Do you believe in the saying tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

[Simslover92]

At one point I was bitter and didn't want to believe in it but I've changed course. I now am glad I fell in love despite it not lasting for the rest of my life.

[ElenaLena]

I’ll always choose love.. there’s something beautiful about knowing someone you love is somewhere in this world, breathing, living, and carrying a piece of your heart with them. The warmth of their presence, the excitement of hearing their voice, seeing their name, or simply being beside them, even for a moment, is something you never forget.. those who’ve never experienced love may never know how beautifully alive another person can make your heart feel..

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle all this messy love stuff with a little honesty and a little flirting on the side 😏

I 100% believe that saying. Loving and losing hurts like hell, but it also proves you’re capable of deep connection, vulnerability, and real intimacy. That’s priceless.

Never loving is “safe,” but it’s emotionally numb. You didn’t fail; you lived, you loved, you learned. That’s growth, not a red flag.

[Finchie40]

Yes because we all deserve love and sometimes we encounter bad seeds , before finding a good seed , those bad seeds can teach us and help us to find a good seed as well, of what not to accept and what to accept moving forward. Even though I had some failed relationships it doesn’t mean my girl isn’t out there waiting to be swept off of her feet

[ohsheeT]

I do because you might think there was a loss

And there was in that moment but that experience of all will guide you all your life

So for me its a gain in so ma y different ways

[Anonymous]

I think it is another way to say: Once the cause is clear, wonders disappear.

So it is a relief from that part. Like any other problem or issue someone might experience in their lives.
I think death of a friend or loved one can be the same. I would say I am. grateful for their deaths in my early stage of life.. doesn't mean it is not bitter and I don't miss them today and dearly remember them. I still wish I could see them.. but also happy with whatever I got out of that experience.

At some point I feel rude stating this, as if me saying they were stepping stones.
It is just that they are maybe the most chrished and the reason I now am able to cherish and appreciate whatever I experience (express my love or general feelings towards people and life all over) and understand what being grateful means.

I think love is the same. It hurts as we lost someone we care/d about. We are now able to see our mistakes and true version better in ways we maybe never expected. Again, at the cost of a lost relationship.

I knew souls that passed away, but also in a way had lost love too.

[abc3643]

Yes, absolutely.

I hate saying this because it implies a huge amount of personal suffering... a TRANSFORMATIVE amount of suffering.

Your first real broken heart is necessary to turn you into a real honest-to-goodness human being.

Look at Trump. He's never had a broken heart and look at what a magnificent douche he has become.

The suffering one experiences with a real broken heart is something that creates or enhances empathy in that person... an empathy for the suffering of others.

[sage2021]

I'm still debating whether that's true or not. 🤔

Because if you really love someone and they end up breaking your heart 💔 that is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone!!

I grew up without a father. So I never received love from one parent and I didn't know him.

It really didn't ever bother me because how can I miss someone I don't know? Or love someone I don't know?

For some people it hurts deeply that didn't experience a love relationship and I get that. They can only imagine what it's like. But it's very rare in this day and time to find genuine love that brings you joy and that lasts.

[NathanDavis]

I think it is fair, yes...

especially if you had, for example... four, nine, 19 years of a happiness, and a good relationship... or even some good six months, but then something bad happened at the end

if you were happy meanwhile, I think that was worth it

I think that's better, compared to a life in which you never experienced love and did suffer because of that as well

[Simslover92]

Yes it was a year and 3 months of happiness before it ended. But it really didn't end badly. It was just not meant to be. Oh well. I hope one day I'll find that again but if not then I'll always cherish the love that I had.

[Billlewis]

I'm not sure; that's a tough one. On one hand, it's nice to have had some good relationships, but at the same time, it can be devastating to wait years, even decades, for the right person to come along, and then, when it inevitably ends, or never gets started to begin with, you're worse off than you were before you met them, because they're gone, and every other person you meet from then on, you can't help but compare them to the one you know that you're supposed to be with.

[lightbulb27]

yes loving is better. but they both can hurt, in different ways.

In the end, you want to be in love, not in regret, jealousy, longing. but I bet there's people that disagree with that.

For example, I can't think of anything more sad that losing a child and not knowing where they are, if they are alive or dead. That's reality for some people. What an awful circumstance, that makes me sad.

definitely want a higher power on that one.

[WhitneySnow]

I do agree with that, but I also think you’re wasting your life hooking up with your ex. This is rare among male D&D players, but I think you drew one who is socially confident enough to be a player, or at least an aspiring player.

