We’ve been dating for 3 months (10 dates). We meet up every weekend and he has been the one planning the meet ups. He’s been a real gentleman, he’s very affectionate physically, even in public. Sexually everything escalated on the second date, which I felt was too quick and out of my norm but it felt right in that moment. I started to find myself being emotionally invested in this but I don’t feel the same from him. He hasn’t opened up emotionally, he’s told me likes me and enjoys my company.
It’s now 3 months and I asked him whether he is seeing other people or gone on other dates? His response was he isn’t talking to anyone right now and that he hasn’t gone on any dates since we started seeing each other. He said that he was talking to people before but now he isn’t (which kind of stung). The thing is once I’m investing time in someone, I can’t do the same with others. I told him that’s not the response I expected. I was hoping he would want to be exclusive by now, but instead he said “He wants to take things slow since his previous relationship lasted 5 years, and they went too fast at the start and missed a lot of red flags, he doesn’t want to repeat that”. He kept saying how much liked me and that’s he’s definitely wants something long term and that his timing may be different to mine but that I need to be open with him with what I’m feeling and I shouldn’t hold back. After that conversation, he’s been extra sweet with me cause I think he realised, I wasn’t too happy with what was said.
What do I do next?
Should I communicate it’s been enough time for us to decide whether or not to move forward and that we should stop things here? (Leave things on a good note for the future)
Should I give him more time? Maybe a month max? (But am I being strung along)
Or am I too invested too early? (Should I tell him we need to have less sex cause it’s getting me attached too quick?)
