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This is a good question.
I did not actually vote because my vote would be C Other.
I think for the sake of humanity, the correct answer is A because it converts you into a tolerable mature human being in most cases.
That's what happened to me after my first heartbreak 40 years ago.
However, personally, I'd vote for B now because my subsequent heartbreak 30 years ago really ended my life. I've been alive, but not really living since then. I never adequately recovered and, even if we could be a couple again now, those two people that we were 30 years ago are now dead - we are different people to a large extent now and know things about each other and our current selves so that we would not be a good couple now. And finally, at our age, there's little time left to make it meaningful.
So, I am not so much heartbroken anymore but devastated and mourning the loss of the life that I should have had, but that another man is living.
Looking back, I needed to have that first broken heart to grow up and become a mature empathic human, but relationships destroyed my life and I would have been much better off had I never got into another one after that first one ended 40 years ago.
Yes, we can live in a box and never interact with anything outside that box, but how could you measure the quality of that life? Some people refuse to have pets... as the pets will die before them... yet look at the special moments we can share with pets, adding both to their lives and ours. It's about making the most of the time we have rather than focusing on when that time ends.
I would never have understood the value of love if I never lost it. When we see things as givens that just should be, we don't place any value on those things. Just look at people who focus on their own sense of entitlement. It's hard to put value and appreciation on entitlements. How often do you think about the air you breathe or show any appreciation for it?
Without negative, there can be no positive, for we wouldn't have anything to compare it to. Hot or cold temperatures are only perceived as that when we have a norm to compare it to. If you get too hot in the summer, how would you describe living on Mercury?
I would never choose to limit my life, just because everything comes to an end.
Kinda but not really. Like what I went through was very shitty and it basically changed me and my outlook on life because i never knew how deep love was until I experienced that shit. BUT I would do anything to have that feeling again (in a healthy setting). It gives life a whole new meaning.
Voted B. I was better off without experiencing falling in love followed by a heartbreak. You don't know how painful it can be painful to deal with heartbreak and letting go of that person unless you fall in love. So, yeah, I was happier and carefree before I experienced love.
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It’s true to me. Love when nourished correctly can be a beautiful garden to live in. If you never smelled the wonderful aromas of roses and orchids, you wouldn’t value it the same way as others do. Falling in love takes courage because nothing in this life is guaranteed so there is always expectations you could lose it all.
Through the absence of love does hurt, it sometimes takes a toll on us and knocks us down to the ground as if there is an anchor dragging us the bottom of the ocean. The pain can be an important lesson about how to evolve and swim back to the top by learning from the mistakes and self appreciation.
It’s not easy but the experiences reminds us that when we have love in front of us again, to appreciate the beauty of it all.
When my wife died I didn't realize what I would have to face in life. Things that I never considered being an issue have become a huge obstacle to overcome. I tried to tell the Chaplain that I was considering it like a battle, but he said think of it as a war because you're going to lose some battles, just win the war. So I don't know the answer, yet.
Absolutely it’s true! I can’t imagine even going through high school w/o a boyfriend who loved me, or college too for that matter! I could not imagine what it must be like to go through life being unloved! No, give me a real passionate true love that ends tragically any day over never being loved at all! That’s just too sad to even think about.
It certainly is true for me. However, that's because I also experienced a great deal of joy in love. That has made the loss worth it. However, I have known people who have experienced nothing but loss in love. They haven't experienced the joy I have. Only an endless cycle of pain. For those people I understand that the above saying is not true at all.
Yes, everything that we go through, whether for good or bad shapes and molds us into the person we will be afterwards. It's not saying it will not be hard because there are plenty of challenges we will face along our journey and that is how we learn and grow from our experiences. The more experiences we've been through the personal growth there will be.
The pain of having your heart broken is virtually unbearable, but its a pain that changes you and makes you a better person if you deal with it in the right way, and don't just let it eat you inside. I'd never change or want to undo any of the relationships I've had, each one has added to me as a person. I can't imagine never having experienced love even though I've been hurt, and may well be hurt again, it's all part of life, and it won't stop me from loving in the future.
Yes because lost love, while painful, is what makes a person. Either makes them a bitter cry baby or a more resilient human... People without any love will soon enough wonder about what everyone else has that they dont. Dont believe me? Just look at the pitiful responses from all the age 30+ virgins on GAG.
I mean it’s all good life experience and builds who you are. I firmly believe what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Although while going through the depression it’s hard to have this positive outlook
Da, to live by the false one might as well be a person saying I don't want to live because it's better just not to cause things happen in life.
Which I may have depression myself even I find that dumb.
Yes, it’s true for me. The loss of the relationship was unbearable for a time but I look back and was blessed to have that love during that time of my life.
And yes, at some moments, I swore I’d never do it again. But I will.
Yes because even though the loss hurts, you still had a connection and you still have good memories to look back on. Plus, the experience of love and loss help you grow, learn boundaries, and discover who you really are when push comes to shove.
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i understand the meaning is to have an opportunity then miss one. But for me its regret. If you invest a lot time and energy then it all goes to waste it feels like a loss on so many accounts.
I suppose it depends on whether the love was returned. I've loved other people only for it to never be reciprocated, so would argue better to not have loved at all.
While if one of those loves had been returned, I can easily see how it might have been worth it and given me the hope and confidence to continue on.
It's taken out of context a lot clearly guy's and girl's require social interaction it's just a matter of social interaction between relationships becoming friends or in a sexual relationship. In any event that is just my humble opinion.
Sometimes I wish i never met my ex because I could deal with being single.
Well, in my view. It is better never to be in love. Always
I think so. I lost someone precious to me and sure it hurts, but but I'm happy I met her and I cherish these memories we had
No, id rather have not met the people and been spared the pain.
u absolutely yes... they gave life to my life, they still do...
Wiser yes, more scars yes , red pill blue pill says Morpheus
