Do you agree that “its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?”?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I didn’t vote.

There was one ex girlfriend who I really believed would be the one that could of fit this concept. When she broke up with me (a part of me wanted her too) I truly believed it was more of a sad break up and we would respect what we had in the past. We initially agreed to keep it respectful.

Then a few weeks later we met up for business purposes. She then gave me one of the worst insults I had ever taken from a woman in my entire life. It left me reeling for a very long time (years if you want to know the truth). I truly believed she would one day reach out to apologize about what she said. But she never did.

Then one day everything dawned on me. What really happened is she cheated on me right the week before she broke up with me. She had to see me as less than human to self justify her bullshit to herself. That explained everything.

Given that I wish I never met her and no I don’t believe in that concept anymore. For a long time I believed that the golden memories when things were good were worth the pain later.

Now I don’t believe that anymore. I didn’t want to believe she had it in her to treat me like that but she did. The truth nature of most women is conceit. When they no longer see you as valuable then you are expendable.

tfcwiseguy15 · Accepted Answer

"Honeymoon" love feels over the moon. Sharing your life with someone who promises to devote the rests of their life to love, protect, provide and be by your side no matter what (it does not have to be a wedding)... that feeling of mutual live, trust and safety, is beyond compare.

This is true even if we only get to experience it for a short time.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Yep… I had an ex fiancé, I loved him more than I would ever imagine I was capable of loving.

He left, he broke me apart and for the previous 8 months I was putting my pieces back together.

I am still me today, I loved him, I will always love him. I am happy I met him and even if I knew he would break my heart, I would still love him 100 more times.

Just I’s be better prepared for a heartbreak.

I am happy that when I die I can say I loved someone more than I loved myself.

It was beautiful, we had a bitter ending but it’s bittersweet now, I am thankful to him that he taught me love and he made me experience the most beautiful feeling in the world, the fierce innocent sweet intense first love. I will forever be grateful to him that he gave me a chance to experience this feeling and that he loved me more than I could dream about.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely agree. Loving without knowing what the future holds is you being brave. Sometimes you just have to face your fears, sometimes that fear is called "love".

Rosexøxø · Answer

I suppose.

I learned a valuable lesson about DIFFERENCE. Our incompatibility and his lack of love for me presented a major difference to me, and in facing differences, we can cry or get mad, or learn to move on and carry an awareness for them.

Otherwise I would expect everyone to love me and possibly raise my expectations, but having met someone who didn’t love and such, shows me a percentage of people will be subpar and some are just imperfect. Some of them don’t realize and in those areas never try to improve themselves or leave off on good notes, despite having their differences.

Also I was an extremely passionate lover. I enjoyed the feelings felt, after giving the best parts of myself to him and others. There’s some type of reward when it’s helpful to them and when it’s expressive for yourself.

Changiis07 · Answer

Yes I def agree. It teaches you a lot of how you want to be treated and it helps you accept that some things just don't work out

Paradisepup36390 · Answer

This is Shakespeare's most influential question, asked to and by millions for the past 400-500 years.

Here's the thing you need to know about love: It's not a constant, nor is it a foundation of relationships. Romantic Love is like The Ocean, it comes in waves with low and high tides. People rarely stay super affectionate with their partners for long periods of time, but the partners that last a lifetime, bond over being kind, Compassionate, and grateful Team players, whom know how to communicate.

Love is worshipped, and that must not happen. Love is a passion meant for procreation and unions, so relationships and family are created. Beyond that, passion becomes lust, and lust for the sake of lust is completely disastrous for any couple, because nothing is ever enough for the satisfaction of lust.

Now, it's true love is used to mean other things by many people, but it is a realistic goal for families to not depend on exciting bounds of love in order for a relationship to last.

Don't you see, it isn't about love, it is about Commitment, Compassion, and Intimacy. That is what it means to have a healthy relationship, as opposed to living in some fantasy which indulges excessively romantic aspects of love that distract from what love is really all about.

So the answer is just poetry meant to stay in a story. Shakespeare's stories are often tragic and gritty, even if eloquently presented. The fire of your loins do not determine the success of a relationship. Instead, Teamwork, Fidelity, and Communication are paramount, amongst the things I've already mentioned above.

