven't touched a girl since 2015. I lost my virginity at age 20 to a 16 year old girl, although it was only a hookup situation and I have only had sex only once. As mentioned, I never had an actual girlfriend.

I only want a woman who has never had her first love or any previous boyfriends. I managed to find 2 girls like that, but they both rejected me on the first date. One was 18 and the other was 17. The date with the 17 year old was last weekend.

I would best describe myself as short (5'6"), dumpy, and getting older.

I am heartbroken because the only chances I feel I had failed, meanwhile, a lot of my peers are getting married and/or having kids.

Yes

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[JHNS98]

I see that you have realized this, but you have to drop that purity aspect. A ten-year age gap is too wide for you, this is coming from a guy struggling to think of dating five years younger.

I don't think you realize how loaded the Incel label is, I suggest you research it pefore applying it to yourself, if you haven't already. I sometimes think that I belong to that group, but I am very hesitant to slap that label onto mysef for oll the connotations that follow it.

[qwert1234]

I really hope 16 is the legal age on your area.
Also, expand the demographics. 17 and 18 have different maturity level on a 27yo.

[Inthecraphole]

I seek a woman without a romantic past

[qwert1234]

Then yes, it is bleak.

[Inthecraphole]

Why? If I go for younger girls, my chances shall be higher, right?

[qwert1234]

As I mentioned on my original post - 17 and 18 have different maturity level on a 27yo. Sure, some may go for you, but in general, you have waaaay too much difference on how you think.

[Achille295]

@inthecraphole yes if you go foor younger girls, chances of her not having had a romantic past, increase. But if I were you I would try to not make that such and dealbreaker and rather look at "notch count" since aa virgin is almost impossible to find nowadsy. But if aa girl has been with only 1-2 guys then she is still "worth it". Also, do not look for girls below 21-22, that is still quite young and they are slightly more mature. Below that age girls just haave different views on life and don't want a relationship.

[SphynxUK]

Why are you trying to date kids?
And why do they have to not have loved before or had a relationship? I find this such an odd requirement.

[Achille295]

I believe it's because girls who have had a "first love" or another LTR, will be unlikely to pair bonds on a deep emotional level. This has been proven countless times in psychological studies, goes for both men and women. The more partners we have had, the less likely we'll be able to form lasting relationships

[tatianamay]

Ugh you are pushing 30 and dating underage girls? Pedo

[Lliam]

"I only want a woman who has never had her first love or any previous boyfriends." ROFL What's that hang up all about? What a stupid thing to hold out for.
Yeah, your future looks bleak.

[Melodis17]

Yes, but only because you’re going to go to jail for dating kids.

[Inthecraphole]

The girls I have been with were all legal age

[jaybee281]

Well if that helps in any way "bleak" actually means exposed and raw - That sounds like a good sign to me

[JacobRogers]

I'm kind of just waiting, I've seen milfs checking me out at the pool.
And when i was in school an alarming amount of little girls liked me.
So yeah, that's life for me.

[Wester1967]

No dude. Life does not begin as a guy until after 33-35. Serious and for real, do not take BS before that seriously.

[Achille295]

What are you talking about, a guy's best years is in his 20s

[Wester1967]

@Achille295 Don't make me laugh dudeman.

[Myk13]

I don’t even remember my twenties.

[NathanDavis]

stop looking for underage girls... you're almost 30

[Anonymous]

It looks bleak because of your height bro. My advice, give less fucks if she’s had previous partners as she’s probably learned from mistakes etc and is a better woman. Also, become successful at something. It will make you seem so much more interesting to women. Also, just enjoy life.

[Twalli]

You're problem is that you're too selective. That was fine when you were younger. Now a younger girl doesn't want someone as old as you for a husband and an older woman hasn't ever felt love before.

[Anonymous]

I think be open minded a bit more. Imagine if a girl said to you she doesn’t want you because you’ve slept with a girl. It’s annoying.

[Seangreen]

Your expectationsvare unrealistic. Stroke

[Redstang88]

Well as lining as you keep up this attitude it is

[bamesjond0069]

Are you rich? That will make a big difference.

[Anonymous]

It may be wise to lower your standards a bit...