Should I be worried for my future😞?

[Anonymous]

I am 23 and single no kids and i wanna be a mom one day and i just worry it won't happen because I've had bad luck with relationships and all and i wanna have a child even if its just one child its my desire but im not rushing anything as I've been focused on myself and work but i have a fear it won't happen and even people younger than me have kids i feel sad and insecure at times. It could be too late...

[btbc92]

Asker, what is more important? A child, or making sure who you with love you for YOU? What I began to realize is that I remember one of my family members was told by my late great-grandma who was concerned she wouldn't live long enough to see her get married. She said this "(her name) it doesn't matter. Live your life." You have or remember to LIVE YOUR LIFE. I realize that these things, the people in it, etc all pass away with time. It is not going to last long. But we have to make it to the end of this life, our life and meet the father, the creator of all living things. Just because others have marriages and children, that doesn't always mean they have it better. And just because we're single, or somebody like me who never dated or been with any man can say we have it worse. Our life is our life. And the only one who will know more is God himself. I understand you want to be a mom one day. But unless you adopt or get IVF, how will you be a mom, when you could have got pregnant anytime before if you're sexually active? If you are on birth control, why be on it if you want a child? For you to say you don't want to have children with the wrong person or risk stds? Well, that is always a risk no matter what you do if you are not a virgin and want that. You say you had bad relationships in the past. But remember, those were relationships you picked. Nobody had to force you into that. It's why you wait for marriage to have sex, to not just date anyone, to friend them first, to really SEE the true them, etc. You have to be compatible.

I know you say you are not rushing anything. But you have to think about if you have the right reasons first. I believe with anything until you have a man who really loves you and shows that, that you cannot expect to want children until you are with a man who truly desires that life with you with 0 regrets. It's one thing to have kids, it is easy to do so if you time that right. However, what is hard is raising them and having them with a person who may not be right for you or you end up regretting having children with them. It is important that having a person who truly cherishes you is more important than children right now if that is what you desire. Because without that person, then you run the risk of being a single mother and that can affect your children's personal happiness, well-being, upbringing and it can impact their future and their choices. That is what I had to think about. I rather not have kids than destroying their future. Think as if you're a mother already. What is BEST for your children?

[SofiSin667]

You’re still young and if all else fails you can go to a specialized bank for these types of things and they’ll walk you through the process of having your own baby.

[Asker]

I deleted all dating apps because mostly all guys just wanted sex no relationship and im taking a break being single but id rather meet people in other ways, it drained me emotionally being online. Yeah I've considered that if i can't find someone or adoption i just want to be a mom still and its hard finding someone good for you these days and especially someone whom will commit to you.

[SofiSin667]

I’ve considered it myself. If anything it’s more convenient because you’d get to pick and choose the type of donor and once all that is dealt with you’d be on your way to having your own child without dealing with relationship drama or custody battles.

[es20490446e]

Your fears are justified. Many people tried finding a partner for a long time, and ended with no one.

Meet as many interesting people as possible, out of dating, and only date a prospect that you have known for a while and you really feel attracted to.

[Renegade_Sailor]

Stop focusing on work, start focusing on finding a husband.

Worry about finding a stable relationship, worry about finding a man who you can become his ride or die.

[Asker]

If i stop focusing on work completely tho i have no job and basically nothing and won't be able to support my family

[Renegade_Sailor]

Support your family?

[Asker]

My future kids.. um I prefer NOT to be a stay at home mom

[Renegade_Sailor]

So you want someone else to raise them? Seems kinda pointless to me.

[TheBigGuy9]

We’ve all had bad relationships. It’s the way of life. You should always look for someone at your level or higher. Really focus on your hobbies, continue doing what you do and you will meet someone. I know you will. God Bless.

[tobr83]

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[swettannie]

could you dm me?

[swettannie]

i guess not?