Is it bad if I avoid dating and relationships and I just try to become more physically attractive (looksmaxx) and get wealthy (moneymaxx) ?

[Anonymous]

Yes. That is unfortunate.

No. That is a good way of living.

[jennifer_bloom]

I read a free psychology article and the psychologist said people who marry people they are deeply interested in will one day wake up and realize the person has lost all their appeal. It's part of the human condition, to get bored of stimulation, regardless of how attractive the girl might be. It's just like nachos taste good but if you eat the same nachos every single day for 5 years, you will end up finding plain oatmeal to be more appealing than nachos.

This hype about getting a hot woman is a temporary hype, if you got her, you would get bored of her and regret not choosing woman with better personalities and easier standards to maintain. It's why good looking celebrities get dumped faster, the guy she marries made a huge effort to get her and when he got bored, he did not want to maintain the same level of interest and work he did for somebody he was no longer extremely attracted to. Humans rest when they are tired and attraction rests when it is satisfied. It does not stay at the same level forever.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It depends. Are you not dating because you don't have an interest in it, so you focus on the other things you'd like as an individual? If so, that's not bad at all. You do you and you be you. But if you're doing it because you think it'll increase your chance & success in dating later, well, that might be a different story. As there's a good and bad side to that, but it depends on which you're more of. But it's never a bad thing to have personal development and improve yourself before you get a partner. Especially if you think you need it for yourself. But if you only do this stuff because you think it'll just lay you dates might not be the best approach.

[Asker]

Yes. I do not expect getting a partner. I just do it fir myself and live life.

[strateguy632]

it depends if that is due to hopeless it is bad. wealth for greed is bad but for use like a tool is fine.
chritianity taught some should be single and some should marry.
it is not a contradiction but for different people. but not everyone should be a preist celibate some must marry as a catholic sacrament while others preist celibate.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

If you're not going to be dating anyone, why do you care if you're attractive or not?

Why not go full-on hideous and make even more money?

[Asker]

Because looks and attractiveness determine vastly how people perceive you and thus will aid me in my economic endeavors as well.

[SotiCoto]

I used to think the phrase "you do you" sounded stupid, and suspiciously similar to "go fuck yourself" ... but in this case it seems appropriate.
Just do whatever you want. It is your life. Ain't anyone else's business to judge unless you're interfering with their lives.

[nastyb]

its a very shallow way of looking at things. because truth is... plenty of unattractive and poor guys who have wives.

[Asker]

I don't know many unattractive guys my age wgo have success with girls.

[nastyb]

@Asker

Ohhh trust me.. there are plenty

[Asker]

Women probably are attracted not to them but what men can do for them.

[nastyb]

Maybe its your personality that sucks? You can be a below average looking guy but still have good personality

[CrabCakes11]

It’s fine. If you’re not interested in dating, and you are interested in those things, go ahead

[Asker]

As an unattractive guy i should first maximize the things I can in my appearance as it is the most important thing in attraction.

[CrabCakes11]

Not particularly.

[Asker]

You seem reluctant... It say you are in a relationship. May I ask how tall is your boyfriend? (assuming you are straight ofc).

[CrabCakes11]

He’s 5’5 or 5’6

[Asker]

Weird... I wod say he is too short to have a girl but maybe he is really gokd looking

[Asker]

Good*

[CrabCakes11]

I think he’s attractive

[Asker]

It is good enough for me.

[OddBeMe]

I don’t think a one way approach is good for anything. Any problem requires multiple avenues to solve.

Taking breaks and diverting time to certain issues may be key. But don’t look at it as MGTOW absolutist bullshit. People aren’t like that. Just the fringes are.

[Pohjolan]

Avoid? You are a guy. Women rarely make (real) moves on guys. Its fine to concentrate on yourself but you don't have to go full monk mode for that.

Do keep socialising but you don't have to bother with chasing women.

[avery58]

It might actually better to focus on yourself without distractions

[Androktasia]

No, I do the same because I have many dreams and things I want to achieve so putting my energy/money/time into other people is just a waste of it

[LiamJHayden]

It is good to improve oneself irrespective of relationship status. If she is a keeper she will be attracted to you and will support it, not hinder it. If not, she can keep on moving.

[4ngelic]

it's good to try to become more attractive and successful, though dont think you should cut out dating, sex, etc

[Asker]

It is better to do it. Women want to be approached by attractive guys only.

[captain_voidwalker]

Nope Benjamin Franklin said it best

[Nikki1989]

Do you really think anyone cares what you do?

[FuqUFggt]

If you are an American man dating American women, relationships are worse than poison. Less than zero value.

[AlexEfron]

I'd say that's the best way in life 😂. At least that's how I lead my life now

[exitseven]

No, you will be living the best life you can.