Korean boyfriend really hot tempered..should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

OK so this is the first time I've had a Korean bf...and I though he was the perfect gentleman ...hes really sweet and affectionate and treats me really well...until we got into a fight...it started little but then he got really hot tempered...I've never seen this side of him and it kinda scared me I couldn't believe how he was acting towards me... I'm supposed to be the girl he likes but he so easily turned on me...then before the night ended he apologized to me and we made up but I'm kinda worried... is this a sign that he could get abusive with me later ? I'm not scared of him when he's just himself but now I am scared of him when he's mad. should I be worried about our future? I'm not korean and I'm not even Asian and I've never experienced such an argument before... I don't know what I should do from here

[Anonymous]

I'm Korean, there are way too many Korean guys who are gentle one moment then flip like crazy the next moment. Then they apologize down on their knees sometimes even crying, asking for your forgiveness. You accept his apology and the next time he will physically hurt you, then again ask for your forgiveness with "I must have gone crazy..." with tears in his eyes. Trust me, you should run. But not abruptly. Way too many guys hurt the girls who break up with them, and it's not uncommon they end up killing their ex girlfriends. They even have this term in Korea that roughly translates to "safe break-up" ("anjeon-ibyeol"). Wake up. Trust your instinct. If you feel uncomfortable enough to post your concern here, what your instinct is telling you is right.

[kimmylb]

Well depending on the argument depends on the reaction you will get. I've dated plenty of guys who have been down right scary when they were mad. One time one of my exs punch the window because he was so angry. BUT the fact of the matter was that he never laid a hand on me at all while we were dating and what not. I'm not saying don't be worried, but also think of it from his side also. Most people are hot tempered and want things to go their way, its the way he comes about doing it depends. Stay cautious but I say do not run just yet unless he starts showing signs of being emotionally and physically abusive

[midgi0415]

Trust me you should be worried..I had that happen to me and he wasn't Korean he was from Puerto Rico. He was perfect until we had an argument and he scared the crap out of me he was so angry... Later on he started getting controlling, deleted everything off my MySpace and tried to tell me I said it was okay.. He told me what I could and couldn't wear and it just got worse until I went to stay at a friend's house and he kept calling me saying he couldn't breathe without me and needed to go to dr. but wouldn't... Beware and if you see those signs stay away

[Fedelis]

Normally rage is a warning sign for abuse, but not always. It depends what kind of morals he's grown up with. When my wife and I fight I get really heated and sometimes she does get scared, but I've never laid a finger on her and never will. I have punched a hole in a wall and kicked a door in two tho, but I'd never touch her.

[NerdInDenial]

Lots of people get hot tempered in an argument, but he didn't lay a hand on you. So, it's not a sign. If he is controlling and you feel that you have to ask permission to do things, that's the time to run.

[hewlett_packard]

I can recommend to use penpaland dot com to find Korean friends

[J1nnishere]

why isn't anyone asking what you did to piss him off? this is why i dont like taking or giving advice on here and mainly treat it for entertainment purposes. if you cheat or did something that is really messed in his culture, its totally normal right?

rage is a sign that in his psyche, what you did was fucked up. so try to understand instead of lstiening to a bunch of retards with no promal education on the subject

[Anonymous]

I'm Korean and I've had several Korean boy friends and that's really not normal and yes, you should be worried and I think you have to break up with him especially if you are in Korea, we do not have a "proper" law that can protect women or children YET. So, before it is too late, please run as far as you can.

[RedThread78]

the fact that he is Asian or Korean has nothing to do with it. There are violent guys everywhere you should be worried about.

[J1nnishere]

its true, there's moer domestic abuse and murders in American and muslim countries than korea. she shouldve left tha part out

[MChinesewantfriend]

If you can't deal with this then break up with him otherwise have a deep talk with him or go to see a psychiatrist with him.

[cookie1993]

Seems he is far from the ideal guy. Dump him before he does anything to hurt you.

[J1nnishere]

and you say this because you know what? you really think getting angry in an argument is a red flag? shut your mouth kid

[stercor]

Run!

It can only get worse and more frequent.

[J1nnishere]

this is why the divorce rate is 52 percent, because of dumb ignorant people like you who dont kow how to understand or reslove issues but simply turn a blind eye and end things causing phsychological and emotinoal damage upon the person who is just being human.

[Anonymous]

The first sign of being abusive, indeed.

Run.

[J1nnishere]

i dont think I've ever seen a couple who never got mad or raged. shut your mouth

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, just talk to him