The real question you need to be asking is, would I be better off alone tending to my own needs or with a family to tend to?

Anonymous · Answer

Getting hurt causes trauma. Therefore, I believe avoiding the possibility of getting hurt is the most logical move to make. Especially considering there are bad people who hurt others for their enjoyment or love the thought of others getting hurt

I saw a TikTok recently of an experiment, and there was a man who was drugging a woman’s drink in public, and there were two other men who witnessed this encounter and laughed, even seemed pleased that this man was drugging this woman, a stranger. And I couldnt help but imagine how those rpist sympathizers most likely have assaulted other woman, probably even defended other rpist. I can’t imagine getting manipulated into falling in love with men like that. If I ever fall in love, and even if we don’t work out, I would at least want that man to be an amazing man who isn’t a scum of the earth.

But overall, I’ll rather not risk it at all

Leapfrog00 · Answer

I know a guy who is a virgin, never kissed a girl, and has never been in a relationship. I feel so bad for him sometimes. That would really suck not knowing what it's like to kiss a girl, have sex with a girl, and love a girl. As much as I hate relationships, I miss it sometimes.

TruthBringer · Answer

Yes and No.

Sometimes you have to go through hell to appreciate heaven, yes. However, if you only went through hell and didn't manage to find heaven, then going through hell would not be worth it.

Generally, it is worth the risk as it s a journey to self-development and getting directed to a person love. But for those who give up by the slightest of adversaries are better to just not love and save themselves the unnecessary pain.

Simslover92 · Answer

It's better to have loved and been loved than to have never experienced it at all. I was almost one of those people to have never have experienced love and now that it's gone I wouldn't change it for the world. I think people need to experience love at least once in their lifetime.

Luopio27 · Answer

I've always faced rejection. Having sucess even once, even if it doesn't last long is better, way better than nothing.

A former female friend of mine had one night stands with most guys she liked but rarely ever got anything longer lasting. If most of the girls I found atractive and had a crush on, I could have a museum of pictures of the hundreds of pretty girls that I was with in heaven. I mean thats better than nothing.

Gothicprincesssoph · Answer

Yes I agree. There are certain memories, sensations, shared moments and intimacy that you only get from love and what that feeling/chemical reactions bring.
Even if it ended poorly those moments and feelings with stay with you forever.

OptimisticGirl · Answer

Love is one of the greatest experiences. Whether it be romantic, platonic, or familial, loving someone or something is what we live for. To go through life without knowing what that strong passion and desire feels like would be such a shame.

As for the heartbreak that follows losing love, sure, it’s going to hurt like hell. But it can never take away those amazing experiences you once felt and you’re only going to grow from it if you survive the pain.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Disagree.  Hurts too much to lose someone or something you love. Especially if it's a break up. There's an added feeling of personal rejection there.

Anemone978 · Answer

I disagree I never want to fall in love again.. I still ain't over that shit... Really liking someone... yeah, I can do that but I doubt I will ever truly love someone ever again.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Definitely better

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Yes. I love being part of someones life even if it was for a short while. I dont ever want to stop loving

Normaldude444 · Answer

No. I have been cheated on by my ex of two years. I wish, I never met her. I don't need that experience. It has been 100% negative.

Valso · Answer

Disagree. Love sucks and it's better if you've never experienced it. I wish I had a DeLorean, so that I can go back in time and stop myself from going on that trip where I met it (love).

AliSulayman · Answer

Yes and no. Yes cause you learn more about love and choose wisely in future. No cause it affects your trust and tolerance in your following relationships.

RationalMale · Answer

Overall, yes. It's better. During a breakup, yes it hurts like hell and the world is ending. But you also had experiences with that person that make life more worth living.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i super agree with this because life is short. enjoy life!

AdithyaR · Answer

I definitely don't agree. I have loved and lost and if I could go back in time I wouldn't have even tried in the first place.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I think so because feelings whether good or bad are part of life. And to live is nice.

DermalPunch · Answer

Oh I absolutely agree.

fonduegirl · Answer

That's too amatonormative for me!

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I think I disagree...

marish01 · Answer

If only we get married and get kids

brandon1122 · Answer

Both has its pros and cons so can't pick one.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Definitely do not agree

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone should experience love.

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