Do you agree that “its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?”?

[Anonymous]

I agree

I disagree

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Can someone explain why they agree?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t vote.

There was one ex girlfriend who I really believed would be the one that could of fit this concept. When she broke up with me (a part of me wanted her too) I truly believed it was more of a sad break up and we would respect what we had in the past. We initially agreed to keep it respectful.

Then a few weeks later we met up for business purposes. She then gave me one of the worst insults I had ever taken from a woman in my entire life. It left me reeling for a very long time (years if you want to know the truth). I truly believed she would one day reach out to apologize about what she said. But she never did.

Then one day everything dawned on me. What really happened is she cheated on me right the week before she broke up with me. She had to see me as less than human to self justify her bullshit to herself. That explained everything.

Given that I wish I never met her and no I don’t believe in that concept anymore. For a long time I believed that the golden memories when things were good were worth the pain later.

Now I don’t believe that anymore. I didn’t want to believe she had it in her to treat me like that but she did. The truth nature of most women is conceit. When they no longer see you as valuable then you are expendable.

[RobEdelman]

Bingo

[tfcwiseguy15]

"Honeymoon" love feels over the moon. Sharing your life with someone who promises to devote the rests of their life to love, protect, provide and be by your side no matter what (it does not have to be a wedding)... that feeling of mutual live, trust and safety, is beyond compare.

This is true even if we only get to experience it for a short time.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep… I had an ex fiancé, I loved him more than I would ever imagine I was capable of loving.

He left, he broke me apart and for the previous 8 months I was putting my pieces back together.

I am still me today, I loved him, I will always love him. I am happy I met him and even if I knew he would break my heart, I would still love him 100 more times.

Just I’s be better prepared for a heartbreak.

I am happy that when I die I can say I loved someone more than I loved myself.

It was beautiful, we had a bitter ending but it’s bittersweet now, I am thankful to him that he taught me love and he made me experience the most beautiful feeling in the world, the fierce innocent sweet intense first love. I will forever be grateful to him that he gave me a chance to experience this feeling and that he loved me more than I could dream about.

[TenderFantasy]

If you guys broke up it was NEVER a real love. Someone who loves you will not try to hurt you.

[Gagname]

@TenderFantasy
So only the couples who have stayed together forever have ever been in love, huh? 👌 Lol

@lafemmefatale_1
Heart felt and tender words from you.

Sometimes people are right but the timing is wrong, and Vice versa. And sometimes people f-ck up and sometimes they are bad people and you find that out.
And sometimes you’re almost but not quite right for each other.

And “Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough”…
https://youtu.be/HKy23uOcvrw

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Gagname Yep, in our case it was the timing. We have talked about this before break up, in another situation we’d already been happily married.

But things happened that we couldn’t predict, we tried, but in the end the timing didn’t work in our favor.

He told me I will always be the biggest love of his life and maybe when he is on his deathbed, he’ll think of me and that he loved me truly and if not the things that happened against us, we’d been married long ago.

I believe him. And while I was still hurt, angry and disappointed when we broke up, I now understand that timing is the god and sometimes things just happen and you have to accept and keep living happily.

I don’t blame him for a break up anymore. Anyone in his place would do it earlier, if he was opposed by the same circumstances as him.

[Gagname]

Ok. That’s unfortunate. But yeah, sometimes things just aren’t able to work out.
I’m glad it was overall a very positive thing for you that you think of fondly today.

[TenderFantasy]

@Gagname I know this is a late reply but I still don't agree really. I mean, commitment to somebody ESPECIALLY in their time of need can be crucial. If you break up, it means there were fundamental differences there, maybe in values, etc. but yeah, it's life and by the way, you didn't have to make fun of me or be sarcastic with your comment, that was hurtful.

[TenderFantasy]

@Gagname try to think about it from MY perspective too. I broke up with an ex-fiance too but mainly because of the abuse I took and our fundamental differences. That DOES happen and I'm glad we broke it off. Life's been MUCH more peaceful with him out of my life and as a pleasant surprise, I found someone MUCH more compatible. But even if I DIDN'T I STILL in many ways regret that relationship! But yeah, regret isn't so good of a feeling so I just move on.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Absolutely agree. Loving without knowing what the future holds is you being brave. Sometimes you just have to face your fears, sometimes that fear is called "love".

[Rosexøxø]

I suppose.

I learned a valuable lesson about DIFFERENCE. Our incompatibility and his lack of love for me presented a major difference to me, and in facing differences, we can cry or get mad, or learn to move on and carry an awareness for them.

Otherwise I would expect everyone to love me and possibly raise my expectations, but having met someone who didn’t love and such, shows me a percentage of people will be subpar and some are just imperfect. Some of them don’t realize and in those areas never try to improve themselves or leave off on good notes, despite having their differences.

Also I was an extremely passionate lover. I enjoyed the feelings felt, after giving the best parts of myself to him and others. There’s some type of reward when it’s helpful to them and when it’s expressive for yourself.

[Rosexøxø]

I may add more to this but I have to run lol

[Changiis07]

Yes I def agree. It teaches you a lot of how you want to be treated and it helps you accept that some things just don't work out

[Paradisepup36390]

This is Shakespeare's most influential question, asked to and by millions for the past 400-500 years.

