I am told I’m pretty, but no guy wants me or even shows signs of interest?

[Anonymous]

I’m told by many that I look identical to Troian Belisario, which I guess does not put me in the highest league, but means I’m also not repulsivly ugly. I am not particularly outgoing, rather shy, but once the ice is broken I’m easy going and don’t take myself seriously at all. Yet, literally no guy shows interest in me, even worse, I keep getting rejected and often have the impression some guys are almost “offended” when I show interest in them. I don’t get what I may be doing that is wrong or if there is something about me that makes me repulsive for people who barely know me.

[Jaumet]

It's awesome that people consider you to be pretty and am happy to know that accept it to be true as well. That means, that being pretty will catch a guy's eye and motivate him to show interest in you. So, at this point, there is something that is circumventing them from continuing on to show that they are indeed interested in you.

What is going on with you that is keeping this guys at bay? THink about it, are your friends that you hang with be the reason that guys stay clear of you? Here is a rather catch-22 situation, if guys are not used to seeing you with a boyfriend or male friends, it can make look unapproachable. Sadly, they may even think that you are not even interested in guys at all. That is a very stuck in the middle position to be in.

Have you thought of networking with your girlfriends to have them act as intermediators? Specifically, if she is dating someone who she can get to find out who is actually interested in you. The really cool part of this, is that we generally attracted to those who are also attracted to us. They could easily let you know that the one guy you have always liked, likes you as well. It's nice to have someone break the ice for us.

[MisteryMe]

A lot of men are afraid to approach a woman they believe are very physically attractive because they assume they're going to get rejected.

As for you getting rejected, you haven't provided enough information to draw any reasonable conclusions. It could be the way you come across or things you say. You might be misreading them because you expect to get rejected. You could be making them feel like you aren't interested.

If you are able, I think it would be a good idea to speak with a theraphist so they can give you some real insight and perspective.

[Anonymous]

I used to that always single, pretty girl when I was younger. I was compared to Ashley Banks from the Fresh Prince. lol. It made me feel insecure because, it was like, if I'm pretty then why am I ALWAYS single. So, I completely understand where you're coming from. Then I realized, it was because I was shy and reserved. And when you're pretty, shy, tall, and reserved that can come across as intimidating or "she's out of my league" or she will reject me so why bother. Also, I'm sure there's a lot of guys who are interested in you and because guys are always nice to you, you might just think they are being nice. (That's what I used to do - I never realized when guys hit on me unless they were very direct). If a guy is being super nice to you, he's probably interested and is testing the waters. But, being beautiful and shy you will need to step outside of your comfort zone a little to let guys know you're open, friendly, and available. I am in a relationship now. I messaged him first on Facebook. It's been three years. Best of luck to you!

[Daniela1982]

Haven't you asked this already? It's just about word for word of a previously asked question.

[Asker]

I doubt so, also I haven’t really been using this website in a couple years

[CuriousJC]

I don't see anything wrong with you. You're beautiful and if you were single I would take you in a heartbeat because believe me finding decent women is extremely hard. Finding a decent woman is like trying to find a $100 bill in the biggest city of Manhattan in New York City without any clues on how to find it. If I see a beautiful woman like you I'm going to tell myself that I struck gold and I should try my best to make sure the relationship last for a long time.

[hahahmm]

I'd need way more detail on how you behave in public and how you act around dudes. Also where you're meeting these guys and did they know anything about your life/past before meeting.

[Asker]

I’d say in public I behave in a polite, slightly shy manner. I’m not outgoing and loud, quite the opposite. Rejection comes from literally any corner: from guys I know socially as friends of friends, guys I meet at parties, guys I meet on tinder etc.

[hahahmm]

Maybe a relative of yours is a mobster/gangster and warned these guys not to even look at you.

[jshm2]

Usually this is because you do not give the right social cues or present yourself well.

Maybe try different places than your usual haunts and go with different friends.

[SunnySensei]

Miss, I don't know a lot about you to tell you much but I don't think you should be sad about things not working out for you.
Just be optimistic and be happy, your positivity will work wonders for you.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe its not the looks but your personality. Are you a self entiteled Karen? Do you think you only deserve 10/10 men? Do you like taking advantage of guys and their money? Are you rude or respectless to others? Are you too slutty?

[Asker]

Picky I guess

[Gwenhwyfar]

Try hitting on one of the guys who tells you you’re pretty

[Asker]

It’s mostly girls who tell me. Or my exes, who all however brutally dumped me - all telling me how great I was but that it could not work. So I guess there’s something about me which is wrong, I wish I knew what

[Gwenhwyfar]

Probably not your appearance if you have multiple exes

[paradiseonearth93]

What do you mean by brutally dumped you?

[boggboss]

Hard to say that u say u have multiple exs would show me its nothing to do with your looks tho

[Asker]

They all were awful stories though, I always ended up feeling they were with me only for the sex and never really liked me. Plus they weren’t long relationships

[boggboss]

Thats the thing tho if they got with u for the sex it wouldn't have been your looks that put men off

[Asker]

Yeah I’m not a monster but also not the girl they were proud to show off as their girlfriend. Both of them introduced me to their families as a “friend” (though we were sleeping in the same room when at the parents). But the word girlfriend was never used to make presentations

[boggboss]

Sounds like u always picked shitty men hun

[InferiorElegy]

Somehow I don't believe this post, I believe there are lots of guys swimming around you like sharks but you ignore them because they aren't the guys you want, every girl does this.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Looks alone isn't enough, people want a relatable partner, one who shares their interests, hobbies, views, goals, morals, lifestyle choices, etc.

[JohnE_62]

Fuck those Neanderthals opinions. I think you're pretty hot-looking. If you don't mind being with an older man of 63, I am single, and I will make you feel appreciated.

[EaterPeter]

I did not knew who that is so I looked her up and I think you look better. Where do you live city state country? Iam sure you would not be interested in me due to age difference between us.

[OddBeMe]

Attraction is 90% subconscious. So it’s arguable that we as individuals have nothing to do with being rejected. It’s all psychology.

[noohair]

That is a hard question, I think you are very attractive.
But I am considered unattractive so I got rejected my whole life.

[Anonymous]

How many of these guys have you asked out? If the answer is zero then you're not getting rejected hun. Closed mouths don't get fed.

[Simply321]

I find this odd, there has to be more to this story. Once in college I actually dated a women that fit this. In fact her shyness is what got me interested in her.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'd have to see a photo of you to make any sort of assessment.

[Tomsta]

Maybe you are comming off to strong or to 'awkward'

[whosnumber1]

send me your photo I'll give you an honest non-dickhead answer

[Surely]

Can’t judge someone that I do not know.
Must be something!

[Sogosa]

Well you can try me! I feel the same. I am shy but after overcoming many guts I have posted this comment