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My father never helped me with anything, but he helps my sister with everything.

Short background story:
My parents divorced when I was 15 and I stayed with my mom. I was physically abused by my father growing up. My sister remained in my father's custody because she was a rebellious child and my mother apparently couldn't handle her. My mother received child support and divorce earnings but I did not get any of that money. My mother worked in retail, and is low income.
My father helped my sister with everything financially. He paid for a majority of her undergrad college tuition, paid for half her rent while she was in a master degree program, and paid for her car insurance. He still gives her money, but he gives me almost nothing.
I became estranged from my father for many years after he remarried and I confronted him about my abuse which he openly denied. I chose to put this behind me and began speaking with him again about a year ago.

I was hoping my father would offer to help me, after not having helped me for so many years. I am done with my undergrad and received no financial help from anyone paying for my degree. It is likely that my student debt is much bigger than my sisters. I have made it a point that I have a lot of student loans and am struggling to pay it, although I do have a good job now.

I guess I am jaded and hurt that he still does not offer to help me, or at least give me some money to pay back my schooling costs like he did for my sister. He texts me regularly asking how I am, I can't help but to feel like he is "pretending to care", by not offering to help me. I am tempted to tell him, if you are not interested in helping me, (which is what fathers are for) I am not interested in having a relationship with you.

Any thoughts or advice is appreciated.

I knew two woman who came from toxic families and both were terrible as friends. One girl would disrespect everybody she came in contact with and than complain about how she was suicidal because she did not have any friends and another was also disrespectful, but got away with it cause she was gorgeous and filthy rich, and people did not expect a popular girl like her, to be altruistic and sweet since they were usually spoiled with unearned attention from others and were semi corrupted through it. It seems abused children become dysfunctional adults that do not know how to have healthy relationships with people.