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My friend @Physics-Man is a good man and I would like to offer him some hope and encouragement with this post. He recently posted a question
How are nerdy, introverted, socially awkward, eccentric weirdos supposed to get a girlfriend or even a date in a scene not meant for us?
asking what a nerdy, introverted, socially awkward, eccentric weirdo is supposed to do about dating because he doesn't fit into the dating scene and he feels that there are no girls out there who would be interested in someone like him.

First, I don't necessarily agree with his assessment of himself but I've learned not to argue with people about such things. I think he is the kind of guy who is the salt of the earth, who will one day be an excellent husband and father, the kind of guy that a girl will be married to for 58 years until the day he or she dies, and they will make beautiful nerd babies together. But he obviously feels like a square peg in a round hole world and that is a heavy burden!

Anyway. . . do you consider yourself to be one of those nerdy, introverted, socially awkward, eccentric weirdo girls who would be interested in a guy who thinks the same of himself, or do you know of someone else who would date a guy who fits the nerd profile? Even if you are not the quintessential nerd girl, would you date such a guy? Where should my friend look for girls who potentially would be receptive to his romantic interest?

No one on this planet gets a say in how they're born, unfortunately for some. It's for those special few that I'm asking this question/poll.

They're conditions can make them seem alien and unpredictable thus making dating kind of hard for them, but I want to know your opinions on the matter and the reason behind it :)

been friends with her for years but she started acting differently towards me. In a group, she always wanted to be around me, talked about me to others, highlighted my positive traits, kept asking me questions, went into deep conversations with me, made sexual jokes, interrupted conversations i was having with others so she could talk to me, laughed at all my jokes, walked close to me with her arms touching mine. And I never noticed any of this.

Then months later, when I noticed and started liking her too, I started texting too much, making plans to see her alone too much without ever asking her on a proper date, highlighted my negative traits, was too agreeable and became her therapist by asking her questions and listening to all her problems.

She rarely texts me first, never initiates plans, she’s nervous and I can’t have moments of prolonged eye contact with her anymore. We just see each other once a week and I always make the plans.

I guess I got stupid once. I'm now nearly 25 and think differently. I'll share my story though and feel free to judge.

I was 19 at the time but felt beyond my years. In my mind she was the one. I've been withholding for several weeks what I wanted to tell her (practicing the script next to a mirror) till I couldn't hide it anymore. I expressed it all. I took the plunge and was willing to risk it all. There was no prior conversation. It was me asking if she saw herself getting old with me permanently, spend her life with me. She knew exactly what I was referring to.

We were dating for a year at the time and she didn't feel the same. I've dealt with rejections before but this one felt very different. It it was like a rejection of the highest level and I felt embarrassed and stupid. I felt like an idiot for taking the relationship that serious. I noticed she tried her best to not hurt me but all I heard was a long explained rejection, a detailed no.

Our relationship never recovered and we only dated for 3 more months, then called it quits. Nevertheless was it stupid asking a girl that question at that age? I never shared this to anyone except my best friend. It's usually girls that get serious first but I literally caught her by surprise.