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My mom lately keeps questioning me all the time - where I go, whom I really see, etc... has even gone as far as threatening me to kick me out of the house and to “stay wherever it is that I stay “ when I’m not home...

she passionatley hates my ex boyfriend for no good reason... she thinks the guy abused me which isn’t true just because this other girl messaged her saying bad stuff about the guy which were not true at all... she also went as far as prohibiting me from leaving the house for 2 while months cuz she didn’t want me going to see him

so due to all this I’ve been seeing him in secret and have had no choice but to tell her that I have been seeing an old friend of mine whom she knows from years ago - but I’m really seeing my ex because me and him still love each other...

my mom was the cause of us breaking up - she was saying bad stuff to him that I’m slow and can’t take care of myself and that I can’t handle finances, etc... she was saying things to get him to change mind about me and she caused us to fight and break up at one point...

so what’s my moms problem and why should I do?

This one is a bit long but you can skip to the second paragraph!

Recently I’ve become acquainted with a guy who I thought was pretty cool. At first he was really sweet to me and seemed respectful enough though, like most men, he decided to make the topics of most of our conversations sexual. I never felt as if he was using me or being disrespectful until recently. Before then, it was just decent conversation.

He has never been very careful with his words or actions, and recently has done things that I find myself having trouble forgetting. He mistreats me in a way I’ve never experienced. He’s called me names and said disgusting things about me, then expects me to forgive and forget as soon as he delivers me a halfass apology. I feel he’s always toying with my emotions and blaming me for the times when the energy between us isn’t positive. I’ve tried explaining my perspective to him many times and asking him to treat me better, but I’ve made little progress. I have so many doubts about him at this point, simply based on his known actions. I wouldn’t be surprised if he were talking to other women or disrespecting me in a way I don’t yet know about.

why do you think some men behave this way? I refuse to think that men are bad communicators or simply childish in general. There’s too much evidence that goes against that.

my take on it is that he somehow gets off on being able to control my emotions because they are one of the few things in life that he has control over. I think maybe in his mind it makes him powerful to shit on me and make me sad and then find a way to keep me around each time he does. I’m truly unsure. All I know is that it’s been hell for me and I can’t continue to speak to this person without some change or at least some perspective on what’s going on. I don’t know why I’ve let it carry on for so long. In many ways I feel sorry for him.

what do you think?

thanks! 💖