Here's the thing you need to know about love: It's not a constant, nor is it a foundation of relationships. Romantic Love is like The Ocean, it comes in waves with low and high tides. People rarely stay super affectionate with their partners for long periods of time, but the partners that last a lifetime, bond over being kind, Compassionate, and grateful Team players, whom know how to communicate.

Love is worshipped, and that must not happen. Love is a passion meant for procreation and unions, so relationships and family are created. Beyond that, passion becomes lust, and lust for the sake of lust is completely disastrous for any couple, because nothing is ever enough for the satisfaction of lust.

Now, it's true love is used to mean other things by many people, but it is a realistic goal for families to not depend on exciting bounds of love in order for a relationship to last.

Don't you see, it isn't about love, it is about Commitment, Compassion, and Intimacy. That is what it means to have a healthy relationship, as opposed to living in some fantasy which indulges excessively romantic aspects of love that distract from what love is really all about.

So the answer is just poetry meant to stay in a story. Shakespeare's stories are often tragic and gritty, even if eloquently presented. The fire of your loins do not determine the success of a relationship. Instead, Teamwork, Fidelity, and Communication are paramount, amongst the things I've already mentioned above.

The real question you need to be asking is, would I be better off alone tending to my own needs or with a family to tend to?

[Anonymous]

Getting hurt causes trauma. Therefore, I believe avoiding the possibility of getting hurt is the most logical move to make. Especially considering there are bad people who hurt others for their enjoyment or love the thought of others getting hurt


I saw a TikTok recently of an experiment, and there was a man who was drugging a woman’s drink in public, and there were two other men who witnessed this encounter and laughed, even seemed pleased that this man was drugging this woman, a stranger. And I couldnt help but imagine how those rpist sympathizers most likely have assaulted other woman, probably even defended other rpist. I can’t imagine getting manipulated into falling in love with men like that. If I ever fall in love, and even if we don’t work out, I would at least want that man to be an amazing man who isn’t a scum of the earth.


But overall, I’ll rather not risk it at all

[TenderFantasy]

Exactly!

[Leapfrog00]

I know a guy who is a virgin, never kissed a girl, and has never been in a relationship. I feel so bad for him sometimes. That would really suck not knowing what it's like to kiss a girl, have sex with a girl, and love a girl. As much as I hate relationships, I miss it sometimes.

[TruthBringer]

Yes and No.

Sometimes you have to go through hell to appreciate heaven, yes. However, if you only went through hell and didn't manage to find heaven, then going through hell would not be worth it.

Generally, it is worth the risk as it s a journey to self-development and getting directed to a person love. But for those who give up by the slightest of adversaries are better to just not love and save themselves the unnecessary pain.

[Simslover92]

It's better to have loved and been loved than to have never experienced it at all. I was almost one of those people to have never have experienced love and now that it's gone I wouldn't change it for the world. I think people need to experience love at least once in their lifetime.

[Luopio27]

I've always faced rejection. Having sucess even once, even if it doesn't last long is better, way better than nothing.


A former female friend of mine had one night stands with most guys she liked but rarely ever got anything longer lasting. If most of the girls I found atractive and had a crush on, I could have a museum of pictures of the hundreds of pretty girls that I was with in heaven. I mean thats better than nothing.

[Gothicprincesssoph]

Yes I agree. There are certain memories, sensations, shared moments and intimacy that you only get from love and what that feeling/chemical reactions bring.
Even if it ended poorly those moments and feelings with stay with you forever.

[OptimisticGirl]

Love is one of the greatest experiences. Whether it be romantic, platonic, or familial, loving someone or something is what we live for. To go through life without knowing what that strong passion and desire feels like would be such a shame.

As for the heartbreak that follows losing love, sure, it’s going to hurt like hell. But it can never take away those amazing experiences you once felt and you’re only going to grow from it if you survive the pain.

[TenderFantasy]

Disagree.

Hurts too much to lose someone or something you love. Especially if it's a break up. There's an added feeling of personal rejection there.

[Anemone978]

I disagree I never want to fall in love again.. I still ain't over that shit...
Really liking someone... yeah, I can do that but I doubt I will ever truly love someone ever again.

[DizzyDesii]

Definitely better

https://www.youtube.com/embed/T5LgpD_zEGE

[Boomchakalaca]

Yes. I love being part of someones life even if it was for a short while. I dont ever want to stop loving

[Normaldude444]

No. I have been cheated on by my ex of two years. I wish, I never met her. I don't need that experience. It has been 100% negative.

[Valso]

Disagree. Love sucks and it's better if you've never experienced it. I wish I had a DeLorean, so that I can go back in time and stop myself from going on that trip where I met it (love).

[AliSulayman]

Yes and no.
Yes cause you learn more about love and choose wisely in future.
No cause it affects your trust and tolerance in your following relationships.

[RationalMale]

Overall, yes. It's better. During a breakup, yes it hurts like hell and the world is ending. But you also had experiences with that person that make life more worth living.

[sheenagwapa]

i super agree with this because life is short. enjoy life!

[AdithyaR]

I definitely don't agree.
I have loved and lost and if I could go back in time I wouldn't have even tried in the first place.