Should I have any real hope in a future relationship or is it just a fantasy?

[Anonymous]

So after my breakup I have had time to process things about the relationship and at the core of it was I was an autistic guy who was just being used as a roommate who thought he was a boyfriend. I didn’t know this right away but connecting everything months after the relationship ended it really had my blood boiling. I facilitated a better way of life for her she was able to live in a luxary apartment she couldn’t afford on her own, we co-signed a car which she almost immediately took sole possession of and claimed as hers. Like I’m thoroughly embarrassed prior to this I never had a relationship but never in my mind didn’t I think a girl would fake her way through a 2 year relationship just to live better

[Anonymous]

Don't feel too bad about it. There are all sorts of reasons that people decide to be in relationships with each other. And everyone has difficulties interpreting the other's behaviour. Autistic people do struggle more to understand the intricacies of all this stuff, but it's one of the most challenging aspects of life for just about everyone. Not only do people tend to keep some of their true motivations hidden, but people change, feelings change over time, about all sorts of things, not just people. Maybe you were used a bit. Presumably you also got things out of the relationship and her. Maybe you don't need to yourself as a victim, someone taken advantage of. Try to remember the good times. And you learned some things, right? Yes, we have to have hope of better days in the future. It's hard to feel and believe this sometimes, but having faith and optimism is necessary for us to thrive, and to not suffer unnecessarily. Life is suffering. But there are also good times to be had sometimes too.

[Asker]

No I really didn’t trauma that’s it because also she was physically and verbally abusive she has made mental health issues resurface that was under control

[Opinion Owner]

That sounds pretty bad. Maybe you'll need help, speaking to someone about it, to try to understand further.

[Asker]

Like when I would get overstimulated it would make my ocd really bad and she would constantly make fun of me about various things where i would obsessively do it.

[Anonymous]

You will always have a problem with an attitude like this.

[Asker]

How so