[Simslover92]

I think you may be right but only time will tell. Some days seem like it's not for nothing and other days it does. But I am getting to the point where I know it must come to an end. I really haven't been out socially in almost three years so now that I'm back being more social (because of my job) I think things are about to change for me.

[WhitneySnow]

That sounds wonderful! I wish your ex would realize what a wonderful partner you probably are, but since he doesn’t I think you will meet at least one other person who does realize that.

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I wish he did too. But oh well.

[gasman70]

it is better to have loved and lost only for this one thing, at least you know what that feeling is, so you don't have to wonder. I've been crushed by love many times, but it wasn't the love that crushed me, it was the other person turning away from my love. Like the time I got a wedding invitation to a wedding to the woman I was engaged to at the time, to a man that wasn't me.

[DJB72]

Hard to say. The love of my life died in my arms nearly two years ago. The pain of the loss has been magnified recently. I think it's better to experience love than never to know that.

[Simslover92]

I'm so sorry.

[rose_noire]

Yes, I do.

Never having loved keeps you safe, but small.

Loving and losing hurts, but it stretches you. It teaches you what you are capable of giving, and what you truly need.

The loss fades. The capacity to love stays.

[sawno]

Its tricky. My ex set the bar crazy high so now its hard to find a partner I can love on that level. But at the same time it was a phenomenal experience I would not want to miss out on, so I am happy it happened.

[Bricealan]

@Simslover92 To this day I can't really know if I was ever in "love', as I don't know what that feels like. I have had very strong feelings, and emotional ties but don't know if that is/was love?

[midnightmoon05]

So glad to hear.
yes. I love that I have been there and agree that everyone must have theur heart broken once… I do wonder about those who have never gotten their heart broken…

[ArrowheadSW]

Yes I think that saying has some merit. I'm sure I've said that to myself before. You certainly wouldn't want to go through life without ever having loved someone.

[andreasderjuengere]

It does not matter.

In any of both cases one will not have seen the ''results'' from experiencing the 'other' option. It will remain a kind of single sided emotional experience. There is no ''better''.

Only a ''different'' one.

[loveslongnails]

I can't guess at that, since the only real loss of love I can imagine would be someone dying while we were in a forever relationship. All the other "loves" up to that point were temporary if I look back.

[Staximus]

Get over that stupid guy already for fuck’s sake, everybody’s tired of hearing about it. If he was the right guy then he would still be with you. Move in with your life already, there’s a million more guys out there.

[thund3rlight]

I like to think that everything has an expiration date, just like life - nothing is forever, but it doesn't mean we should not live a life if its not forever. same with love, enjoy while it lasts.

[Darkest-Knight]

I've been in relationships but not in love, so I wouldn't know. Everything fizzles out after about a year.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Seems like the only people who can truly compare the two don't actually exist.

[browsingthroughthe]

Sometimes.

Unless they're lamenting the expensive split 💰 🤑 📜 🖋️ 🖊️

[AngryCarl3]

Yes, because being in love releases beneficial chemicals like oxytocin and endorphins which you wouldn't have otherwise.

[Shiprex]

It is sad but true that the highs are worth the lows

[exitseven]

I think that if I fell in love once , even though it ended badly means that I could do it again.

[RareBreedOfMan]

Yes, I believe in that old saying I say the same thing about myself.

[msc545]

I don't know. Loving and losing can leave some pretty nasty scars.

[DarKnight36]

I have known people with hearts of stone, of course—but loving does not mean giving up on being loved.

[Laulenke]

It may still hurt but at least you will know then having the I wonders if

[MrChinaski]

I'm getting it engraved on my tombstone.

[MrChinaski]

Does this mean you have genuinely move on? 🤞

[Simslover92]

I think so. For the most part.

[dudeinohio]

Well, you can't miss what you never had.

[EmmaMary]

Most Definitely.

[katiesmuff]

I would agree with that saying!

[TonyMetal___1986]

Yes, even though it's awful...

[xawyx-3]

Not if all you had is unrequited love...

[_Jenny_]

Yes I heard it before

[rgb008]

I enjoy both parts of it

[Paige2006]

I agree with it

[Alexson_stormzy]

Ridiculously... It's better not to have loved

[4ngelic]

Definitely

[Smegskull]

Ignorance is bliss.

[832dreamboy]

Yes.