So I’m a 21 year old (F) and I have never been in a relationship or even been in a date. I am pretty shy and don’t go out to properly meet guys so I chose to go on a dating app. I found this guy who’s 22 and he lives in the same state as me but 2 hrs away. We’ve been talking for 2 months now, essentially he asked me on a date and I agreed. I told my mom about it, and she at first was happy for me but then she started to get all hysterical and telling me that I don’t know this guy enough for him to pick me up and bring me on a date and showing me a video of some girl meeting a guy from online and ending up being stabbed. For context I don’t drive bc I have bad vision, but to help elevate her worry I asked her if she would feel better if she met him first before we went on the date and she said yes and he agreed that he would do it. This Sunday we were both looking forward to going on that date till my mom said she didn’t want me going on a date bc she was going away on vacation and didn’t want me going anywhere with someone she hasn’t met. When I told her about him initially she said it wasn’t a good idea for me to have him pick me up in his car, and then she said she didn’t want me going anywhere with him, after that she was telling me to have him come to my home and I cook dinner for him and have our date at my house but I told her no because that would just make everybody uncomfortable. The other day when she was on the phone with my aunt she told her that I was fragile and that I was unable to handle myself, I took offense to that because I have never put myself in a situation where I would need to handle something and I didn’t think I was incapable of taking care of myself. This is the first boy I told her about and I feel like she’s ruining my chances of being in a relationship because of her paranoia and it makes me not want to be in a relationship at all to avoid this happening.
What should I do?
What should I do?
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